Last texts? How many in what period...
Let it be for a week, two weeks would be better.
Re-open:
"Done being mad?
Anyways, I'm ________ (ex. going for drinks tonight), figured I'd give you a shout to see if you were down."
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| Author: | stringfellow on sticks [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 8:18 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Persist or give up? |
Hey guys, I number closed a girl about a week ago in a bar & everything about the interaction was good. However, when I left the bar, she saw me outside and seemed like she wanted to carry on chatting or whatever. I told her I'd be right back, as a long time friend (another hotter girl) was leaving town forever the very next day, and I genuinely wanted to say goodbye. The newly number closed girl seemed a bit pissed off that I "abandoned" her outside the bar, I got quite a hostile reply when I texted her a bit later, etc. I called her the next day and we spoke briefly, but when I said we should meet up, she didn't seem too keen! I think I've already texted a bit too much to be honest! However, even though she's either lost interest and/or is pissed off with me, I want to ask you guys whether you think I should give it one more try, or just accept that it's game over? It sounds dumb, but I'm not even that keen on the girl! I think because she hasn't replied to the last few texts, I'm seeing her as a challenge & I guess it's become an ego thing for me! Should I just give up, or persist? If I decide to give it one more shot, what do you think would be the best course of action? (Bear in mind that she GENUINELY seemed to enjoy our interaction before I fucked things up, was keen to give me her number, etc!) Cheers fellas! |
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| Author: | CaptainJackHarkness [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 8:41 pm ] |
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Um...who cares? Always assume any relationship you have will end one day. Just go for it. Screw it. Life's too short. |
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| Author: | hawksterG [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 8:42 pm ] |
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Last texts? How many in what period... Let it be for a week, two weeks would be better. Re-open: "Done being mad? Anyways, I'm ________ (ex. going for drinks tonight), figured I'd give you a shout to see if you were down."
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| Author: | stringfellow on sticks [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 8:55 pm ] |
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Thanks guys! That sounds like a plan! Just one thing though : If I leave it too long before re-contacting her, don't I run the risk of her losing interest completely? Cheers! |
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| Author: | hawksterG [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 9:45 pm ] |
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Short answer: No Long answer: No |
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| Author: | Hakuna [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 10:06 pm ] |
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You have it all wrong. When you left her outside the bar, you gained frame control and illustrated your willingness to lose her, which = Pussy tingles. Her getting pissed at you after that was a shit test. She wanted to regain hand in your dynamic, which is exactly what you allowed by turning AFC and supplicating to her in an apologetic manner. You should've ignored her hostile text completely and approached it way later. Every text you sent that she ignored was a drop in interest. And then the shit test got more complex because it morphed into resentment - after she found out you were incongruent with her initial assessment of you, and probably a beta, she got angrier that she got left outside of a bar by a man of lower status than her. You can't ever let a girl's shit phase you. They will do everything to get hand in a relationship or any social dynamic, from acting pissed to overly promiscuous to freezing you out; you need to treat it all with amused mastery. An attitude that says "I don't give a shit, I've seen it all and heard it all." From here on in, leave it and approach it much later. If you go for it now, you have 0% chance of making anything happen and will instead only ruin your chances for later. |
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