PUA Forum :: Going from AFC to a PUA while seeing somebody.

I have been seeing a girl for almost almost a year now, and she knows me for over 2 years. She was dating a guy I know when I met her, and got her attention by being the sweetest human being possible. I was a total idiot. I love that girl. She knows me as a sweetheart. She broke up with her boyfriend a 2 months ago, and says she doesnt want to do anything cuz she is enjoying her "single life" for now. She says she loves me. And we have started cuddling and making out after she broke up with her ex.
Now that I have discovered the art of pickup a week ago, and was using phone game on her, she said that I turned into a douchebag and that I "A) either stop talking to me, or B) take prozak" (thats a quote)...
How can I turn this around or is it too late for that?

Author:	mrlihtster [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 1:31 am ]
Post subject:	Going from AFC to a PUA while seeing somebody.
I have been seeing a girl for almost almost a year now, and she knows me for over 2 years. She was dating a guy I know when I met her, and got her attention by being the sweetest human being possible. I was a total idiot. I love that girl. She knows me as a sweetheart. She broke up with her boyfriend a 2 months ago, and says she doesnt want to do anything cuz she is enjoying her "single life" for now. She says she loves me. And we have started cuddling and making out after she broke up with her ex. Now that I have discovered the art of pickup a week ago, and was using phone game on her, she said that I turned into a douchebag and that I "A) either stop talking to me, or B) take prozak" (thats a quote)... How can I turn this around or is it too late for that?

Author:	Snarg [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 1:37 am ]
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We need more detail. What are you doing/saying exactly on the phone and things like that? I have a feeling you're trying to neg and it's coming off as offensive, but that's just a hunch. The problem likely isn't that you're using PU techniques, but instead using them incorrectly. This stems from this wonderful community butchering the definition of virtually every basic technique which misleads newcomers and causes problems like this. Also, I'm a little confused. You said you've been "seeing" this girl for a year, but she broke up with her boyfriend 2 months ago? How were you "seeing" her this whole time? Dating? I don't get it.

Author:	CaptainJackHarkness [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 1:59 am ]
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Wow...take prozac or stop texting. I think it's time to just be real with this girl than gaming her... The game is already over...time to get real with her.

Author:	mapleleaf [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 3:15 am ]
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Quote: I have been seeing a girl for almost almost a year now, and she knows me for over 2 years. She was dating a guy I know when I met her, and got her attention by being the sweetest human being possible. I was a total idiot. I love that girl. She knows me as a sweetheart. She broke up with her boyfriend a 2 months ago, and says she doesnt want to do anything cuz she is enjoying her "single life" for now. She says she loves me. And we have started cuddling and making out after she broke up with her ex. Now that I have discovered the art of pickup a week ago, and was using phone game on her, she said that I turned into a douchebag and that I "A) either stop talking to me, or B) take prozak" (thats a quote)... How can I turn this around or is it too late for that? I would say stop the phone game, and get real with her, f-close her ASAP, get her locked in. The more you wait, the more problematic it gets. If she is like that, do not get angry, that just goes like DLV for you, instead somehow try to seduce her, given she is attracted to you already.

Author:	mrlihtster [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 3:39 am ]
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Me and her have been seeing each other, go out for dinner, coffee etc while she was with her ex. She wasnt very happy with him, and did an exceptional job of not acknowledging his existence while being with me. I really loved the girl. I wrote her poems, made her cards, bought her presents. We are very close, and very open. Tried to rationalize and be understanding to her moodswings all the time. There was little "me" in that relationship. I would lie through my teeth with compliments, I would make a good husband. @Snarg, you might have hit the nail. Its probably the large amount of nagging iv started doing lately. I was gonna put my car up for sale, so I asked her to be the pretty girl who poses in the sale pictures of the car, she replied that her modeling career ended when she turned 16, and I replied that my camera is horrible anyhow nobody would notice anyways. I dont personally think thats really crude. Afterwards there were a few other ones, like "my hot tank broke, so im coming over for a shower" she said that I needed a cold shower, so i said "screw you, ill find someone elses shower to invade. I bet I could talk your mom into letting me in etc." Same day I asked her if shes going out, if yes, we should meet up. She said shes tired, and staying home. I said "then ill stop by, im tired of looking at your books on my bookeshelf." (Now come to think of it, i do sound like a total dick.) After that, she replied with "you are being a douchebag" and I told her that she havent seen me for over a week and was being delusional. @CapHarkness I think you are right, its not game for her anymore. And I dont think it is for me either. This has been very real for a while now, but she still sees me as an AFC, why else would she need to "enjoy her single life" if not look for something i havent been giving her. She is very protective of sex, she told me that she doesnt want to go down that road cuz things would get very serious very quickly with us. I would have to agree there. But I want her in my life. I seriously do. You guys suggest f-closing?

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Author:	Snarg [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 1:01 pm ]
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You definitely negged improperly. The first example was fine, but the other two made you sound like a complete dick. You basically made an "I fucked your mom" joke to a girl. Stop negging and just be yourself - there is absolutely no reason for you to suddenly start gaming a girl who you've been seeing for a year.

Author:	Radar01 [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 3:21 pm ]
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What are you doing? You're insulting a girl you like over text for no reason. Also smells like oneitis.

Author:	mrlihtster [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 3:54 pm ]
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You know that sad realization of, damn I was such a moron... Yeahhh. Thanks a lot guys. Ill apologize. Now, what should I do with the situation we are in. When she was with her ex, i stopped talking because I was just super frustrated with the whole situation. She broke up with him, a month after we stopped talking (go figure on that), and asked for a coffee date. Now she is says she is "single" and is enjoying "single life", even thought me and her are closer than we ever were... If I start "enjoying my single life" the drama would be off the scale. I dont want her sleeping with other guys. So what should I do? Should I wait for the right moment in the near future and f-close her?

Author:	league [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 4:04 pm ]
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Reading this post reminds me of the old me. For the love of god get over your oneitis, try and f-close her, if you cant do that then f-close another chick, if you wait like a lovesick puppy any longer you will get a nice one way ticket to the LJBF zone if you aren't there already. Go fuck other girls, i repeat, go fuck other girls!!!! And stop texting her first too!!!!!

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