PUA Forum :: Nice girl but what to do, help newbie

You moved way too quickly. Unless you skipped some big details, it looks like you basically chatted with her on Facebook for awhile then tried to score a date. She doesn't know you at all and you didn't do anything to build attraction. Furthermore, you ASKED her to go out but it had no definite time or place.

To directly answer your question: she's probably not down for going out with you just yet. All hope is not lost, of course. Don't talk to her for a few days to "erase" what has been done, then start talking to her again and try to build some attraction and rapport this time.

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I like this advice, but I am a little confused. If he had been talking to her throughout the semester, couldn't this be used to build the comfort? If he had started talking to her about things outside of class, such as her interests/passions, is that the best way to build the comfort/rapport?

so i guess i have to wait till next semester :/ or any other ideas?

Author:	abhijat [ Tue May 29, 2012 7:58 am ]
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Hi guys, I'm new here so I met this really pretty and really nice girl in my class, she is really humble and just a nice girl and looks good! I wasn't really interested at first since I didnt know her but we kind of got to know each other during the semester we don't really talk that much mostly just small talk about the class and hi/bye. So last week at the end of this semester I saw her waiting for a friend so I just walked up to her to talk to her, and oh my gosh she is soo nice and we really got along good. Since I don't have her phone number, I messaged her on Facebook instead starting of with a little small talk about the grades in that class and then asking her if she wants to hang out next week. She didn't immediately reply like the messages before but like 30 min later with: yea if she has time cuz she works over the summer. What can I interpret in this answer is it more like a no she doesn't really wants to meet up don't wants to be rude or am I over thinking? Oh and a little more general infos: I will only have time next week cuz I'm moving in a new apt. And I don't have a car so I can't really take her out only places withint walking distance. I'm 3 years older, I think she is 19 and I'm just little bit taller then her. Just wanted to let you guys know in case that matters. Oh and yea I'm looking for a relationship oh and I only have 3 weeks left to meet up with her cuz after that I'm on vacation and the next time I see her would be next semester which is end of August! If you guys can help Me that be really nice. Oh and I don't know if I'm writing this in the right section of this forum if not, sorry. I wanted to put it in another section first but it said no newbies.

Author:	Snarg [ Tue May 29, 2012 6:44 pm ]
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You moved way too quickly. Unless you skipped some big details, it looks like you basically chatted with her on Facebook for awhile then tried to score a date. She doesn't know you at all and you didn't do anything to build attraction. Furthermore, you ASKED her to go out but it had no definite time or place. To directly answer your question: she's probably not down for going out with you just yet. All hope is not lost, of course. Don't talk to her for a few days to "erase" what has been done, then start talking to her again and try to build some attraction and rapport this time.

Author:	RetiredRodeo [ Tue May 29, 2012 6:52 pm ]
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Quote: You moved way too quickly. Unless you skipped some big details, it looks like you basically chatted with her on Facebook for awhile then tried to score a date. She doesn't know you at all and you didn't do anything to build attraction. Furthermore, you ASKED her to go out but it had no definite time or place. To directly answer your question: she's probably not down for going out with you just yet. All hope is not lost, of course. Don't talk to her for a few days to "erase" what has been done, then start talking to her again and try to build some attraction and rapport this time. This... Well said, man.

Author:	Dalinkin [ Tue May 29, 2012 7:41 pm ]
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Quote: You moved way too quickly. Unless you skipped some big details, it looks like you basically chatted with her on Facebook for awhile then tried to score a date. She doesn't know you at all and you didn't do anything to build attraction. Furthermore, you ASKED her to go out but it had no definite time or place. To directly answer your question: she's probably not down for going out with you just yet. All hope is not lost, of course. Don't talk to her for a few days to "erase" what has been done, then start talking to her again and try to build some attraction and rapport this time. I like this advice, but I am a little confused. If he had been talking to her throughout the semester, couldn't this be used to build the comfort? If he had started talking to her about things outside of class, such as her interests/passions, is that the best way to build the comfort/rapport?

Author:	Snarg [ Tue May 29, 2012 7:48 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: You moved way too quickly. Unless you skipped some big details, it looks like you basically chatted with her on Facebook for awhile then tried to score a date. She doesn't know you at all and you didn't do anything to build attraction. Furthermore, you ASKED her to go out but it had no definite time or place. To directly answer your question: she's probably not down for going out with you just yet. All hope is not lost, of course. Don't talk to her for a few days to "erase" what has been done, then start talking to her again and try to build some attraction and rapport this time. I like this advice, but I am a little confused. If he had been talking to her throughout the semester, couldn't this be used to build the comfort? If he had started talking to her about things outside of class, such as her interests/passions, is that the best way to build the comfort/rapport? Yes. Being mere acquaintances in class does nothing at all. To get to know a person and build true comfort, you need to get to know who they are and what makes them tick.

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Author:	abhijat [ Wed May 30, 2012 3:43 am ]
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Hey guys thanks for the advice I really appreciate it. So I was talking to throughout the semester just a little bit mostly just hi/ bye, hey how are you doing and stuff... And then like I said last week where she was waiting for a friend. And then asking her to hang out was the first time and on Facebook. I get what you are saying with getting to know her first but the thing is I won't see her unless we meet up since the semester is over and I don't have her phone number... so I'm stuck Urgh!

Author:	abhijat [ Thu May 31, 2012 7:16 am ]
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so i guess i have to wait till next semester :/ or any other ideas?

Author:	RetiredRodeo [ Thu May 31, 2012 12:05 pm ]
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Quote: so i guess i have to wait till next semester :/ or any other ideas? Are there other women anywhere on this planet, or was she suddenly made the only woman left on Earth?

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