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Author:  'Ot' [ Mon Jun 11, 2012 8:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Messed up big time. Need help.
Hello
Basically, I was using that "Plenty of Fish" dating site and got speaking to this girl. Absolutely amazing she was.

I met up with her a few times, and things went great.
Unfortunately, I messed up big time! I was suppose to go and see her Saturday just gone. I had to get the train up and being the complete idiot I am, attempted to skip the fair. When I arrived, I hopped the barriers, and got caught!

Obviously, I attempted to talk myself out of things and even offered to pay the fair on the spot! They didn't allow this, and told me I must pay a penalty fee. I refused to pay this and ended up getting arrested! ... Now, this girl didn't have the slightest clue! As far as she was concerned I was on the train and ready to meet her.

Eventually, when I were released... I turned my phone on and had voicemails, text messages etc. basically telling me I'm a "fucking prick." I've attempted to explain myself on many occasions, but she's having none of it!

Thing is, I like the girl! She's absolutely incredible. I need desperate help in how I could manage to work around this ... Basically, how can I go around getting her to forgive me basically?!

Thanks in advance for any help...
Author:  daffy duck [ Mon Jun 11, 2012 9:02 pm ]
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Now that's karma in action!

I'm not sure if you can 'get her to forgive you'. Unless you use some form of hypnosis. Have you tried telling her the truth about what happened?

perhaps you could say you avoided the fare as a form of protest against greedy corporate fat cats and was going to give what you would have spent on the fare to random homeless people you saw in the streets.

but as a rule, i've found deception of any kind isnt really the best path to take. as you can see the long-term consequences far outweigh any short-term benefits reaped.
Author:  'Ot' [ Mon Jun 11, 2012 9:11 pm ]
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HAHA. Yeah, I've explained exactly what happened.

To be honest... would YOU believe this?!

She didn't believe a word?!
Thing is... on the previous occasions I had met her, I'd splashed the cash (not massively, but didn't really seem to fussed with spending money.) So, paying the 30 odd quid it was for the train shouldn't have seemed a massive problem for me, right? In her eyes anyway. But, it's thirty f-cking pound to sit down and endure the MOST boring journey of anyone's life.

Surely someone must be able to think up something - a lie perhaps - I could just use to get her even contemplating forgiving me?
Author:  typhun [ Mon Jun 11, 2012 10:00 pm ]
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tell her you're pissed she didn't have bail money handy but you are willing to give her a second chance
Author:  'Ot' [ Tue Jun 12, 2012 12:24 am ]
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tell her you're pissed she didn't have bail money handy but you are willing to give her a second chance
Okay, so I actually did use this...
Her reply was this:

"You cannot try and make some sick joke of this. You made me look so small and feel so empty! You have to try harder than this if you want my forgiveness."

Correct me if I'm wrong but the fact she's saying "I need to try harder" prove she actually wants me to, right?

I am physically stuck! Am completely lost in how to go about sorting this?
Author:  daffy duck [ Tue Jun 12, 2012 7:02 am ]
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tell her you're pissed she didn't have bail money handy but you are willing to give her a second chance
Okay, so I actually did use this...
Her reply was this:

"You cannot try and make some sick joke of this. You made me look so small and feel so empty! You have to try harder than this if you want my forgiveness."

Correct me if I'm wrong but the fact she's saying "I need to try harder" prove she actually wants me to, right?

I am physically stuck! Am completely lost in how to go about sorting this?
damn right she wants you! forget those dumb 'cocky funny' neg jokes. personally i would give her your address and tell her to come over to your place for something 'extra special'.

at least that way there's less chance of you not turning up. :lol:

edit - either that or she could be shit-testing you and planning some elaborate revenge plan for you...
Author:  CaptainJackHarkness [ Tue Jun 12, 2012 7:41 am ]
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Dude if she doesn't believe you tell her this

"Listen...all I know is that when that officer was arresting me, I kept telling that uniform wearing prick I got a beautiful girl waiting for me. I let you down, I shouldnt have been a fucking idiot and paid to get into that fair so I didn't miss it. I'm fucking stupid and you shouldn't be with me after i broke my word anyways. i know i let you down. lose my number. its for the best"

If you write this, watch how she clings harder to you. Trust me on this guy. Trust me.
Author:  'Ot' [ Tue Jun 12, 2012 9:08 pm ]
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Dude if she doesn't believe you tell her this

"Listen...all I know is that when that officer was arresting me, I kept telling that uniform wearing prick I got a beautiful girl waiting for me. I let you down, I shouldnt have been a fucking idiot and paid to get into that fair so I didn't miss it. I'm fucking stupid and you shouldn't be with me after i broke my word anyways. i know i let you down. lose my number. its for the best"

If you write this, watch how she clings harder to you. Trust me on this guy. Trust me.
So... she hadn't been replying to me at all basically.
I used this... and she's replied after a few hours saying simply "I don't really know what to say?"

I seriously like the girl. She's amazing... don't want to f-ck this up even more.
Any tips and advice from this point would be great!!

Thanks in advance...
Author:  afcnyc2 [ Mon Jun 25, 2012 4:27 pm ]
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There's no room for PUA games here; she's genuinely mad.
Get a copy of the arrest report, take a picture of it and send it to her with an apology.
And that's the best you can do.
Author:  mrjericho [ Mon Jun 25, 2012 9:19 pm ]
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There's no room for PUA games here; she's genuinely mad.
Get a copy of the arrest report, take a picture of it and send it to her with an apology.
And that's the best you can do.
This. Follow up with a pic of a rose, and text "I'm sorry. Love, (your name)"

After this you have done practically everything you can, leave it. Ball is in her court, and let her miss you for a few days.
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