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Author:  Water Lord [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 10:38 pm ]
Post subject:  I am being played, need help!
Hi everyone, I am quite new to the community.

here is my problem. I know this girl, I was quite into her and she is very young (19). I made it quite clear to her that I liked her, only to be rejected. She keeps coming over to my house to study and hang out.

couple of days ago, she brought her housemate to my place, we went out got some drinks, and a mate of mine was at my place studying while we were out (he has a gf and not interested in any of them), we returned to my place and played strip poker. She got naked except for panties and her roommate was completely naked, I was butt naked too.

Anyhow after the game we went to sit on the couch, her housemate laid next to me and I started playing with her while she stroke me under the blanket. she and my friend were otherwise engaged playing a game on xbox. I signaled my crush's roommate to go to my room (at this point I was very frustrated with the girl I had the crush on because she was not interested and I really wanted to fuck a girl.) she said it would not be right by her friend (my crush) to go to my room and fuck, I stoped playing with her and did not talk to her for the rest of the night. I was piss drunk at this point, and other people were drunk aswell, I went to the kitchen next to my crush and she said she was a bit mad at me, and I told her it was her who makes me behave primal. night went on people fell asleep on the couches and I told her I really liked her and asked her what her intention was ( until this point I was never direct, however it was damn obvious), she was laying on the couch and I was playing with her hair, she said she was mad at me and said that " If I felt the same way, we wouldn't be here, we would be sleeping in your bedroom together."

I got really pissed and went to my room to sleep. In the morning she came to my room told me that she was leaving and asked me to give her a call when I wake up so that she would come over and we could study. I did so and she didn't answer.

long story short, she will be coming over to my house tonight to "study".

What do I do? clearly she is fooling around with me and is a bit mad at me, I guess despite the fact that she does not want me, she does not want me to fool around with other women. Please advise. Thanks in advance.
Author:  DJ_Z [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 10:56 pm ]
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She's mad at you because you're acting like an ass. You start pouting like a small child when you don't get what you want. How about this: you have a life, friends, I assume? Make other plans. Do something else with your life rather than sitting around waiting for her to change her mind, BECAUSE IT ISN'T GOING TO HAPPEN.

That other girl was clearly into you, just didn't wanna seem like a slut because her friend was there. You probably lost her, too. You can't get pissy because a girl won't sleep with you, it tells them that the only reason you talk to them is the possibility of fucking.

The chick isn't fooling around with you, she's not interested in you romantically. The reason the roommate didn't fuck you isn't that your crush said something, she just didn't want to be looked at as a ho for drunkenly hooking up. By the way, roommate would probably have banged you another time when that other girl wasn't around, but you probably ruined that by having a fit.

Get a life, do something else. She says she wants to hang out? Tell her you have plans, and don't lie to her, have actual plans. She's not interested, she will never be interested. Game other girls.
Author:  gtdave [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 11:00 pm ]
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Sounds like you've tried being direct and indirect with her and she still hasn't taken the bait. I'd be tempted to LJBF her and just act really fun and friendly towards her during her study sessions!

Also if you can get a girl texting you while your "studying" with her it will work in your favour. If she kicks up a fuss just say that you thought you two where just friends because that's what she wanted.
Author:  Every_Woman's_Dream [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 11:03 pm ]
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do you leave in a frat house or something?...
if you are willing to fuck another girl in front of her, you really are not that into her. This is not about her. this is about you and your pride.
Author:  Water Lord [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 11:06 pm ]
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Well, thanks for the advice, you might be right DJ Z I probably fucked my opportunity with her room mate aswell, she is not interested in me, I got that part alright.

It doesn't look slutty when her room mate gets naked infront of two guys she saw for the second time in her life, but it is slutty if she goes to the next room and bangs? well, maybe I don't get the logic because I am new to the game.

Anyhow she will be over at my place in couple of minutes and I will take the advice. Not gonna hit on her, not gonna mention the other night. I will actually study, and will try to get a life, so that I can stop bothering myself with failed opportunities. Thanks for the help though, however harsh it was.

