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Author:  robpua48 [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 2:16 am ]
Post subject:  EX gf what would you do?
Ok, well here goes...

My ex and I broke up about a month and a half ago. At first I was really upset about this and phoned her a bunch of times, but then I get on the right track to getting her back (she broke up with me then I agreed to the breakup to regain social power status back.) After I agreed to this break up she started texting me like she missed me, and I was constantly giving in to this and texting her all AFC and lots of it. So I regained frame by not talking to her for a few days at a time, then one day I had been at school hitting up some girls because I was single. So these girls start posting stuff on my facebook wall like saying we need to hang out, the typical stuff that shows a girl is interested in you.

Reminder this is all about a month and a bit ago....Fast forward to the important stuff, so I initiated texting with my ex about 1 day after these things were posted on my wall, and so she blatantly asked me, "so you're over me then huh? :P" I responded with "just keeping my options open :P" and "I still like you a bit tho ;)" it was supposed to be sort of playful and show that I still liked her. She went into total rage jealousy mode and said she never wanted to talk to me again and all that bs.

From here I went into total AFC mode, I phoned her, I texted her I did everything to try and get her back. I phoned her a bunch of times, we were getting all angry at each other and stuff like this. It was really awful, it got to a point where she said she was going to block my number...

I talked to EddieFews about what he would have done yesterday as I got some counselling from him, he said he would have held the frame that I was indeed keeping my options open as the roles would have reversed, I would have been the one telling her that I don't want to be with her.

I have gone a month with no contact, she was my first love so I feel like this is worth fighting for. She was totally 100% attracted to me, (I am really attractive :P just saying :D) but I realize that doesn't mean anything unless you can spit game and be confident.

So I feel like it is time to talk to her, and possibly see her this weekend at a party. I just don't know how I should act at the party, and if I should text her before hand to make sure she shows up and just try and get her thinking about me.
Author:  Pickwick [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 2:34 am ]
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I wouldn't text her before the party. You want to have HER wanting to be with you more than you want to be with her. Show her that you're nonchalant about her. Acknowledge her at the party and have a casual conversation with her. Show her the confident and charming guy you are. She'll start to drop the interest if she knows that she can have you easily if she wants.
Author:  robpua48 [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 2:40 am ]
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I wouldn't text her before the party. You want to have HER wanting to be with you more than you want to be with her. Show her that you're nonchalant about her. Acknowledge her at the party and have a casual conversation with her. Show her the confident and charming guy you are. She'll start to drop the interest if she knows that she can have you easily if she wants.
Ok, I agree, but while @ the party should I be out dancing with other girls and stuff like this in front of her or stay rather reserved? I can definently be the centre of attention at this party as my social value will be extremely high at this point, so should I just act like I don't care and do whatever I want?
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 3:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: EX gf what would you do?
your problem started at the bold text
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Ok, well here goes...

My ex and I broke up about a month and a half ago. At first I was really upset about this and phoned her a bunch of times, but then I get on the right track to getting her back (she broke up with me then I agreed to the breakup to regain social power status back.) After I agreed to this break up she started texting me like she missed me, and I was constantly giving in to this and texting her all AFC and lots of it. So I regained frame by not talking to her for a few days at a time, then one day I had been at school hitting up some girls because I was single. So these girls start posting stuff on my facebook wall like saying we need to hang out, the typical stuff that shows a girl is interested in you.

Reminder this is all about a month and a bit ago....Fast forward to the important stuff, so I initiated texting with my ex about 1 day after these things were posted on my wall, and so she blatantly asked me, "so you're over me then huh? :P" I responded with "just keeping my options open :P" and "I still like you a bit tho ;)" it was supposed to be sort of playful and show that I still liked her. She went into total rage jealousy mode and said she never wanted to talk to me again and all that bs.

From here I went into total AFC mode, I phoned her, I texted her I did everything to try and get her back. I phoned her a bunch of times, we were getting all angry at each other and stuff like this. It was really awful, it got to a point where she said she was going to block my number...

I talked to EddieFews about what he would have done yesterday as I got some counselling from him, he said he would have held the frame that I was indeed keeping my options open as the roles would have reversed, I would have been the one telling her that I don't want to be with her.

I have gone a month with no contact, she was my first love so I feel like this is worth fighting for. She was totally 100% attracted to me, (I am really attractive :P just saying :D) but I realize that doesn't mean anything unless you can spit game and be confident.

So I feel like it is time to talk to her, and possibly see her this weekend at a party. I just don't know how I should act at the party, and if I should text her before hand to make sure she shows up and just try and get her thinking about me.
of all the girls to game...the one that dumped you?
Author:  robpua48 [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 3:16 am ]
Post subject:  Re: EX gf what would you do?
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your problem started at the bold text
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Ok, well here goes...

My ex and I broke up about a month and a half ago. At first I was really upset about this and phoned her a bunch of times, but then I get on the right track to getting her back (she broke up with me then I agreed to the breakup to regain social power status back.) After I agreed to this break up she started texting me like she missed me, and I was constantly giving in to this and texting her all AFC and lots of it. So I regained frame by not talking to her for a few days at a time, then one day I had been at school hitting up some girls because I was single. So these girls start posting stuff on my facebook wall like saying we need to hang out, the typical stuff that shows a girl is interested in you.

