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Author:  CM_Drunk [ Tue Jun 12, 2012 4:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Asked her out but got no response
I had a good text game going last night (only way to contact her) Then I casually suggested that we go out to the movies but I got no response. Need some help guys.
Author:  'Ot' [ Tue Jun 12, 2012 4:10 pm ]
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The only thing I could see here is that perhaps she's not interested.
Either you've perhaps spent too long trying to build comfort between you and the girl.
Or... maybe the way you've gone about asking her out wasn't right.

Could you go into a bit more context? Write out how the conversation built up to you asking her out?
Author:  CM_Drunk [ Tue Jun 12, 2012 6:30 pm ]
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The only thing I could see here is that perhaps she's not interested.
Either you've perhaps spent too long trying to build comfort between you and the girl.
Or... maybe the way you've gone about asking her out wasn't right.

Could you go into a bit more context? Write out how the conversation built up to you asking her out?
I used a tactic I saw in another thread on building suspense.
Me: Hey, I need to ask you something that has kept me sleepless....
Her: I'm not sure whose number this is, but give me your name and I'll help anyway I can
Me: This is Brandon, I know things might be awkward between us after this but I have to know how you feel
Her: Oh, okay. About what
Me: It wouldn't be fair on me if I don't get an answer. I want you to tell me truthfully...
Her: I'll be as honest as I can.
Me:Do you think The Dark Knight Rises will be able to top the Avengers?
Her: XD You little bastard. No it won't because MARVEL IS BETTER THAN DC
Me: You see I knew this would create some tension... this is a guy in a batsuit probably dieing for some greater good. Serious shit.
Her:Yes, that is serious shit, however there are so many beloved characters in Avengers....
Me:Okay one more question Friday or Saturday
Her: Depends (she starts listing why one day would be better than the other)
Me:Alright then it's settled. We'll go see the Avengers one last time this Friday and you'll try to prove how it's going to outdo Dark Knight Rises
Author:  KimPa [ Tue Jun 12, 2012 6:40 pm ]
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It's not like you seduced the fuck out of her by your text game! Sometimes, when fat ugly chicks from uni text me, I text back because I'm nice! But I will definitely not go on dates with them if they asked me because that is not my type. I'm not saying you are ugly LOL or you don't have good game or whatever.. I'm just saying sometimes people text back for fun, and it doesn't mean they are interested. Game her more.. I have a feeling that you thought if you use this spell on her or give her that special technique you will get her .. Doesn't work that way bud
Author:  'Ot' [ Tue Jun 12, 2012 6:46 pm ]
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The only thing I could see here is that perhaps she's not interested.
Either you've perhaps spent too long trying to build comfort between you and the girl.
Or... maybe the way you've gone about asking her out wasn't right.

Could you go into a bit more context? Write out how the conversation built up to you asking her out?
I used a tactic I saw in another thread on building suspense.
Me: Hey, I need to ask you something that has kept me sleepless....
Her: I'm not sure whose number this is, but give me your name and I'll help anyway I can
Me: This is Brandon, I know things might be awkward between us after this but I have to know how you feel
Her: Oh, okay. About what
Me: It wouldn't be fair on me if I don't get an answer. I want you to tell me truthfully...
Her: I'll be as honest as I can.
Me:Do you think The Dark Knight Rises will be able to top the Avengers?
Her: XD You little bastard. No it won't because MARVEL IS BETTER THAN DC
Me: You see I knew this would create some tension... this is a guy in a batsuit probably dieing for some greater good. Serious shit.
Her:Yes, that is serious shit, however there are so many beloved characters in Avengers....
Me:Okay one more question Friday or Saturday
Her: Depends (she starts listing why one day would be better than the other)
Me:Alright then it's settled. We'll go see the Avengers one last time this Friday and you'll try to prove how it's going to outdo Dark Knight Rises
To be totally honest... this isn't actually that bad! I've not actually seen the 'suspense tactic' before. Even took me by surprise.

HOWEVER... you went in too soon. I'm not sure as to whether or not she could picture nor grasp on to who you were? I'm unsure.

I'm not saying that she's NOT interested, but you've not put in enough work just yet, pal. I would suggest you text her in a day or two and come up with something else... something to get her interested in you so speak.

