I expect a shitload of new PUAs in training to give me shit for this: but I figured to make a point very clear: doing Mystery Method is pointless.
Yes. I said it. It's terrible! Shock shock. You don't need to do it. It hardly works, and even when it does, the results marginally convey too much of an indirect approach where guys get lost in the matrix with a girl confused about the role dynamic.
Anytime you meet a woman, most of them try to put you into categories right away: potential to fuck, no potential (friends etc). If you do Mystery Method, you are on a one-way train to no fucksville.
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So I am writing this post to finally tell everyone: DON'T DO MYSTERY METHOD.
Rather...read it...understand its importance in the history of PUA and take away some of the key philosophies of disinterest (which truly is inner game rather than scripted) and the rest is just this: BE YOU.
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REAL GAME:
What does it mean to "BE YOU" though? SELF-IMPROVEMENT. But this isn't about me saying "get your 6 pack abs" (realistically these wont ever show through your shirt)...
It means first of all realizing looks play a role in terms of value. Obviously, we are never psychic. A woman who grows up around certain stereotypes of men or of a certain skin color is naturally more comfortable to them. Similar to if you were to suddenly move countries as a man to Africa from Western Civilization (mostly white girls)
You will find comfort is a huge player in terms of first impression, and essentially: value women rate you.
What do you mean when women rate YOU?
They rate you just like us men rate their looks solely and on top of stereotype assumptions/comfort levels. Assume a woman's last boyfriend was someone who looked just like you. He was not a good part of her life.
Obviously, a smart woman one would think not all people are created equal...but bad experiences affect people in ways beyond logic: emotions and comfort.
If you come up spewing amazing game, you HAVE A LOWER chance of sleeping with a specific girl because to her you're a HB(hot boy) 5 as the interaction goes on.
All of these first impressions can be based on your RACE, AGE (if you're balding/older) COLOR OF SKIN, ANY CELEBRITIES YOU MAY RESEMBLE, HEIGHT, FASHION, BODY LANGUAGE, WHETHER OR NOT YOU ARE WEARING RAY-BAN SHADES, ETC.
Now this is not to say you cant turn this around, but using 'GAME' does not guarantee you can IMMEDIATELY GET laid given certain values.
If you are 300 lbs, overweight, balding, these count AGAINST your value.
I hate to say this, but it's a fact that looks DO matter, but if you are extremely good looking - it is NOT game -but yes it very much helps in terms of realistically demographics. If you're 35 and fucking 20 year olds, realize most 20 year olds DONT want to fuck you....that's just their value-based system. Regardless of hot-shot confidence, she won't fuck you.
Lack of game directly ties into good looks (people who try to use their looks for game). If you believe your looks will skyrocket you with a woman that's HB10 and beyond - think again my friends. But if you think you can be overweight and score a woman that mountain-hikes everyday, it's going to be a VALUE BATTLE.
The only instance in which an extremely good-looking male WILL IMMEDIATELY have "EXCELLENT GAME" in an ideal world is in the female who he finds that values looks above EVERYTHING. A woman that does not care if the man can do VIRTUALLY next to anything (usually these sort of girls are the ones that approach the hot stud so confident in his looks). This does happen, but the man has no choice.
SO WHATS THE ANSWER:
There has certainly been a lot of debate. Indirect/Direct, LOOKS matter or they don't? Some of these seem obvious, but there's a dark truth never discussed: stereotype and first impression values that women automatically give men...these HONE in on LOGISTICS.
Which leads us to the most important point:
GAME IS A NUMBERS GAME VERSUS YOUR OWN GAME
The only issue is you WILL NEVER, EVER KNOW WHAT VALUE THE WOMAN HAS FOR YOU INITIALLY. It could be higher than another persons 'stranger value'
If a girl naturally feels more comfortable with white men, then her value of a stranger that is white will generally be more lenient than the man who is black, brown, or anything else....this is a hard reality to grasp..and this leads to why different men, doing the very exact thing, have different results with certain women.
Game is at its core - NUMBERS game.
So...we all need to realize this does not mean you must necessarily do 1000 approaches, or you can't get that "special girl" to like you...just that you can't be BALLS deep in mental masturbation when you find out she just doesn't like you no matter how much game you spit.
LOGISTICS: OUT OF YOUR CONTROL. (HER MOOD, SOMETIMES SHE IS MORE LENIENT TO PEOPLE of your STEREOTYPE, OR SHE JUST GENERALLY DOES NOT GIVE A FUCK)
Most girls - generally dont give a fuck for race, etc...but it has a very subconscious effect. People of color in the game will see this amazingly most often (asians, indians, blacks, etc.) but realize EVERY GIRL IS DIFFERENT. EVERY GIRL.
So the true reality is : you can only focus on what you guys can control...and this goes into a deeply rooted INNER game issue most men have: AM I ENOUGH?
The fact is...even IF YOU AREN'T to her, its a matter of opinion to her. It's not really you. FOCUS on what YOU can control. The GAME (how to not be creepy, how to talk better, not slouch, learning to touch women, hug them) but really realize even with the BEST GAME....
You can still fucking get blown out like the amateur.
This leads to an interesting question: is PICK-UP a real skill or is it a numbers game? In reality, its BOTH. It's personal development, and a numbers game...especially since people are not simply machines you recite routines and lines to.
Good Luck Everyone,
This has been one of my major contributions..and I feel a lot of people will fight me on the VALUE aspect of women when they first LAY eyes on you...but thats the point. Women, just like men, rate guys.
It's just reality..I'm sure you all understand this to some level.
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