@every_woman's_dream

nah its my flat 1 bedroom 1 livingroom/kitchen. I live alone. I really don't know how her roommate was ok with fumbling while they were in the room. But after you get butt naked there isn't much to be timid about really. We got dressed after the poker. My dick of a friend is a total AFC (not that I am not, I am too but his case is really worse) so he wanted to finish the game before my crush got totally naked.
Author:  Every_Woman's_Dream [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 11:19 pm ]
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The game is not about logic, its about emotion and what the girl feels comfortable/confident doing. The fact that this girl wants to come over to study although who could have really embarassed her by sleeping with her friend is interesting. She may like you, but not enough yet. There are things she likes about you, and things she likes to talk about and do. Keep talking about those things and maybe her interest in you well grow. But, be patient. No more frustrated demands for sex or your piss everything away.
Author:  DJ_Z [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 11:40 pm ]
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Well, thanks for the advice, you might be right DJ Z I probably fucked my opportunity with her room mate aswell, she is not interested in me, I got that part alright.

It doesn't look slutty when her room mate gets naked infront of two guys she saw for the second time in her life, but it is slutty if she goes to the next room and bangs? well, maybe I don't get the logic because I am new to the game.

Anyhow she will be over at my place in couple of minutes and I will take the advice. Not gonna hit on her, not gonna mention the other night. I will actually study, and will try to get a life, so that I can stop bothering myself with failed opportunities. Thanks for the help though, however harsh it was.

@every_woman's_dream

nah its my flat 1 bedroom 1 livingroom/kitchen. I live alone. I really don't know how her roommate was ok with fumbling while they were in the room. But after you get butt naked there isn't much to be timid about really. We got dressed after the poker. My dick of a friend is a total AFC (not that I am not, I am too but his case is really worse) so he wanted to finish the game before my crush got totally naked.
Strip poker may have a sexual component, a large one, but no, it's not on the same level as casual sex. And dude...I hate to start the argument, but if you take Dream's advice and try to pursue a girl who has flatout told you she isn't interested, you will regret it. Specifically, you will be wasting your time. Why not go to a bar instead? Or invite some buddies over for a video game session? Catch a movie.

The girl doesn't like you, Every_Woman's_Dream is wrong. She may like you as a friend, that's it.
Author:  Water Lord [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 12:43 am ]
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Well I know she doesn't want me. But she does everything to confuse me, she is here playing music on youtube SPAM. She came to my place dressed, fingers painted, with lipstick on and a new hairdye, very fragrant with parfume. We are not studying but drinking, the situation annoys me
Author:  CaptainJackHarkness [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 12:44 am ]
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GET OVER IT
Author:  Midrange [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 12:55 am ]
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were you good friends with her for a while prior to this recent stuff? i'm curious why she would want to keep hanging out if you made it clear you weren't just interested in being friends. maybe she has feelings and just doesn't want to openly say it? or does it simply not bother her how he feels?
Author:  DJ_Z [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 2:52 pm ]
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Did she pay for the drinks? Thought so...there's your answer.
Author:  Water Lord [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 4:46 pm ]
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she was rarely paying for anything, so yes she was using me. Emphasize on was.At the end of the night, she wanted to sleep on the couch and I told her that she should be gone before I woke up and went to my room to sleep.

I admit it felt good. For a second I did not feel frustrated.

PS: it is quite interesting that you mention paying for the drinks, her roommate (the one I fooled around with), bought drinks, paid half of the tab at the local cafe where we drank, while my oneitis did not pay a single dime. I was totally WTF?!
Author:  agentprovocateur [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 4:54 pm ]
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Act like nothing happened. When she comes over be sure to be under the covers without any pants.
Author:  Water Lord [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 4:59 pm ]
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By the way, what does it mean if a girl does not pay for anything and expects you to pay for everything? or what does it mean if she pays?
Author:  agentprovocateur [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 5:11 pm ]
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By the way, what does it mean if a girl does not pay for anything and expects you to pay for everything? or what does it mean if she pays?
If she expects you to pay for everything it means your wallet will be a bit slimmer. If she pays, your wallet will remain the same thickness at the end of the day.
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