Best of luck :)
Author:  CM_Drunk [ Tue Jun 12, 2012 6:48 pm ]
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It's not like you seduced the fuck out of her by your text game! Sometimes, when fat ugly chicks from uni text me, I text back because I'm nice! But I will definitely not go on dates with them if they asked me because that is not my type. I'm not saying you are ugly LOL or you don't have good game or whatever.. I'm just saying sometimes people text back for fun, and it doesn't mean they are interested. Game her more.. I have a feeling that you thought if you use this spell on her or give her that special technique you will get her .. Doesn't work that way bud
I know that. I just wanted to ask her out. I know she has some feelings for me as I've given her massages, kissed her etc. It just never went anywhere. I want to start over with her and see where it goes.
Author:  KimPa [ Tue Jun 12, 2012 6:57 pm ]
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When I text girls I normally text something brief, funny, and straight to the point. Make sure you don't ask her why didn't reply back? or anything from that sort. Move on and let it go. In few days, text her with another idea or topic. Keep building some attraction for a bit, before you ask her again. It's basically you are making a cake, if you wait too long it will burn. If you wait too little it will not be ready and mature yet. Only you would know when is the perfect time- time when you feel you have enough rapport and everything is going great! If next time she does the same, wait another week and try again until she tells you to fuck off.. :P Normally, I would game other girls meanwhile and I wouldn't care much, but if you are really interested keep her laughing and excited every-time she sees your texts.
Author:  LiquidUnit [ Tue Jun 12, 2012 8:34 pm ]
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I think the problem was the framing. It was a date, no if, no and, no buts. IMHO unless you know a girls into you DO NOT FRAME AS A DATE. Also, how many other lovable losers have asked her out to the movies? You should have been gathering/seeding information to find out what she really likes doing. I feel like you did not put enough effort in.

Post text, and maybe i can help more but from what you told me.

3 big mistakes in order of how bad they are.

1. You set up the date frame.
2. you did not seed for date locations.
3. You did spark enough interest in the date

Next time, seed for date ideas.
What does this mean?

It means you mention places YOU like to go, and see if it sparks an interest, and amplifying any interest that exist. If it sparks, i normally tease her saying "you are only saying you like sushi because you want me to take you there" then quickly drop the subject and move to a different thread before she can retort.

gauge reaction.

If she seemed put off, then seed a different place then calibrate. If she seemed like she was OK with what you said come reopen the conversation about the place you wanted to go and ask her out jokingly. I always add, "just teasing you of course", or " don't worry I am not about to confess my undying love for you", then leave the conversation thread alone again.

Now if at any point she brings the conversation back up again OR you feel like you are just wasting too much time/ are out of time, say "hey I was only teasing at first but lets head out for sushi sometime it seems like your thing, but you cant get the wrong idea alright?."(very important to put a condition on your end, shows that the date is not unconditional, i like saying don't get the wrong idea because it dispels the date frame, 2 birds 1 stone)


on a side note sushi or restaurants in general make terrible first date ideas causes lots of flakes unless you build enough attraction and comfort.
Author:  Henry.Faith [ Tue Jun 12, 2012 9:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Asked her out but got no response
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I had a good text game going last night (only way to contact her) Then I casually suggested that we go out to the movies but I got no response. Need some help guys.
Give her time to think it over it is only Tuesday and she may be busy. If she is uninterested she will not text you back. But there is nothing wrong with that.

Don't hassle her about a date. If she wants to be a friend she will kindly let you know. Otherwise there is tons of time to make friends with both men and women and they can helpfully suggest a better match.
Author:  CaptainJackHarkness [ Tue Jun 12, 2012 9:37 pm ]
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Lol.

I've done this "tactic" before. It's essentially like trying to bullshit the girl with roleplay/creating BS drama.

Of course I don't think this guy has to do much "text game" in fact I don't believe in text game....but he has had a good initial interaction, she knows him on some level that he's into her (without a doubt) but she could be just polite/have nothing better to do than have this poor shmuck pay for the movies.

Then again, if she doesn't bring a friend, it means shes considering it a 1 on 1 thing. Could be a date, could be just a friend but I don't think she has that idea of you. Not sure why things were awkward
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