hey guys, i've come across this website a month or so ago after i got out of a relationship that ended pretty badly..i've learned a lot by reading forums, but now i feel its time to make an account and seek advice on a particular situation.
to start things off, after the breakup, I decided to run a few experiments on some online dating websites to see what reactions and responses are triggered by what.. And in the process, I found my ex on a site.
The time came where I got what I wanted out of the experiments...so I deleted the account on one site, and forgot about the other
the thing is, being me...the asshole ex boyfriend...and my ex being a crazy jealous, resentful, and at times immature girl.....She's attempting to use the shit against me somehow.
I was hanging out with a mutual acquaintance who is friends with the ex on twitter.. And they asked me:
Them: Robbie, have you been talking to her lately? i wonder who she's talking about..
Me: what do you mean? Its been about a month since i've spoke to her
Them: Take a look at this..
And they showed me..
She posted something saying about how she saw one account was gone, but how she has screen shots of the other one..
I know she's talking about me, because I had contacted a girl on one site...who ended up being good friends with my ex's best friend..I had no clue....Anyway, I guess that word got around...The profile itself didnt have any pics, but I did send a pic to the one girl, so they know it was me...But yeah, that account was the first one I deleted..and is the one she was referring to in her post.
I could have gone without that person showing me, cuz I got enough on my mind and am struggling enough to get my life back together...The last thing I want to deal with is everyone I know making jokes and making fun of me and seeing me in whichever light my ex decides to paint in their minds.....One of the downsides of living in a small town..
My question is though....How to deal with something like that? I mean, it shouldn't be a big deal...Maybe the thought of it bothers me because I got enough stress as is it...And knowing that she is even going that route, trying to hurt me like that, trying to embarrass me or something, just pisses me off considering the uphill battle I'm already having trying to meet new people and make new friends...I pretty much have 0 friends now as it is..everyone seems to have distanced themselves from me after our breakup...but of course she is still accepted in the group...Any suggestions and advice? What are good ways to stay positive, and deal with people like this? It really has me stressing. I don't know what I'd do if she were to post that stuff on facebook..It would really humiliate me and I dont know how to handle that
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