PUA Forum :: Help with relationship that went to fast

Need some help here

was witha girl for a bit, we dated, it went super fast

we decided to call it off cuz of how fast it was ,

we didnt talk for a week.

then hung out , cuddled a bit n stuff

then it happened agian, but today when i went over jst felt different the way she was acting n stuff she was doing wasnt cuddling back, when we went out n in public was being short with me, not mean but just could tell sometihng was up ..

feel like mihgt go to friends zone or either its over?/ what can i do here ??

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Find out what you want from her? (relationship/fwb) then find out what she wants as well. Then act accordingly.

If you need to ask "how" I'm doubting you will make this happen for you. I say keep having sex with her and don't push the relationship angle. If she confronts you, just say its good fun and keep escalating. Note since you even had to ask, failure is ganna be a major theme until you do this enough times.

What you are talking about is "Freezing her out"

I don't think she cares enough for you. In fact she may be thankful you aren't talking to her. Freezing out only works guy or girl if he/she wants to see you again or thinks you two had something. If she said it went too fast, then you giving space won't do shit.

I'd say moving on is your best bet. Life's too short to be wasting on someone and trying to convince them to like you.

These guys are right. Sometimes you just gotta say screw it and move on. I have come to the forums many times seeking ways to fix things that didn't work, but you can't make someone work with you. Sometimes it just isn't there. Don't beat yourself up over it. There are plenty of beautiful women in the world to be admired and enjoyed. Who knows, she may come back later wanting some. I have a similar old flame I'm working on that with right now. Don't count on it. I have learned over the last few years that if you use every other part of your life to make you happy instead of women you will be a lot better off. You can't control women. They are all insane. Just a fact of life.

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over the last few days iv come to realize i cant make her like me or control what se does even tho id love to make her more attracted to me.. id like to improve my life as mucb as possible, and this is a set of skills id love to have ..

there seems like there is a lot to intake.. there is a lot of advice out there n its hard to start.. im just builidng up my confidence again.. if she comes back great if not oh well i dont wanna be sitting here bummed out over here..

what r some basic things i should work on? that will help me get started

cheers

Author:	mancity1 [ Mon Jun 25, 2012 10:42 pm ]
Post subject:	Help with relationship that went to fast
Need some help here was witha girl for a bit, we dated, it went super fast we decided to call it off cuz of how fast it was , we didnt talk for a week. then hung out , cuddled a bit n stuff then it happened agian, but today when i went over jst felt different the way she was acting n stuff she was doing wasnt cuddling back, when we went out n in public was being short with me, not mean but just could tell sometihng was up .. feel like mihgt go to friends zone or either its over?/ what can i do here ??

Author:	JimD [ Mon Jun 25, 2012 11:57 pm ]
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Quote: Need some help here was witha girl for a bit, we dated, it went super fast we decided to call it off cuz of how fast it was , we didnt talk for a week. then hung out , cuddled a bit n stuff then it happened agian, but today when i went over jst felt different the way she was acting n stuff she was doing wasnt cuddling back, when we went out n in public was being short with me, not mean but just could tell sometihng was up .. feel like mihgt go to friends zone or either its over?/ what can i do here ?? Find out what you want from her? (relationship/fwb) then find out what she wants as well. Then act accordingly.

Author:	mancity1 [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 12:08 am ]
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Quote: Quote: Need some help here was witha girl for a bit, we dated, it went super fast we decided to call it off cuz of how fast it was , we didnt talk for a week. then hung out , cuddled a bit n stuff then it happened agian, but today when i went over jst felt different the way she was acting n stuff she was doing wasnt cuddling back, when we went out n in public was being short with me, not mean but just could tell sometihng was up .. feel like mihgt go to friends zone or either its over?/ what can i do here ?? Find out what you want from her? (relationship/fwb) then find out what she wants as well. Then act accordingly. id like the have a relationship with her but she told me it moved fast feel like its a rebound thing for her just she came over we cuddled acted like normal how can i make it into fwb if this is the case?

Author:	CaptainJackHarkness [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 12:34 am ]
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If you need to ask "how" I'm doubting you will make this happen for you. I say keep having sex with her and don't push the relationship angle. If she confronts you, just say its good fun and keep escalating. Note since you even had to ask, failure is ganna be a major theme until you do this enough times.

