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Author:  Riter [ Tue May 29, 2012 2:19 pm ]
Post subject:  The nervousness..how do I maintain it.
I find myself nervous around beautiful women. I realize the nerves won't cease BUT I also taken the time to realize why I'm nervous.

•I'm not used to being around beautiful women
•It's new, most people are nervous in new situations
•I'm feeling she has higher value than me

My solution is to socialize with beautiful women with no sexual intentions at all to soothe the nerves. Familiarize myself with the situation by approaching only women who make me feel these crazy nerves. And remembering that I am the catch. I'm still trying to figure out ways to hide my body language ticks. I'd love to know if anyone has any tips or suggestions on how they hid their nerves and a way to combat this. As we speak a girl right next to me who I might add is quite gorgeous is playing with her hair, touching her wrists, her face, ( btw I'm not looking for IOIs I'm just noticing) as a man I do what I want so I'm going to say hi to her and strike up a conversation.
Author:  Tr@veler [ Tue May 29, 2012 2:22 pm ]
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I don't hide my nerves. I accept them. I go "I'm nervous, cool." Then you speak. Hiding might just show, and will show incongruence. A real man accepts himself and situations. Once you've accepted it, you can be confident about it because you know you're nervous and it's just human. And this girl you are going to approach can go fuck herself if she judges you on being human. Confidence arises out of acceptance, IMO.
Author:  MaleNurse [ Tue May 29, 2012 4:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: The nervousness..how do I maintain it.
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I find myself nervous around beautiful women. I realize the nerves won't cease BUT I also taken the time to realize why I'm nervous.

•I'm not used to being around beautiful women
•It's new, most people are nervous in new situations
•I'm feeling she has higher value than me

My solution is to socialize with beautiful women with no sexual intentions at all to soothe the nerves. Familiarize myself with the situation by approaching only women who make me feel these crazy nerves. And remembering that I am the catch. I'm still trying to figure out ways to hide my body language ticks. I'd love to know if anyone has any tips or suggestions on how they hid their nerves and a way to combat this. As we speak a girl right next to me who I might add is quite gorgeous is playing with her hair, touching her wrists, her face, ( btw I'm not looking for IOIs I'm just noticing) as a man I do what I want so I'm going to say hi to her and strike up a conversation.
First. Put both your thumbs into your back pockets so they hook into them leaving the rest of your hands exposed slightly around the hips, your chest open and exposed, and rest your weight on the heels of your feet and not your toes. This is a laid back position and it helps me tremendously because i usually don't know what to do with my hands like Will Ferrell in Talladega Nights. It's also good because it provides an anchor for your arms and shoulders

Make sure exactly you know what you want to say and how you're going to say it. For me, I find I'm nervous when I go in blind, but when I know what I want to ask or how I am going to transition it takes a lot of pressure off.

Just remember that merely approaching a gorgeous woman who knows she's drop dead gorgeous confidently is a DHV itself (but unfortunately it's not enough, we need to talk a little too).
Author:  EddieFews [ Tue May 29, 2012 4:57 pm ]
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I have learned to be cool and vocal about whats going on on the inside. I could careless what the girl thinks so If i am nervous i was say " I'm nervous as hell right now, i don't know why" Its flattering when you think about it, and even when I can't think of anything else to say to the girl, I'll say " I ran out of things to say, help me out" and they'll usually try to, and by then I'll have enough time to take lead of the situation again.

My advice: be open, vocal and honest. No use trying to hide something, it makes you look like a weirdo :)
Author:  MaleNurse [ Tue May 29, 2012 4:58 pm ]
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I have learned to be cool and vocal about whats going on on the inside. I could careless what the girl thinks so If i am nervous i was say " I'm nervous as hell right now, i don't know why" Its flattering when you think about it, and even when I can't think of anything else to say to the girl, I'll say " I ran out of things to say, help me out" and they'll usually try to, and by then I'll have enough time to take lead of the situation again.

My advice: be open, vocal and honest. No use trying to hide something, it makes you look like a weirdo :)
I agree. Worst thing you can do is end up flattering her, and that ain't so bad.
Author:  0uch [ Tue May 29, 2012 6:15 pm ]
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If you ever had sex with a girl, you will know as a guy, you have higher value if you can rock her world. Is opposite of what goes on in the media including porn.Your actually doing a lot of the work including seducing her.
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