When a girl is very attracted to you, she will raise up the relationship issue herself in very subtle ways. The most obvious of course is her asking if you have a girlfriend or hinting at something about your girlfriend or wife. The "Why are you still single?" interview question also casually pops up.
I've lost many opportunities for the f-close by always defensively pulling my expectation management techniques to manage my risks. But at least, I haven't had any stalking or crazy chick problems for the last two years.
When a girl subtly pulls the relationship issue, here are some...
Expectation Management Techniques.
- 1. Canned Response. I'm very loyal and committed to my friends/family/career/goals. Right now, I live for the day/moment outside of my friends/family/career/goals. All I can say is that I'm happy when I'm with you. If you're the right one, it will happen eventually. Maybe my priorities will change when that happens. [Paraphrase monologue as needed.]
2. Several Toothbrushes in Your Place. After a f-close in your place, get your stock of toothbrushes and offer it to the girl. Let her choose a color that she likes. Also open up your hidden bag or container of girlie stuff like face powders, lotions, disposable panties and so on. You don't have to say a thing. But when she probes or asks why you keep those things, just say, "I have a few friends who sleep over every once in a while."
3. Canned Response. If she pulls a "Do you love me?" or "I love you" stunt, just say something like, "Love is a very serious matter to me. I think it requires a very great responsibility on a man's part not to hurt a woman's feelings by doing or not doing certain things that offends a woman. For me, love is about commitment and loyalty not to break a woman's heart. You are special to me. I'm happy every time you're around. You'll know it when it comes." [Paraphrase monologue as needed.]
