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Author:  scottishguy86 [ Tue Jun 12, 2012 4:09 pm ]
Post subject:  girls flaking out on dates...
getting a lot of issues with this at the moment, girls txtn the day before or on the day to cancel cos something came up blah blah blah. only about half of my first dates are actually going ahead so i need some advice on:

A) How do i consolidate my dates more so the girls dont cancel.

and

B) Whats the best way to deal with it when girls do flake out? Tried a couple of reactions to this but dont tnhink either of them are really the way to go.

Any feedback gratefully recieved as always guys.
Author:  jurupa [ Tue Jun 12, 2012 11:11 pm ]
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Girls primary flake due to low or lack of interest. Raise their interest in you and you get less of them flaking. If a girl does flake and seems still interested have her arrange a day to meet and go from there. If she is interested enough in you and had a legit reason to flake (girls do have lives you know) she will set up another day to meet.
Author:  Wilso [ Tue Jun 12, 2012 11:53 pm ]
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What I would do is arrange the dates closer to the initial interaction as they won't lose interest.
Regarding the second point sometimes they might have a genuine reason so it may be worth asking them on another meet, and if she flakes again there isn't much you can do and it doesn't really matter how you react so I wouldn't even bother.

Regards
-Wilso
Author:  AlexanderPrime [ Wed Jun 13, 2012 1:56 am ]
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there are 3 reasons a girl would flake:

1. something actually came up..... lets just assume in this situation, that is not the case....

2. she isn't comfortable with you. this comes down to the initial interaction / texting

3. AND THIS IS PROBABLY WHY. the reason you have to meet up / the date.....

what reason are you using to see these girls again?

(and for more clarity, how long are your initial interactions typically?)
Author:  agentprovocateur [ Thu Jun 14, 2012 12:53 am ]
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A girl flaking can be 1) low level interest/investment in you, or 2) compliancey test to see how hooked you are.

In either case its best not to be reactive. This means not calling her out on her flakey behavior. Whats more unattractive than reprismanding a girl for her behavior? You can't freeze her out as she already has limited interest.

What you can do is simply have other irons on the coal (other women) and keep her on the periphery while attempting to get her more invested.
Author:  detox75 [ Thu Jun 14, 2012 2:33 am ]
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good tips from other posters. Obviously flaking is mainly due to low interest level, no mystery there.

A certain percent of flakes are unavoidable, 15-25% I would consider normal. I found the old DDA text standby to be effective, when they flake I dont text them back, ever, before they text me again asking "did you get my message/text?" , when they text this I reply: "Ya, im not used to being flaked on but, You can make it up to me" and let then work from there. This method isn't great, its just the best I have found as you retain your value.

If you are getting a higher percentage of flakes then you need to qualify your targets better as you are likely moving from rapport to date setups too soon, without a high enough interest level from the target. This means you are going to get less dates overall given your initial piepline, but the ones you do get will flake less and have a higher interest level when they do show up (more closes), this is what you want in the long run.
Author:  MrDriver [ Thu Jun 14, 2012 3:21 am ]
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Don't make a big deal out of it, it happens and it will continue to happen until your game is on a high level.

What I do is, give them a reason to meet you, I usually tell them about the seduction lounge (the nickname in our lair for this tea house), what makes them want to go there. Then they are not meeting you, but you show them this location. Try to set the date already before you start texting. Or at least agree on meeting before you leave the set.

If they still flake, be funny about it, when they cancel, tell them that they have to make it up to me ;-) (use the blink smiley to keep it light and funny). They almost always do.

A good read for me was "Love Systems, The Ultimate guide to text and phone game" by Braddock. I learned a lot from it.
Author:  Mr. Fox [ Thu Jun 14, 2012 7:59 am ]
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what i normally do before a date is text her "what are the chances of you flaking out tonight?" they usually text or ring back saying something like "what??? i am not going to flake out, etc" and arrive before i do 8)
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