PUA Forum :: How did you approach your thirties?

I was always really confident with women and most of my game was natural.
Upto the age of about 29 i looked real young and i think that gave me confidence for the girls i liked which were 23 +
Since hitting 30 im starting to look and feel older and adapting my approach because of this. I dont really want to be the jokey, overtly flirty guy. I think you can get away with that at 25 but you have to have more mascuinity and show power as you get older. Girls dont want a 30 yr old who acts and dresses like a 20 yr old.

I started dressing better, more mature and when its on , its on but its been hard keeping up my game as i LOVED the boyish cheeky stuff, which i still do, but later on in the interaction. So i have adapted things.
How did everyone on here feel gaming as they got older? Did their style and approach change? did the women they approached change
Would love to hear some experienced peoples thoughts.

I kind of get the limiting belief thing but what i am saying is. You can't be the guy in the club in your 30's dressing like a teenager and expecting that to have the same affect as when you are 19.
When i was 19 i used to get wasted and have a lot of sex by using the fact that i was young and dumb in my favour.
There are a lot of attraction switches for older men. Power, status so being well groomed and using other attraction switches to your advantage definitely comes into play.
I know for one that i do not want to be hanging around a student club with guys and girls from 18-24 as its not playing it to my advantage.

You are right though, its best not to look into it too much and just focus on evolving skill set without any of that in mind. thanks for the advice

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^ dress style has nothing to do with age.... I wore guess jeans in my teens i wear guess jeans now, the same with keneth cole, Armani, Calvin Klein, i do not understand how does an adult vs a teeneger dress... Dressing style has nothing to do with age..

Author:	Cowboy_09 [ Thu Jun 21, 2012 1:37 am ]
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I was always really confident with women and most of my game was natural. Upto the age of about 29 i looked real young and i think that gave me confidence for the girls i liked which were 23 + Since hitting 30 im starting to look and feel older and adapting my approach because of this. I dont really want to be the jokey, overtly flirty guy. I think you can get away with that at 25 but you have to have more mascuinity and show power as you get older. Girls dont want a 30 yr old who acts and dresses like a 20 yr old. I started dressing better, more mature and when its on , its on but its been hard keeping up my game as i LOVED the boyish cheeky stuff, which i still do, but later on in the interaction. So i have adapted things. How did everyone on here feel gaming as they got older? Did their style and approach change? did the women they approached change Would love to hear some experienced peoples thoughts.

Author:	Ten74 [ Thu Jun 21, 2012 2:05 am ]
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I'm 38. Graphic designer/chef, have a design studio and a restaurant. I dress how I feel like on a given day (usually jeans, sneakers and t-shirt, but can shirt up and tie if I feel like it). I am usually "told" I'm 32, so I guess that's sort of how old I look. I behave how I feel like. If I feel fun I can kid around, lift girls up just to bug them, or climb a tree with my daughter. I can also talk about politics, arts, business, science, the economy and if I have to, the weather. I feel as good with a good vintage wine or a cold 6-pack of beer. I still approach the same age range (22-28 ), and am as effective as my background (age, divorce, kid) allows me to be (pretty effective can't complain). I'm fun, funny, cheeky and basically a pain in the ass by nature, and that's how I approach, and I've never felt it to be a hindrance to creating attraction. And this does not mean at all absence of power or masculinity. If the girl wants a serious, full-of-himself-I'm-so-powerful guy, then that's a girl I personally don't want to be around. Age means nothing (though for some girls it is a key factor) but if you let it start creeping into your brain, AT 30, you'd better drop that sack of bricks pretty fast 'cause it'll only get heavier.

