PUA Forum :: Did you change mentally when you lost your virginity?

When I lost my virginity, it definitely was a big confidence boost. But I am going to say something that a lot of people will probably disagree on.

Don't just go out and lose your virginity to whoever is willing to fuck you. Yea, it seems great going to bed with some hot chick, but looking back, I'm happy I lost my virginity with someone I loved at the time. We aren't together anymore, but we shared some amazing memories together after that, had the whole experience of losing it to each other, and she is now someone I will never forget. It is something I will never share with ANYONE else, ever. Yea, I've gone on and fucked other girls, but its never like your first.

And you may not be that great the first time. If you are with some girl who doesn't really care about you, it'll KILL your confidence if something goes wrong (and there is a lot that can go wrong) and she just ignores you after that.

Oh, and whatever bullshit you've heard about if you don't lose your viriginity by 19, then you're 20, then 21.... yea, I actually laughed out loud at that shit. Do you really believe that? Don't just rush out to lose it, that is pathetic.

Author:	chinoko [ Wed May 16, 2012 9:37 am ]
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I'm an 18 year old virgin, and my goal is to lose my virginity before I turn 19 in September. I heard that if you remain a virgin until you're 19, then it's 20 and then 21... Anyways, how can I lose my virginity as fast as possible (without prostitutes) and did it change your mentallity (if you had trouble losing your virginity)? I think it would boost the fuck out of my self esteem once I'm not a virgin. Thanks

Author:	GeorgePH [ Wed May 16, 2012 10:24 am ]
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The day I turned 20, I realized I was too fucking old to be a virgin any longer. The next day, on the flight to uni - fresh off a night of no sleep, sweaty and tired from my flight - I met the girl I would have my first sex with a week later. Just make it your mission to have sex. Do what it takes. It'll happen. Edit: as for the other question, I didn't change. I distinctly remember walking back home, listening to Kanye West's "good morning" and thinking how nothing actually changed. Funny.

Author:	Little Panda [ Wed May 16, 2012 12:53 pm ]
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It felt like stepping into a whole new world. It felt like I was more . . . real than before. It felt like picking up girls would be so much easier now because I've already reached the farthest you can go physically with a girl, giving me assurance that I CAN get to that point after all. This reassurance made me so much more comfortable in my everyday life of speaking to girls because I knew what I was capable of from now on. EDIT: Mind you, 'getting lucky' in my AFC days meant 'getting a hug from a girl'. Thus the huge impact it had on me when I got laid for the first time ever.

Author:	safety [ Wed May 16, 2012 1:14 pm ]
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not so much when i lost my virginity... but after a good maybe twenty lays (all with the same girl) then i started to get alot more confident. when you know there are girls out there who will willingly repeatedly sleep with you, yea, you will change. i was 18 at the time btw

Author:	TheGreatestPuaOfAllTime [ Wed May 16, 2012 1:23 pm ]
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Sex is overrated.

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Author:	Dalinkin [ Wed May 16, 2012 3:17 pm ]
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When I lost my virginity, it definitely was a big confidence boost. But I am going to say something that a lot of people will probably disagree on. Don't just go out and lose your virginity to whoever is willing to fuck you. Yea, it seems great going to bed with some hot chick, but looking back, I'm happy I lost my virginity with someone I loved at the time. We aren't together anymore, but we shared some amazing memories together after that, had the whole experience of losing it to each other, and she is now someone I will never forget. It is something I will never share with ANYONE else, ever. Yea, I've gone on and fucked other girls, but its never like your first. And you may not be that great the first time. If you are with some girl who doesn't really care about you, it'll KILL your confidence if something goes wrong (and there is a lot that can go wrong) and she just ignores you after that. Oh, and whatever bullshit you've heard about if you don't lose your viriginity by 19, then you're 20, then 21.... yea, I actually laughed out loud at that shit. Do you really believe that? Don't just rush out to lose it, that is pathetic.

Author:	Corsario [ Wed May 16, 2012 7:40 pm ]
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yeah,it changed me somehow,but it's because me and my girl had great moments. Even though we aren't together anymore and i don't desire the relationship,i always remember the moment as something great(in overvall was great) most important thing for me is that i have finally brought peace to my mind about virginity and sex.

