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Author:  Houston.fusho [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 2:58 am ]
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Anyone feel a difference when talking to a hottie vs talking to a average looking girl?

I noticed this today while at work (convenience store). I've been specifically working on my tonality since theres no way I can get physical with girl without being creepy. Anyone that walks into my store I make sure to use a loud, clear, commanding voice. Everything was going good. I felt like I improved...that is until this hot little blonde came in. All of a sudden I went into chode mode. I couldn't get myself to use that alpha voice at all. I started mumbling, mixing up words. I felt like an idiot. We talked for a little bit but it wasn't the way I wanted it to go. Definitely a learning a experience.

Does anyone else have this issue or is it just me??
Author:  CaptainJackHarkness [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 3:06 am ]
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Hey,

It happens. Due to your mood of the day, your experience with them. Only option is to be free from the outcome and say fuck it. I'm 5'11 and bedded a 6'3 model and if you saw how I handled her physically...you would have been like "holy shit, that guy is not intimidated at all"

Now truthfully, before she came into the party I was even having a problem being in-state with AVERAGE chicks. Got blown out 5 times. Then when she came, DAMNNN it was worth it. First girl I fucked without any condom.
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 3:15 am ]
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i modulate the frame by imagining myself relentlessly pounding them from behind and blasting my load all over their ass.

mix that with a little bit of GENUINE not-giving-a-fuck and all anxiety fades.
Author:  CaptainJackHarkness [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 3:25 am ]
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Yea....in truth...having sex is way more hard than a simple "hello or...hiii =)"

Although I'll be honest...I don't imagine myself POUNDING THEIR ASS .....because regardless..it's a good looking woman and even though I don't truly give a fuck...it's hard to be in your head imagining pounding them AND thinking of things to say.
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 3:28 am ]
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Yea....in truth...having sex is way more hard than a simple "hello or...hiii =)"

Although I'll be honest...I don't imagine myself POUNDING THEIR ASS .....because regardless..it's a good looking woman and even though I don't truly give a fuck...it's hard to be in your head imagining pounding them AND thinking of things to say.
lol, true.

i don't imagine it the ENTIRE time.

just for a brief second.

just knowing that i could dominate that shit and make her beg for more eases my anxiety.

because recognizes that truth, even for an instant, in that moment corrects my frame.
Author:  EddieFews [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 3:45 am ]
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It's only because you feel like more attractive women add more value to you're then than regular chicks do. When in fact they don't add any more value then less attractive girls do. Through experience being with different women I have learned that most hot girls are LOSERS that were just born with attractive features. I mean losers man, like blan personalities and weird fucked up mentalities. When you learn to love and appreciate all women equally, it won't matter what they look like, you will maintain you're self.

For every sexy girl you've ever seen, there is a guy that is tired of fucking her, and the 10's get boring a lot faster than the 8's. ;)
Author:  MadTown Mayhem [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 5:15 am ]
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You're classifying the hotties into an entirely different category than you are the average chicks. The hotties are probably immediately put in the "potential sex partner" group and the average girls are in the "good to practice game on" category. Because they are in different categories, you treat them differently.

You don't feel you are in the same class or have equal or higher value than the hotties, so your ego is getting in the way to protect you from perceived dangers of rejection.

You're also focused on obtaining the hotties approval, which is a bad way to start any conversation.

I had the same problems until I took the "talk to everyone" approach that is a common part of inner game development. After a couple weeks of daily practice I no longer categorized people and simply talked to everyone. It re-directed my focus and conversations starting flowing much more naturally, and with much more interest from the other side. I totally lost the fear of saying something stupid. It also changed my inner dialog when seeing a hottie, from "Oh sh*t what do I say?" to "Let's have some fun talking to this girl." I opened my first HB10 after 2-3 weeks of this approach and it worked very well.
Author:  Houston.fusho [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 12:50 pm ]
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Great advice from all of yall.
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You're classifying the hotties into an entirely different category than you are the average chicks. The hotties are probably immediately put in the "potential sex partner" group and the average girls are in the "good to practice game on" category. Because they are in different categories, you treat them differently.
I guess its because I don't have enough reference experience with the hotties. I've hooked up with below average - average chicks, so I feel confident with them. Gotta break through this sticking point though.

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I had the same problems until I took the "talk to everyone" approach that is a common part of inner game development. After a couple weeks of daily practice I no longer categorized people and simply talked to everyone. It re-directed my focus and conversations starting flowing much more naturally, and with much more interest from the other side. I totally lost the fear of saying something stupid. It also changed my inner dialog when seeing a hottie, from "Oh sh*t what do I say?" to "Let's have some fun talking to this girl." I opened my first HB10 after 2-3 weeks of this approach and it worked very well.
I'm doing this while at work. Most the females that come in are below average - average. Once in a while I get a hottie. I will talk to everyone.
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For every sexy girl you've ever seen, there is a guy that is tired of fucking her, and the 10's get boring a lot faster than the 8's.
Word.

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Only option is to be free from the outcome and say fuck it
So much easier to do when on any type of mind altering substances. Any tips on doing this sober?
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