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Yo bro's
Ok so i only have one question, so let me paint the scenario.
Me > Good looking guy, 24, well built (personal trainer by trade) good natural game, sharp witted, positive, an all round good guy/adventurer type.
I just came to the dominican republic, im an aussie, and il be here for about a year. been here for 2 weeks, bro's.
Ok so here's the question... I recently met this girl. she's young, only just turned 20, but she is hella cute. your romantic, sentimental, wears her heart on her sleave type.
id rate her about a 7.5 for me. but she is endearing. anyway, so i met her at a club, got her digits, then took her out the following sunday (she brought her friend) and we just chilled for the day. i was hooked after that. (i fall quick lol). 2 days later we go bowling (this time we are alone), and this was around... 5 days ago. and it was awesome! but no, honestly... the connection was very strong, flirting was constant, and all the little stuff inbetween thats significant. for example, there was constant keno (the dominican style i guess), and she kept inviting me out to places like her beach house, insinuated strongly that she wanted to spend more time with me, and then asked me to come to hers for a movie night at her house some time.. significant yeah? What im saying is, she showed alot of interest throughout the whole night. we had a mad time.. she laughed alot, and at the end of the night we kissed outside her car. The option for anything further sexually was not really presented. then she told me 'I had a good night with you', and we parted. From this point, i was like 'Yep... this is in the bag. she's into me'
however, i spend the next couple days inviting her out again. i was VERY active in inviting her out. maybe i was too over confident, and figured that, with dominican woman especially, one MUST be forward and obvious in his intentions (not like australia, where you gotta do shit subtly). the problem was, was that i chased a little too much i think. i made it obvious i liked her, and put in too much effort with the txts and phone calls to get her out again. i might have scared her off, BUT, keep in mind that she is currently mad obsessed with some guy that has a GF... and she expressed to me how much she is battling with it to keep away from him. he is intown in about a week. (keep that in ur mind)
so the problem is bro's, after that night, she just became completely distant and flakey. wouldnt respond to my invitations, stuff like 'so cutie, when do i get to see you again?
) and she ignored my routine phone calls id make in the morning, then at night. sure, she would txt me, but spiratically, and distantly. the point is, that she would not mention my invites to hang out! this went on for a couple days until i got pissed off, and called her out on her shit... i said something like 'your playing games / making me feel silly chasing you so hard / whats up? / if you not interested just let me know and we can leave it / blah blah'
OK, I mean the best, but I'm going to be harsh here because you said you're a natural, but you really fucked this up man. Ok so i only have one question, so let me paint the scenario.
Me > Good looking guy, 24, well built (personal trainer by trade) good natural game, sharp witted, positive, an all round good guy/adventurer type.
I just came to the dominican republic, im an aussie, and il be here for about a year. been here for 2 weeks, bro's.
Ok so here's the question... I recently met this girl. she's young, only just turned 20, but she is hella cute. your romantic, sentimental, wears her heart on her sleave type.
id rate her about a 7.5 for me. but she is endearing. anyway, so i met her at a club, got her digits, then took her out the following sunday (she brought her friend) and we just chilled for the day. i was hooked after that. (i fall quick lol). 2 days later we go bowling (this time we are alone), and this was around... 5 days ago. and it was awesome! but no, honestly... the connection was very strong, flirting was constant, and all the little stuff inbetween thats significant. for example, there was constant keno (the dominican style i guess), and she kept inviting me out to places like her beach house, insinuated strongly that she wanted to spend more time with me, and then asked me to come to hers for a movie night at her house some time.. significant yeah? What im saying is, she showed alot of interest throughout the whole night. we had a mad time.. she laughed alot, and at the end of the night we kissed outside her car. The option for anything further sexually was not really presented. then she told me 'I had a good night with you', and we parted. From this point, i was like 'Yep... this is in the bag. she's into me'
however, i spend the next couple days inviting her out again. i was VERY active in inviting her out. maybe i was too over confident, and figured that, with dominican woman especially, one MUST be forward and obvious in his intentions (not like australia, where you gotta do shit subtly). the problem was, was that i chased a little too much i think. i made it obvious i liked her, and put in too much effort with the txts and phone calls to get her out again. i might have scared her off, BUT, keep in mind that she is currently mad obsessed with some guy that has a GF... and she expressed to me how much she is battling with it to keep away from him. he is intown in about a week. (keep that in ur mind)
so the problem is bro's, after that night, she just became completely distant and flakey. wouldnt respond to my invitations, stuff like 'so cutie, when do i get to see you again?
) and she ignored my routine phone calls id make in the morning, then at night. sure, she would txt me, but spiratically, and distantly. the point is, that she would not mention my invites to hang out! this went on for a couple days until i got pissed off, and called her out on her shit... i said something like 'your playing games / making me feel silly chasing you so hard / whats up? / if you not interested just let me know and we can leave it / blah blah'Dude, she wanted a one night stand! You missed all the signals. She wanted you to fuck her that night. You blew it. believe it or not women want easy quick sex too. then they want to forget you and move on. And I think it's a mistake to think that foreign women are so different from the women you know.
I'm American and gamed a Mexican immigrant. She was just like an American once you got past the "But, I'm Catholic!!!" Nonsense. Sure there's cultural differences but on a psychological level we all function the same. Men think one way and women think another. Treat he like any woman.
If she's flaking now it's probably because she just wanted sex. Now she's thinking"why didn't he make a move? What a weird dude... I'm moving on.".
Move on. Forget her. It's that simple. If you meet her again hopefully you'll be dating other people and maybe the jealousy will make her want to fuck you again.
I don't want to be too hard on you though. I've done this myself in the past. Especially in high school. I missed so many shots at pussy. Just don't let fears about cultural bull shit hold you back. You sound like the kind of guy who gets alot of pussy normally. You can get the same amount over seas.