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Author:  bartm [ Mon Jun 25, 2012 4:39 am ]
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Hi guys

I have to make a new thread because it is a new question.


so a few days ago, the milf texted me saying something about her daughter and i said "oh, I didnt know you had a daughter" and today she brought her over, and her son. they were buying someting from me. I have known them for 2 years. but never made a move.
Now she texted me saying "now you have seen my whole family"
then I said "yeah, you have a nice family. your husband or boyfriend is a lucky bastard, by the way."

then after 15 minutes, she texts, saying: "Hahahhh, he is a bastard, but he is my exhusband"

what do i do, guys? I am thinking: "he is an ignorant bastard for leaving a milf like yourself" is that good? or maybe I could say "well I am also single so..." but thats too boring. or maybe "oh, ex? then i guess it will be a twosome and not a threesome." but thats too much. or maybe i could say "well then i guess i am the lucky bastard" or maybe just "lets meet up some time"
Author:  DUbL-eS [ Mon Jun 25, 2012 5:14 am ]
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I like the 2some instead of 3some, and the "oh well I guess I am the lucky bastard" because they are both moving you in the right direction.

If I think of something good I'll post it.
Author:  bartm [ Mon Jun 25, 2012 8:24 am ]
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I like the 2some instead of 3some, and the "oh well I guess I am the lucky bastard" because they are both moving you in the right direction.

If I think of something good I'll post it.
I went with the 2some instead of 3some and she responded "huh? 3some? how did we get there?"
she is not getting my point, I need to save myself before this gets any worse, please tell me how.
Author:  LD [ Mon Jun 25, 2012 9:35 am ]
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hey mate

the text was a mistake. From what i remember of the other thread and what you are saying now, you were never sexual or insinuatingly sexual. Which is on itself ok. And all of a sudden, kablamo, there you are. Sexual, wrapped in a joke. This is awkward, hence why she asked: "how did we get there?". The joke is not congruent with the entire interaction and also not with the image she has of you.

What you needed to do was, instead of the texting, tell her face to face: "hey, i want to get to know you better, lets go for a coffee when i am ready with my work." or something like that, someplace you can talk.

But you didnt. I think, to solve this, perhaps a bit of straightforwardness would be in place. Now you can text her, because she might not be coming back for some time :) and i would text something like this:

"Hey, i am sorry. the threesome thing was a joke. A bad one it seems. What i really would like is to get to know you better. i think you are quite attractive and i want to learn more about you."

Something like that. A 'no' you have, a 'yes' you can get. What you sent her was a bit awkward, but IMO this is not a total loss. I think you still have a shot. If you stop hiding.

good luck!
Author:  Pokee [ Mon Jun 25, 2012 10:57 am ]
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"Drinking and texting = poorly calibrated innuendos. Lol! Now you've seen my other side."
Author:  Sergio Maximus [ Mon Jun 25, 2012 11:12 am ]
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I would Say Something that makes him look low value and you high value.

Like

"Yea, men like that ain't real men, there bastards. Don't worry, you already know I'm much better then that."

This build trust and attraction :P 8)
Author:  bartm [ Mon Jun 25, 2012 5:34 pm ]
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hey mate

the text was a mistake. From what i remember of the other thread and what you are saying now, you were never sexual or insinuatingly sexual. Which is on itself ok. And all of a sudden, kablamo, there you are. Sexual, wrapped in a joke. This is awkward, hence why she asked: "how did we get there?". The joke is not congruent with the entire interaction and also not with the image she has of you.

What you needed to do was, instead of the texting, tell her face to face: "hey, i want to get to know you better, lets go for a coffee when i am ready with my work." or something like that, someplace you can talk.

But you didnt. I think, to solve this, perhaps a bit of straightforwardness would be in place. Now you can text her, because she might not be coming back for some time :) and i would text something like this:

"Hey, i am sorry. the threesome thing was a joke. A bad one it seems. What i really would like is to get to know you better. i think you are quite attractive and i want to learn more about you."

Something like that. A 'no' you have, a 'yes' you can get. What you sent her was a bit awkward, but IMO this is not a total loss. I think you still have a shot. If you stop hiding.

good luck!
Hi. I agree with you. I did not think about that but now I understand that it is weird to her that all this time I am this non-sexual guy and then suddenly BAM...
so after she said "how did we get there" I said "I am just saying random things to be funny" and then she says "hahaha you are so silly, thanks for the games, my son loves them" and i said "ok, I am glad to hear that."
what do I do now?
Author:  Pokee [ Mon Jun 25, 2012 5:46 pm ]
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"That's the sound of her pussy slamming shut." -Vin DiCarlo

She's got you in the friendzone. Find some threads here that discuss fz issues. Game other girls, bring them to your place and build up some preselection and let the milf see the sexual side of you. Then try again later on with her.

If you want something, you have to take it or at least let her know you want something.
Author:  LD [ Mon Jun 25, 2012 9:34 pm ]
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"That's the sound of her pussy slamming shut." -Vin DiCarlo

She's got you in the friendzone. Find some threads here that discuss fz issues. Game other girls, bring them to your place and build up some preselection and let the milf see the sexual side of you. Then try again later on with her.

If you want something, you have to take it or at least let her know you want something.
Hey.

I dont fully agree here. Although this is good advice, i don't think he is friendzoned. I think this can be fixed with showing some balls (dont take this literally though! In other words, dont go showing her your balls yet!).

I think that if you go with the:" i think you are attractive/sexy/smoking hot and i want to get to know you better" still has a lot of chance of success. But its up to bartm what to do. I cannot guarantee anything though.


good luck!
Author:  bartm [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 5:38 am ]
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Hi guys
so I want to do something outrageous, or show balls the next time i see her.
what do I say?
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