Reminder this is all about a month and a bit ago....Fast forward to the important stuff, so I initiated texting with my ex about 1 day after these things were posted on my wall, and so she blatantly asked me, "so you're over me then huh? :P" I responded with "just keeping my options open :P" and "I still like you a bit tho ;)" it was supposed to be sort of playful and show that I still liked her. She went into total rage jealousy mode and said she never wanted to talk to me again and all that bs.

From here I went into total AFC mode, I phoned her, I texted her I did everything to try and get her back. I phoned her a bunch of times, we were getting all angry at each other and stuff like this. It was really awful, it got to a point where she said she was going to block my number...

I talked to EddieFews about what he would have done yesterday as I got some counselling from him, he said he would have held the frame that I was indeed keeping my options open as the roles would have reversed, I would have been the one telling her that I don't want to be with her.

I have gone a month with no contact, she was my first love so I feel like this is worth fighting for. She was totally 100% attracted to me, (I am really attractive :P just saying :D) but I realize that doesn't mean anything unless you can spit game and be confident.

So I feel like it is time to talk to her, and possibly see her this weekend at a party. I just don't know how I should act at the party, and if I should text her before hand to make sure she shows up and just try and get her thinking about me.
of all the girls to game...the one that dumped you?
Maybe I phrased it wrong, on the right track to us being together. I am not looking for negative answers at the moment, my frame has changed a lot.... I am just wondering on how I should act and approach her when I see her.

I am sort of looking to get her back because I feel it's worth it, but if it doesn't happen I got 3 other girls on the go right now. I just feel this one is special as she was my first girl.
Author:  Pickwick [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 3:35 am ]
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I wouldn't text her before the party. You want to have HER wanting to be with you more than you want to be with her. Show her that you're nonchalant about her. Acknowledge her at the party and have a casual conversation with her. Show her the confident and charming guy you are. She'll start to drop the interest if she knows that she can have you easily if she wants.
Ok, I agree, but while @ the party should I be out dancing with other girls and stuff like this in front of her or stay rather reserved? I can definently be the centre of attention at this party as my social value will be extremely high at this point, so should I just act like I don't care and do whatever I want?

You want to be the center of attention but in a good way. Don't be a clown looking for it, but if you're appealing to everyone, that's only a plus. That's what we all strive for, right?

It's up to you about dancing with other girls. You don't want to push it to the point where she can see that you're just trying to get her jealous or to the point where she just gets jealous and goes fucks somebody. Just have fun. You're single. You wanna casually show her that you're the best option there. Don't do anything for her but only for yourself. If to have fun you have to dance with other girls, dance with other girls.
Author:  A_Steal [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 5:24 am ]
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Pickwick is right. Everything you do needs to be for you, because I hate to say this, but rarely does getting back together happen/work out. It's a cold hard fact of life. My first love was a girl named Ashley. To this day I still consider her probably the most beautiful girl I ever dated. Everyone I know would disagree, I have had some hotties, but that was my first love so that's how I see her. A small part of me will always love her too. I have grown enough over the years, haven't spoken with her in 5 of them, to know that I will never be with her again though. That's just how it is. It hurts to be told that, especially at first, but that is most likely how this is gonna go. So live your life for you my friend. If you do you will meet many wonderful and beautiful women worthy of your time and attention just as she has been.
Author:  Mago812 [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 5:43 am ]
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Aww, the exes :)

Now you'll probably disregard what I'm about to say but try to let it go. The fact that she was your first love makes it all worse.

When I look back I had the same problem with my first one. You think it's something special and that she's the most worthy/beautiful/.../ girl in the world. And you start running in circles. With my "first" ex I had the same situation, she broke up with me and didn't speak with me for like two months althow we run at each other almost every day. After two months she already had a boyfriend, but she started acting very interested in me and we have had our moments.

Long story short, we're not together today. I've had other girls, hotter and better. But when I look back on it, yea, she was the first and I fought for it. But it was pointless, I just lost a few months I could be hanging out with other girls. If she dumps you, she will dump her again. But the second time will probably be worse for you.
Author:  A_Steal [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 6:06 am ]
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Aww, the exes :)

Now you'll probably disregard what I'm about to say but try to let it go. The fact that she was your first love makes it all worse.

When I look back I had the same problem with my first one. You think it's something special and that she's the most worthy/beautiful/.../ girl in the world. And you start running in circles. With my "first" ex I had the same situation, she broke up with me and didn't speak with me for like two months althow we run at each other almost every day. After two months she already had a boyfriend, but she started acting very interested in me and we have had our moments.

Long story short, we're not together today. I've had other girls, hotter and better. But when I look back on it, yea, she was the first and I fought for it. But it was pointless, I just lost a few months I could be hanging out with other girls. If she dumps you, she will dump her again. But the second time will probably be worse for you.
Spot on. My first love and I were together multiple times. It hurt worse breaking up each time because you have to put more and more effort into getting her back each time. It really isn't worth it.
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