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Author:  GameMag [ Tue May 08, 2012 12:06 am ]
Post subject:  Day Game question Approach anxiety
Hi guys so I've been running some day game but I realize I stutter so much and get super nervous when approaching random girls during the day. At night I don't have a problem because there is some alcohol in my system. I was thinking about drinking a little during the day to reduce my approach anxiety but I don't really want to. Does anyone have any solutions to my day game approach anxiety. Thanks in advance!
Author:  Rockshow [ Tue May 08, 2012 12:16 am ]
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dude, i hear you! and there is a solution. it's called warming up.

do warm up sets. random people (middle aged women, men, doesn't matter) and get yourself into that state that allows you to be "in the moment".

I"ve actually seen a great video on youtube by andy yosha. it's called "state shifting". You should check it out!

basically he says,
-get a coffee or whatever at a shop and ask the cashier how their day has been, banter a little and leave
-ask a stranger for directions
-ask another stranger for directions but this time linger a bit longer and tease them... "are you sure this is the right way? my day will be ruined if not. Are you sure you're qualified to give out this information? where's your directions giving certificate?"...
-repeat another few times and voila.

Worked for me. Reaaaaally hard to get yourself to actually do it, but it works!

Cheers, Andy

Ps. Started doing that just last thursday and have a date now with the only HB i actually aproached :P (asides from all the middle aged moms and 30 year old dudes i talked to). Success rate 100% :P
Author:  EddieFews [ Tue May 08, 2012 12:43 am ]
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You just have to keep pushing dude.. Avoid alcohol when sarging all together.. It will get easier and easier over time. This is no one day fix.. You are on your way to being a champ bro
Author:  TheGreatestPuaOfAllTime [ Tue May 08, 2012 1:11 am ]
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Don't use alcohol or that will become your cruth. You need to rely on yourself not a drink...

Warming up helps, I don't know why, but once you start talking to people its just like you want to keep talking to people

You have approach anxiety because you do not expect to succeed. If you knew that the outcome you wanted would occur you would not be anxious. I have a formula for getting over this, you can try it if you like.

Affirmations + Preparation = confidence

Affirmations such as "I am going to succeed" "these girls want to talk to me" "i am a handsome guy" "I am a smart guy" " I am a great man" "Women love me"... stuff like that. The goal is to repeat this stuff and focus your mind on it until you can get a hold of your fear.

Preparation. Have you heard think before you speak. Well memorize your stories and routines and practice them by yourself until they become natural.

The affirmations give you confidence and your preparation give you confidence. At first you will natural be nervous, but you should be able to deal with. Then as you have more and more successful approaches you will began to expect to succeed and you won't be afraid anymore :)

Good Luck man
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