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Author:  In$tinct [ Thu May 24, 2012 3:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Complicated situation...again.
All right, I'm going to try to make it as simple as possible, but it still will be quite long...

Two friends of mine(a girl and a dude), and me are involved mainly in this. Let's call them Andrew and Gabrielle for the easier understanding.

Gabrielle, is a strongly christian girl. No sex before marriage, etc. Andrew is a player. I've become close friends with the two of them in this semester. Andrew got into his mind, he wanted to bang Gabrielle. Gabrielle is not used to male attention, and she fell in love with him. They got to petting, but since Andrew is not a total dick, and they are very good friends too, and knew what was going on, he decided he should stop.

Now since then, we broke up with my ex, and now we've been spending much time with Gabrielle. Bit too much time, I think. She's just getting out of her crush on Andrew(altough she still has feelings for him...), and I'm starting to feel something is going on here. Basically, the problem started when Andrew started combinating. He mocked us(just jokingly) like we were together. At one time we slept at him and he threw a lotion to us, accompanied with a pack of condom...

We all laughed but the situation became little awkward afterwards. People really did notice we spent very much time together with Gabrielle. Neither of us wants this anything to be more than friendship, but she's inexperienced, virgin, and generally...well a woman...an emotional being. The problem is that whenever we go out, for a walk, or watch a movie, or anything like that, one of us starts joking about how compromising this situation would be if these dickeads saw us. Because of this, there's a lot of sexuality involved in our communication. Now I know women very well... I can guess easily what this situation will lead to with such a girl(no I'm not necessarily talking about sex. Even a simple thing like a kiss could be cathastrophic)

Okay... you could say."You're the man. just stop, and don't let anything like that happen". True...but it's not only about that. I know the nature of sexual tension. I know that once it's there, it is almost impossible to avoid it. Only one moment of unawareness, and boom.

All right... this was the simplest I could. Several other complicating circumstances are present, but as far as I think it's unimportant for now. The question is... What the fuck should I do? I don't want to lose this girl as a friend, but I don't want anything more from her. But if this continues like this, I just know that something's gonna happen...
Author:  JSmooth [ Thu May 24, 2012 3:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Complicated situation...again.
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All right... this was the simplest I could. Several other complicating circumstances are present, but as far as I think it's unimportant for now. The question is... What the fuck should I do? I don't want to lose this girl as a friend, but I don't want anything more from her. But if this continues like this, I just know that something's gonna happen...
You pretty much hit the nail on the head here. If you don't want to lose her as a friend, and you don't want anything more to happen... then you are pretty much left with one choice. You continue on your present course...things will likely happen. Then things between you two will get awkward...either your relationship will go on, or it'll get too tense to hang around each other and you lost her.

Sure you could avoid her some to cool things down for a bit but likely that will just hurt her as a friend cause she'll know what's up. This could temporarily help the matter but of course the sexual tension built up will return more than likely as well.

Sounds like you are just going to have to play the cards you are dealt with to the best of your ability. When things heat up...and they will...enjoy the moment for what it is cause she wants it too and worry about the fall out later. It's just as much up to her as to what happens as it is you.
Author:  In$tinct [ Thu May 24, 2012 7:39 pm ]
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Thanks, that's pretty much what my plan was. I'm trying my best. Perhaps if I can do this long enough, it really will eventually solve these problems and we permanently friendzone each other subconciously. But that's kind of an ideal case. Anyway... in the past few months I've learned something. Anything that involves women is complicated. Without exception.
Author:  JSmooth [ Thu May 24, 2012 9:05 pm ]
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Thanks, that's pretty much what my plan was. I'm trying my best. Perhaps if I can do this long enough, it really will eventually solve these problems and we permanently friendzone each other subconciously. But that's kind of an ideal case. Anyway... in the past few months I've learned something. Anything that involves women is complicated. Without exception.
Amen brother In$tinct. Women are complicated. I talked to a therapist one time who put it very well. She said men are like waffles with our thoughts. Each though it compartmentalized into each little square of the waffle and one thing literally has nothing to do with the other in most cases, each in their seperate spot. On the other hand women are like spaghetti thoughts overlap, intertwine, etc. :)
Author:  In$tinct [ Fri May 25, 2012 6:08 am ]
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