Author:	skills360 [ Thu Jun 21, 2012 8:40 pm ]
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Quote: I was always really confident with women and most of my game was natural. Upto the age of about 29 i looked real young and i think that gave me confidence for the girls i liked which were 23 + Since hitting 30 im starting to look and feel older and adapting my approach because of this. I dont really want to be the jokey, overtly flirty guy. I think you can get away with that at 25 but you have to have more mascuinity and show power as you get older. Girls dont want a 30 yr old who acts and dresses like a 20 yr old. I started dressing better, more mature and when its on , its on but its been hard keeping up my game as i LOVED the boyish cheeky stuff, which i still do, but later on in the interaction. So i have adapted things. How did everyone on here feel gaming as they got older? Did their style and approach change? did the women they approached change Would love to hear some experienced peoples thoughts. ^ This is a limiting belief, me and sexaddict are 35+ nothing changes, the only thing that may change is your taste in women i do not feel attraction for younger than 24... now you have to work out a bit harder and watch the way you eat more... When you are older you also have more reference experiences after 100000s of approaches, so the game is easy, second nature, you do not even have to think, you are on automatic pilot...

Author:	Cowboy_09 [ Thu Jun 21, 2012 10:02 pm ]
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I kind of get the limiting belief thing but what i am saying is. You can't be the guy in the club in your 30's dressing like a teenager and expecting that to have the same affect as when you are 19. When i was 19 i used to get wasted and have a lot of sex by using the fact that i was young and dumb in my favour. There are a lot of attraction switches for older men. Power, status so being well groomed and using other attraction switches to your advantage definitely comes into play. I know for one that i do not want to be hanging around a student club with guys and girls from 18-24 as its not playing it to my advantage. You are right though, its best not to look into it too much and just focus on evolving skill set without any of that in mind. thanks for the advice

Author:	skills360 [ Thu Jun 21, 2012 10:42 pm ]
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Quote: I kind of get the limiting belief thing but what i am saying is. You can't be the guy in the club in your 30's dressing like a teenager and expecting that to have the same affect as when you are 19. When i was 19 i used to get wasted and have a lot of sex by using the fact that i was young and dumb in my favour. There are a lot of attraction switches for older men. Power, status so being well groomed and using other attraction switches to your advantage definitely comes into play. I know for one that i do not want to be hanging around a student club with guys and girls from 18-24 as its not playing it to my advantage. You are right though, its best not to look into it too much and just focus on evolving skill set without any of that in mind. thanks for the advice ^ dress style has nothing to do with age.... I wore guess jeans in my teens i wear guess jeans now, the same with keneth cole, Armani, Calvin Klein, i do not understand how does an adult vs a teeneger dress... Dressing style has nothing to do with age..

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Author:	Ezo [ Fri Jun 22, 2012 8:02 am ]
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My 30s came and went and I didnt even realize it. Seriously, it is better on the other side, people are more easy going and dont care too much about stuff that doesnt really matter.

Author:	Cowboy_09 [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 7:26 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: I kind of get the limiting belief thing but what i am saying is. You can't be the guy in the club in your 30's dressing like a teenager and expecting that to have the same affect as when you are 19. When i was 19 i used to get wasted and have a lot of sex by using the fact that i was young and dumb in my favour. There are a lot of attraction switches for older men. Power, status so being well groomed and using other attraction switches to your advantage definitely comes into play. I know for one that i do not want to be hanging around a student club with guys and girls from 18-24 as its not playing it to my advantage. You are right though, its best not to look into it too much and just focus on evolving skill set without any of that in mind. thanks for the advice ^ dress style has nothing to do with age.... I wore guess jeans in my teens i wear guess jeans now, the same with keneth cole, Armani, Calvin Klein, i do not understand how does an adult vs a teeneger dress... Dressing style has nothing to do with age.. Im not saying you have to drastically change your dress sense but you should evolve naturally. I have more money now so i like to wear nicer things than i got a chance to in my twenties, i like to make an effort more than being the jeans and T shirt guy. You honestly dont want to be dressing like an ex member of Nsync in your thirties. Dress your age, feel comfortable with who you are. There really is nothing worse than seeing older guys with died blonde hair trying to look like teenagers.

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