Author:	mancity1 [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 1:01 am ]
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Quote: If you need to ask "how" I'm doubting you will make this happen for you. I say keep having sex with her and don't push the relationship angle. If she confronts you, just say its good fun and keep escalating. Note since you even had to ask, failure is ganna be a major theme until you do this enough times. very true feel like her attraction for me instantly disappeared hopefully i can pull it off where we are both having sex been a week since we did ... bad situation.. what do u think if i gave her space?? didnt really make too much contact with her>

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Author:	mancity1 [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 1:07 am ]
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Quote: What you are talking about is "Freezing her out" I don't think she cares enough for you. In fact she may be thankful you aren't talking to her. Freezing out only works guy or girl if he/she wants to see you again or thinks you two had something. If she said it went too fast, then you giving space won't do shit. ok thanks for the advice ,, not really sure what i should do,, at the point were not really having sex, hmm def different each time we hang out .. just act like nothings up? n try to move on then

Author:	robpua48 [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 2:27 am ]
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Quote: I'd say moving on is your best bet. Life's too short to be wasting on someone and trying to convince them to like you. CaptainJack a lot of the stuff that you say I hate because it is so blunt. But you know what, you tell it how it is, you make sense without any bullshit but sometimes you're tooo harsh but its for the best

Author:	agentprovocateur [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 2:32 am ]
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Quote: Need some help here was witha girl for a bit, we dated, it went super fast we decided to call it off cuz of how fast it was , we didnt talk for a week. then hung out , cuddled a bit n stuff then it happened agian, but today when i went over jst felt different the way she was acting n stuff she was doing wasnt cuddling back, when we went out n in public was being short with me, not mean but just could tell sometihng was up .. feel like mihgt go to friends zone or either its over?/ what can i do here ?? Makes no sense. Things "moved fast" is code for her not being comfortable/sure of things with you. Things can move as fast as they need to, if both parties r enjoying it it wouldn't matter.

Author:	mancity1 [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 3:58 am ]
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harsh but true... convincing someone to like u just doesnt work. wish i was better with my emotions...

Author:	mancity1 [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 4:55 am ]
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thanks guys feel better, at least u all speak the truth, so theres a new girl that started at work nice sexy looking aussie, spoke to her a few times, id like to pick her up , n move on id like to get this pick up stuff down right see if i can work something on her!!!! any advice..lol, not much competition at work to be honest, pretty isolated area, which makes it a bit easier

Author:	A_Steal [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 5:12 am ]
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These guys are right. Sometimes you just gotta say screw it and move on. I have come to the forums many times seeking ways to fix things that didn't work, but you can't make someone work with you. Sometimes it just isn't there. Don't beat yourself up over it. There are plenty of beautiful women in the world to be admired and enjoyed. Who knows, she may come back later wanting some. I have a similar old flame I'm working on that with right now. Don't count on it. I have learned over the last few years that if you use every other part of your life to make you happy instead of women you will be a lot better off. You can't control women. They are all insane. Just a fact of life.

Author:	mancity1 [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 5:17 am ]
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Quote: These guys are right. Sometimes you just gotta say screw it and move on. I have come to the forums many times seeking ways to fix things that didn't work, but you can't make someone work with you. Sometimes it just isn't there. Don't beat yourself up over it. There are plenty of beautiful women in the world to be admired and enjoyed. Who knows, she may come back later wanting some. I have a similar old flame I'm working on that with right now. Don't count on it. I have learned over the last few years that if you use every other part of your life to make you happy instead of women you will be a lot better off. You can't control women. They are all insane. Just a fact of life. over the last few days iv come to realize i cant make her like me or control what se does even tho id love to make her more attracted to me.. id like to improve my life as mucb as possible, and this is a set of skills id love to have .. there seems like there is a lot to intake.. there is a lot of advice out there n its hard to start.. im just builidng up my confidence again.. if she comes back great if not oh well i dont wanna be sitting here bummed out over here.. what r some basic things i should work on? that will help me get started cheers

Author:	A_Steal [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 5:32 am ]
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Quote: Quote: These guys are right. Sometimes you just gotta say screw it and move on. I have come to the forums many times seeking ways to fix things that didn't work, but you can't make someone work with you. Sometimes it just isn't there. Don't beat yourself up over it. There are plenty of beautiful women in the world to be admired and enjoyed. Who knows, she may come back later wanting some. I have a similar old flame I'm working on that with right now. Don't count on it. I have learned over the last few years that if you use every other part of your life to make you happy instead of women you will be a lot better off. You can't control women. They are all insane. Just a fact of life. over the last few days iv come to realize i cant make her like me or control what se does even tho id love to make her more attracted to me.. id like to improve my life as mucb as possible, and this is a set of skills id love to have .. there seems like there is a lot to intake.. there is a lot of advice out there n its hard to start.. im just builidng up my confidence again.. if she comes back great if not oh well i dont wanna be sitting here bummed out over here.. what r some basic things i should work on? that will help me get started cheers Honestly this is overwhelming because there are so many methods out there to choose from. The truth is that you don't need to know them all. In fact in a perfect world you wouldn't need to learn any method. The cookie cutter method stuff is good for getting you confident enough to stand on your own. Think about it like T-ball vs base ball. You learn to hit off the T so you cal learn your swing before you start having the ball thrown at you. Almost any method will do because it's simply to get you at there and going. Once you have enough confidence you will be able to talk to girls and game them just fine without any sort of method. My best advice is start doing things that bring you up. Join the gym. Not to be more physically attractive to women, but to feel better about yourself. Things like that.

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