Author:	Pokee [ Wed May 16, 2012 7:51 pm ]
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Quote: When I lost my virginity, it definitely was a big confidence boost. But I am going to say something that a lot of people will probably disagree on. Don't just go out and lose your virginity to whoever is willing to fuck you. Yea, it seems great going to bed with some hot chick, but looking back, I'm happy I lost my virginity with someone I loved at the time. We aren't together anymore, but we shared some amazing memories together after that, had the whole experience of losing it to each other, and she is now someone I will never forget. It is something I will never share with ANYONE else, ever. Yea, I've gone on and fucked other girls, but its never like your first. And you may not be that great the first time. If you are with some girl who doesn't really care about you, it'll KILL your confidence if something goes wrong (and there is a lot that can go wrong) and she just ignores you after that. Oh, and whatever bullshit you've heard about if you don't lose your viriginity by 19, then you're 20, then 21.... yea, I actually laughed out loud at that shit. Do you really believe that? Don't just rush out to lose it, that is pathetic. Everybody's different I guess. Some guys treat their first sex like their first ice cream cone. You want it so bad cuz you've heard how great it is and as soon as you finish it you want another and another and another without any sentimental attachment to their first experience. Other guys act like is some ceremonial ritual to be performed with someone they can bond with. Which is fine, I guess, if that's how you wanna roll. but I think the op just wants to get laid, not fall in love and have an emotional bonding experience. It's a completely reasonable goal to just want to get some pussy without all the hang ups of ltr. I had an afc buddy who got hung up on the first girl he fucked. He married her and she treated him like shit. There's nothing more beta than falling in love with your first. It is the ultimate afc move. I think the reason it happens though is that young teen age brains aren't developed enough to handle sex since our species developed these intense emotions that take an adult brain to figure out and process. I agree that your first time might not be real awesome. Mine lasted about 5 seconds. Lol. It doesn't matter how you slice it, 5 seconds just isn't enough time to change you in any significant way. I also laughed at the idea of 19 turning into 20, 21... But saying that trying to lose his virginity is pathetic, is not going to help in any way.

Author:	Tr@veler [ Wed May 16, 2012 7:57 pm ]
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I lost my virginity at 19. I'm 20 now. Always wanted to lose it more the older I got. I got into Pickup because I didn't ever have a girl. Did it change me? Yes, in terms of damn, I'm no longer a virgin. That's awesome. I'm not living with this depressing burden I had put on myself of not being able to get a girl. I got a little more confident, I can now actually talk about sex and having sex if I want to, whereas before I would just keep my mouth shut, embarrassed. But it didn't affect other aspects of my life. Just the girls part.

Author:	safety [ Wed May 16, 2012 10:55 pm ]
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Another thing you should keep in min is that ignorance is bliss. once you have had sex you will want more. It's like a drug. When I go through a dry spell like I am now I sometimes wish I didn't know what I was missing out on.

Author:	MaleNurse [ Thu May 17, 2012 12:02 am ]
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Quote: I'm an 18 year old virgin, and my goal is to lose my virginity before I turn 19 in September. I heard that if you remain a virgin until you're 19, then it's 20 and then 21... Anyways, how can I lose my virginity as fast as possible (without prostitutes) and did it change your mentallity (if you had trouble losing your virginity)? I think it would boost the fuck out of my self esteem once I'm not a virgin. Thanks When my V-card got swiped, i felt disgusted. I needed a shower, and I never bathe unless i start getting that swamp ass feeling. Probably because it was with a fat chick who had awesomely sized breasts. After a week, you feel normal again. And I agree with GeorgePH, make it a mission to have sex. One trick I use is to not jack off... Serious, forbid yourself from spanking it, let the damn Old Itch creep up on you and be the driving force to go out and approach.

Author:	titanman [ Thu May 17, 2012 12:09 am ]
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I felt more comfortable with the pressure of loosing it gone. I lost it at 18. I then felt a bit more manly like I could have sexual conversations with people, before I just felt awkward as I thought someone would bring up the classic conversation of when did you lose your v.

Author:	Evilx [ Thu May 17, 2012 2:55 am ]
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I actualy lost mine with 21,and with the girl I ever wanted it to be,we liked each other a lot,so it just went natural, I wasn't planing anything, we just started making out and when I realised,we were having sex. I could have lost it a long time ago,but I felt realy nervous every time,and lost the courage. After I lost it I remember feeling as a huge weight was off my shoulders, I used to have a lot of doubts about myself,got realy too much fucked up shit going on my mind, but the whole experience was so amazing that after we were done everything just vanished. I felt realy empowered: "Yes,I can do it,and actualy do it amazingly well, I have absolutely nothing wrong", so it was the bigest boost I ever got to my confidence. What I can tell you is: Don't rush,when you feel that you are ready and the experience will be worth it,go for it - Don't do it just to lose your virginity, as a good experience can do wonders for you,so does a crapy one has potential to cause a lot of damage.

Author:	TheGreatestPuaOfAllTime [ Thu May 17, 2012 3:27 am ]
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don't believe the hype. sex is just entertainment.

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Author:	CaptainJackHarkness [ Thu May 17, 2012 4:36 am ]
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Sex does absolutely nothing for confidence. It only affects those who were extremely outcome dependent on it (i.e. men like you). You feel you are missing out because others are doing it (others are also doing ecstasy but hey..) but in any case it makes you needy and you start setting out on a mission equivalently as bad as some of the over-hyped most films of Hollywood: Superbad, and any other film where 'sex is a mission' It's retarded. If you think sex is going to give you the confidence you need...then you already made up your mind. For me when I was younger, sex was just good fun. That's all. I didn't need it to "make me think I could get women." That's just retarded mental thought at best. Fact is AFCs get lucky all the time, and moreover I'm the one helping them even though they had sex. They were all needy little bastards at one point.