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| Author: | startinglife [ Wed Jul 04, 2012 9:06 am ] |
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I've been working as a server in a bar for 2 months and I'm interested in my coworker. This girl is a 10 and gets hit on by 90% of guys who come in. When I first started working there, she gave me a couple of IOIs and showed a bit of interest. I couldn't go cavemen because we work together and couldn't risk making an awkward environment so I never made any moves except some playful flirting. I said we should hit up the city and she was like what? noo not me go with someone else... which was a pretty shocking response. I haven't asked her out since. She gets so much attention from guys, I thought I would play it cool and not be one of the guys who keep telling her she's beautiful, etc. I get told I'm a good looking guy all the time while I work there too. Now that 2 months has gone by, I can definitely feel the difference in our interactions. I probably waited too long huh? I feel like we both try to play it cool and not show interest towards each other...that's the vibe I get but who knows, I suck as this. I'm a good looking guy, funny, cool, and all, but I can't game for shit. I never know what to talk about with this girl when we are working. It's always about surface stuff that doesn't really matter. Is there something I can do? Talk about deep stuff? Start flirting with girl customers? |
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| Author: | green_mo [ Wed Jul 04, 2012 9:36 am ] |
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Don't bother with this girl, if the attraction was there, the girl will be yours. The girl know it in the moment when she see you. Go after another girl, it's planty other girls on the planet  .And practice a lot, you learn something new in this interaction. Persistence is the answer... cheers |
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| Author: | startinglife [ Wed Jul 04, 2012 5:51 pm ] |
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I appreciate the advice but I want advice on how to start gaming this girl. What should our conversations be about, how do I start getting her attention, etc. |
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| Author: | Musgroze [ Sat Jul 21, 2012 6:13 pm ] |
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Quote: I appreciate the advice but I want advice on how to start gaming this girl. What should our conversations be about, how do I start getting her attention, etc.
Bro - the best thing you can do is to be direct here.Obviously she knows she's hot. Women are incredibly intuitive, she probably knows you want her. Don't be the typical guy here. Go straight up to her and say - listen I'm tired of pretending that you don't want me. Dinner tonight. Unless she says "no i do not want to go to dinner with you" you should just ignore what she says and tell her what YOU want to do. you chose her. not the other way around. |
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| Author: | TheFreshPrince [ Sat Jul 21, 2012 6:36 pm ] |
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A warning: Many guys say the whole "don't shit where you eat" thing, and don't listen to it. Listen to it. I didn't used to, but let me tell you, I now know much better than to date girls I work with. Too many issues. What is much better is to friend-zone her, then date her friends. (Though even this can have problems...) You need to be very careful either way, but, honestly, this is one of the lesser issues you can run into, so I will assume for the sake of the post that this girl really is a dime, and perfect in all respects: If she's getting hit on all the time, she really doesn't want another guy coming on to her, especially one she feels she can't "run from" since you work with her. You need to make her come to you. 1. Flirt with customers. Show you have a sweet and sexy side. Flirt with teenagers, hot women, old grannies, and be super nice to and indulge little kids. Flirting with super old ladies comes HIGHLY recommended. Try it, it's fun. 2. Talk her up, almost like you're friend zoning her. Feel free to flirt, but keep it light. Don't ask her out, don't push anything. As far as getting her attention, if she's interested, she'll notice how you interact with customers. If she's not interested, you didn't have it to begin with. Again, I know this is not what you want to hear, but going with a girl you work with can be fun, but it's also dangerous. Don't push anything, or work will get real weird, real fast. This is simply my experience and perspective, but while what Musgroze says above is fine for a general encounter, you cannot be so direct in such sensitive situations. Unless you're planning on leaving your job in a week. |
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