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Author:  Brotein [ Fri May 11, 2012 6:50 pm ]
Post subject:  College specific: wtf why don't girls show up to invites
I got to ASU college campus so its a very different demon than what most people are used to.

I'll invite girls out to a party we are having and i'll get.

"okay sounds good!!!"

"I will be there :)"

"Ya i'm so down!!!"

But where are they when the time comes? No where to be seen. Theyl suddenly not communicate after like 8pm or they will say they are "waiting on friends" and make it sound like they are coming untill nope. I have good interactions with them in person but flakey as fuck over the phone.

I don't ever feel like i'm needy. i invite them, they accept, and ill like send a text message later saying oh i have people coming over at 10ish.

a girl even hit me up early in the day, i tried to make plans to meet up with her and her friends and then she got drunk and lost contact.

I ended up texting and calling once in an 8 hour period after the last text i made.

Advice?
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Fri May 11, 2012 10:04 pm ]
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you have not displayed enough value for them to come. I had this one girl come to a party(and she goes only after the athletes), she worked a double shift that day, but I managed to build enough attraction a few days before the party to have her show up even for a one to two hours. Look at your situation and see what isn't hooking these girls.
Author:  Brotein [ Fri May 11, 2012 10:21 pm ]
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I'm pretty solid in person. I just literally suck over text/phone. How do you creat value and make them want to go wherever you are going?
Author:  DJ_Z [ Fri May 11, 2012 10:23 pm ]
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College parties are a weird dynamic. Unless the girl is interested in you, she's looking at the party as just one of many going on. If she finds out about a party that sounds better, she's going to do that. Hell, sometimes the girl has already decided she has no intention of going with you from the beginning. Women, especially younger women, do not want to risk being perceived as rude or bitchy unless absolutely necessary. So, rather than just tell you they aren't interested in seeing you, will make excuses like the ones you just listed, hoping that you will somehow realize that "waiting on my friends" actually means "you're not that hot."

In my experience, the best solution to this is to never invite the girl to the party. Invite her to pregame. Invite her to the smaller, more intimate affair that happens BEFORE she gets drunk.

I am not sure when this happened. I am 24 years old, spent 5 years in college, and when I think of pregaming, I think of having 2-4 drinks with friends in maybe the hour that goes by before we leave. If we were going to a party at 10pm, we may have met at 8:30, hung out, had a couple shots, then rolled out early enough to get there on time. I think just a coulpe years ago, the definition of pregame changed dramatically. I am not sure how, but it seemed to become "get as drunk as possible before you even leave your dormroom." That sucks when you are trying to meet up with a girl whose roommate pulls out a bottle of bacardi and suggets they split a fifth of fuckin bacardi razz (among the most dangerous of the bacardis) after dinner.
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Fri May 11, 2012 10:40 pm ]
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I'm pretty solid in person. I just literally suck over text/phone. How do you creat value and make them want to go wherever you are going?
You'll need a more objective assessment of yourself. Back in college, girls will forgo the parties thrown by rich guys in cooler places where there's more food and drinks to be had and attend our fraternity's wild parties where they have to chip in for the food and drinks in a not so cool location.

I think your chances will improve with Warped Mindless' ESP Model of Escalation. Try the eyefuck routine. :twisted:
Author:  AmazingArt [ Fri May 11, 2012 11:02 pm ]
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The answers above are ridiculous. People are saying that has to do with your value and don't even know the whole situation. It may be your fault or it may be not your fault but the reality is girls flake. Especially college parties. No matter how hot rich attractive you are some girls will flake because sometimes people are just tired, lazy or not in the mood.I remember how I was invited to many parties during college the parties had lots of attractive girls and I didn't go because I was really worn out. So it's not always your fault. So what do you do? What you have to do get so many girls numbers that if even half don't answer you will still have a big party. Think about if you have 40 numbers from girls and just 20% of them answer and you get 8 girls to come that's a win win situation. After you invite them invite cool guys who know how to have fun. Do fun crazy stuff. After the party is over the girls will tell their friends and their friends will tell other friends and all the sudden you'll have as many chicks as you want asking you to come to your party.
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