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Author:  In$tinct [ Sat Apr 28, 2012 9:44 pm ]
Post subject:  I need some opinion on this...
So my girlfriend broke up with me not long ago and I think I'm ready and I pulled myself together to start gaming again. There's a girl in my group. We haven't really talked much yet, except for the last time...

We had some class in the middle of nowhere and I didn't have enough money with me for a bus ticket so I told her I'm just going to walk, since the weather was quite nice.(oh, I don't think it's important but at this time we were still together with my gf) Now she told me she would pay my ticket, I accepted and told her I'd invite her for a coffee or something.

Now yesterday we had histology and our eyes met quite some times... More often than it usually would. I knew she was going home immediately after class just as everyone else except for a few people including me. It's kind of expensive for me to go home every weekend... So long story short I didn't bother that time, and we don't have school until wednessday. But I was thinking it would be just about time to ask her for that coffee :D

My only problem is that I don't really know this girl. I don't really know how she handles sexuality. She seems conservative... Never wearing skirt or heels, but that's what I thought about my ex too... I'm not thinking about another LTR for quite a while now and since she's a from my group and I don't want any mess I WILL be completely honest about this.

The only question is how do I game her without knowing what she wants? Even if I go boldly just for sex... I know women well enough to know that they sometimes seem to be little bit too hoping and naive. She can still think that there could be more and I'm just "playing the player". It happened before... So, any tips on how to avoid this?
Author:  In$tinct [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 8:12 am ]
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Hmm noone? Well whatever I'll just try my best then.
Author:  Little Panda [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 8:42 am ]
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When you sit down for that coffee with her, lead the conversational topics to sexuality and relationships. If she likes you, she will not only be comfortable with the topics, but she will also start asking you questions relating to those topics. This means you will have more than enough opportunities to display what you're looking for right now after your break-up.

"You know how it's like when you break up with somebody, and you just feel like a totally free bird with the whole world available to you to fly over?"

Ok ^that was just a random way of putting it, but the point is that you don't go "HEY BACK OFF, I'M NOT READY FOR THIS" and direct the comment at her per say, but rather speaking in general about you not being ready for anything serious with anyone right now and you're just looking for fun and companionship.

Unless you want to be a heartbreaker, I suggest you make this point very clear to her.
Author:  Every_Woman's_Dream [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 9:01 am ]
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I wouldnt have sex on my mind until you get a little history. How many bfs? does she date often? Does she date casually? Does she go to church? you're looking for an open to bring up sexuality, but this is the type of thing that could really turn a girl off so make sure you have some evidence that its okay to talk about it. Thats what i would do
Author:  In$tinct [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 10:22 am ]
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When you sit down for that coffee with her, lead the conversational topics to sexuality and relationships. If she likes you, she will not only be comfortable with the topics, but she will also start asking you questions relating to those topics. This means you will have more than enough opportunities to display what you're looking for right now after your break-up.

"You know how it's like when you break up with somebody, and you just feel like a totally free bird with the whole world available to you to fly over?"

Ok ^that was just a random way of putting it, but the point is that you don't go "HEY BACK OFF, I'M NOT READY FOR THIS" and direct the comment at her per say, but rather speaking in general about you not being ready for anything serious with anyone right now and you're just looking for fun and companionship.

Unless you want to be a heartbreaker, I suggest you make this point very clear to her.
Thanks this was really helpful. Yeah I really don't want to break her heart. Especially since we have classes together.

EDIT: Just one thing Panda... if the topic comes to relationships, it will most probably come to me and my ex. That's something I don't really like talking about, and also I don't see how talking about that could help me progress with other girls, so...how do I avoid? Do I just say half-sentences and change the topic to her, or relationships in general every time it gets mentioned?
Author:  In$tinct [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 10:27 am ]
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I wouldnt have sex on my mind until you get a little history. How many bfs? does she date often? Does she date casually? Does she go to church? you're looking for an open to bring up sexuality, but this is the type of thing that could really turn a girl off so make sure you have some evidence that its okay to talk about it. Thats what i would do
I really think most of this stuff is irrelevant. Especially the church thing. And I'm not really worried about turning her off. Hey if this is turning her off then for me there's nothing to do with this girl right now. I have other options, I almost never game only one girl at a time when I'm single. This reduces the chance of a one-itis to 5% or even below. But thanks anyway, cheers :)
Author:  Little Panda [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 10:42 am ]
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@Instinct

Don't attempt to avoid the topic about your ex. If she asks you, simply keep it very short and tell her you broke up, and don't mention any details.

Unless she's completely socially uncalibrated, this will automatically set the tone that you don't want to expand on this topic.

And of course, if she keeps pushing it, politely say you don't want to talk about it.
Author:  In$tinct [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 12:13 pm ]
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Thanks. I think that's all the help I needed for this set. I'll see how we match on wednessday and act accordingly. Till then I will be occupied by this moving out misery and studying, but perhaps I can create some time to go out a little. I'm so damn bored when I'm not around people :D
Author:  In$tinct [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 4:57 pm ]
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Okay... I'm laughing right now. I just went to the grocery and to have a coffee together with the girl who lives 3 doors next to me. I'm so happy right now. Not because of the girl, but because I now see all the hard work I've done is paying off. I wasn't just "telling myself" I've got opportunities. Reality has shown itself.

On top of that, this one is really hot... not an easy one though, but as far as I know she's single...and it wasn't me who had the idea... she came to ask for a cigarette and we talked a bit, I told her I needed to go to the shop and she said that she also needed to, and suggested we went together. In the shop she said we could go to the school to grab a coffee from the machine since the little shop is closed on sunday.

But this is funny because I haven't really talked to this girl before. I've met her at an exam last year, and since then we were just sort of saying hi and if I remember right we've gone together with the same bus like twice or so. And after this break-up thing I've noticed a significant increase in her interest in me. We've talked more and now this happens... I'm honestly saying that I haven't done anything for this to happen. I've never even thought about banging this chick, at least not until now, but that was probably because I had my girlfriend back then.

Now the best thing about this is knowing that before I was into pick-up, not only is that I wouldn't have a chance with a girl like that, but I would have been crying like a baby for at least months before I can move on after a break-up, and now only one and a half week later I look at myself and I see a happy person. This is just a cherry on top. Let this be a lesson to myself, and everyone else after a break-up that we REALLY have an unimaginable amount of opportunities.

Instinct is back on board.
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