in my opinion, you have the wrong mindset for direct game,
being direct is about communicating directly in a congruent authentic way, living fully through your own intentions, basically just being honest and certain, being yourself fully genuine
it has nothing to do with an I think you are cute pickup line, just giving a compliment does not mean you are being direct, how ever if the compliment is actually genuine and you believe it, then yes it is direct, it is the intention that is important, not the words
for example
if you walk up to a girl, and you think she is un-attractive, and you say excuse me, but I couldn't help stop you to let you know you are beautiful, you are not directly communicating, that is simply a routine you have developed, it is not genuine
directly communicating is simple, at any time, ask yourself, if I could do/say anything I wanted right now without any chance of something bad happening to me, what would I do or say? it is just speaking what is on your mind and doing what is on your mind without fear or censorship, and being sure of it
if you are thinking wow, that girl is really hot, I want to talk to her, then you walk up to her and say hey, you are really hot, I want to talk to you, you are being direct, it is genuine
in the same way, if you are at a club and realize the club is bad and you are bored at the club, and you want to open any random person for some fun, and you just walk up to a table of guys and say hey guys, im bored as fuck, this club sucks dick, but any ideas how to have some fun? then you are directly communicating
as for how to run the ''game'' during day game, if you want good responses, then develop some good routines, direct game is not for you
3 girls turning you down in a row is nothing, the idea of direct game is to weed out the girls that are worth the time, from the girls that are not worth the time, not to get most of the girls you talk to, you want to be rejected, it is your friend, it saves you time in the long run, what would you rather, talk to 10 girls, get 10 good responses, all 10 girls think you are cool, all 10 girls give you their number, then you spend months talking with them, make out with a good 5-6 of them, but all 10 eventually end up in the friend zone and only one has sex with you?, or would you rather talk to 10 girls and have 9 girls turn you down in the first 5 minutes of talking with them, then focus on 1 girl that is totally is into you and has sex with you without you having to waste months of time on another 9 girls that did not have the full intention of sleeping with you in the first place but admired your tenacity and validated you with some attention/kissing so they can tell themselves that they are nice girls? if you want the 10/10 option (by the way these numbers are unrealistic), then direct game is not for you, it is about being authentic, and if you want to have sex with a girl you lead in that direction because that is your intention, it is not about getting every girl to like you, it is about finding the ones that already do that are sexually available to you, if your intentions are known and you clearly escalate based on intentions that are already clear, it is next to impossible to be stringed along or have your time wasted by in in-between girl who wants attention and affection but not interested in sex
being direct simply putts a more specific frame on the interaction when you make your intentions clear, she has to choose right away, yes or no, move forward or don't move at all, she has no real chance to get to know you as well, and doing this is efficient but not for the weak of heart, expect more of the same when gaming directly, some girls wont find you attractive and some girls legitimately are not available to sleep with you, it usually has little to do with you and taking it personally is silly, sometimes ''I have a boyfriend'' means what it means, contrary to popular belief not all girls cheat, and alot girls who are even somewhat attractive do in fact have boyfriends already
as far as ''building attraction goes'', what makes girls attracted to you in regards to being direct, is simply congruence, that is where being authentic comes in, if it is not authentic, she will feel it on some level, you can tell when something is off and a person does not seem certain about what they are doing, it is like catching someone in a lie, you spot an incongruence and just have a sense they are lieing, this is why having a set ''plan'' will not work well until it is congruent for you, you have to confident in what you are saying
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That way you're having fun all the time ;ppp
