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Author:  Eternal-Water [ Tue Apr 24, 2012 5:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Have you ever or do you ever solo sarge in clubs?
I'm talking specifically nightclubs here, not bars or anything.

Have you ever gone to a club by yourself to work on the girls alone?

I'm 21 and at Uni but the city where I'm at I have zero going out friends, I have going out friends at home but not at Uni.

've never gone solo sarging at clubs before but If I want to go out and meet girls its my only choice, so have you done that and do you have any tips?
Author:  silverito [ Tue Apr 24, 2012 5:48 pm ]
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Yes, best success is when I go alone - all the attention is on chicks, as opposed to split attention on freinds and chicks.
Author:  xZEROx [ Tue Apr 24, 2012 5:58 pm ]
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yes, i found it hard at first, and i always used to get asked 'where are your friends' etc., which threw me off

I have now become much more comfortable on my own, previously i would hate to be seen alone in the club thus i was always walking through the club or approaching frantically

As i have done it more i have become much more relaxed and really don't give a fuck if im on my own, i lounge around the club in between sets and ironically now i never get asked 'where are your friends' or 'are you out alone'

It will toughen you up, force you to approach and learn how to be independent of wings. Highly recommend it!

(Also i have read lots of more experienced guys prefer being on their own because of greater success)
Author:  Eternal-Water [ Tue Apr 24, 2012 6:04 pm ]
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Excellent, what sort of time would you enter?

I'm thinking 11 cos you might not get in after midnight but you want everyone else to be reasonably merry when you start, and you probably want to get the early hours of the moning if you try and pull a ONS

Would you apprach large sets or start of trying to find singles?
Author:  xZEROx [ Tue Apr 24, 2012 6:15 pm ]
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i normally go late-ish like leave my house at 12pm, clubs here shut at 3pm. I go for an hour to an hour and a half. I found it too hard to stay out for long periods of time on my own, you may be different, i have known guys doing all nighters by themselves. You may like to go for longer, i go out a lot so its not really a big deal for me.

Basics
Try to get in a social mood, i open/ say hi to people as i walk to the club, then approach as soon as you enter, the first set you see.

Although, the best way i have found to get over any anxiety, not recommend for newbies, is search the club for the very hardest biggest set, walk up to the hottest girl in that set, go direct and stick in there for at least 2 minutes, after that you can walk away. This should clear your anxiety and normal sets will now look easy, though if your new it may destroy you, i've had guys openly laughing in my face before lol.
Author:  Techgame [ Tue Apr 24, 2012 6:26 pm ]
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Well I'm not a huge fan of busy nightclubs, but I often go out on my own to bars when I feel like a drink, and it's easy to startup conversations there.

I just open with whatever I feel like saying, and it generally snowballs into a conversation which ends nicely if I'm into it and she's digging me.

I'm an incredibly sarcastic fellow, so in response to the "where are your friends" question, I'll say something stupid that makes me laugh in my own head. Something like "off doing something retarded" or "all playing star trek online as usual". They usually perceive it as dorky, but cute and hirrarious, which is the image I love projecting.

From there I kinda just say whatever thought passes through my head and it's enough to seal the deal or at least seal a second date. Often in addition I'll make it an all night adventure where we go around and drink at random bars and parties and head to the beach to drink some more. Making an adventure out of the night is usually a real awesome time for women and they end up calling me and texting me a whole lot after that.

Key word: adventure.
Author:  Harrybob [ Tue Apr 24, 2012 6:51 pm ]
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Well, i do solo game as well in nightclubs and its actually easy to open. The hard thing, when doing soloing for me is to isolate the girl i want, cause most of the time, girls come in packs.... (haha ;)).

The best way to isolate a girl in solo game, i havent found that out yet. So if anyone has a hint how to do that, I am all ears.
Author:  Eternal-Water [ Tue Apr 24, 2012 7:03 pm ]
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thanks guys good stuff, I'm intending on my first solo sarge later tonight, pysching myself up.
Author:  4nik8r [ Tue Apr 24, 2012 8:38 pm ]
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I go out solo on occasion. It REALLY forces you to not be a wall flower and mingle.

It also helps when you walk into a place to just start high-fiveing people and look like you own the place when you walk in, even if you don't know anyone because from across the room that makes you look like the master of ceremonies (so to speak, and can become a DHV).

The same concept applied to me with business networking purposes. In fact, with those kinds of events I MAKE myself attend solo so there is no temptation to grab a table with a group of friends and miss out on networking opportunities because I didn't feel like mingling and hanging out with my friends was more comfortable.

Going out on a night hunt with your wingmen is an advantage I cannot dispute, but for a real confidence boost go out alone and see what you can do.
Author:  RetiredRodeo [ Tue Apr 24, 2012 9:17 pm ]
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Big deal if you're solo. You can ALWAYS use the same "meeting my friends..." FTC. Shit happens, they didn't show up - big deal, continue to work the set...

This is a non-issue. The real question is can you handle the AA by yourself?

RR
Author:  alrasch [ Tue Apr 24, 2012 9:33 pm ]
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i allways go solo in clubs because my friends do not have better thigns to do then playing video games so i have no other choice im going solo but when im in the club im not really alone caause i allrighty know alot of ppl there :)
Author:  Harrybob [ Wed Apr 25, 2012 1:35 am ]
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What can also help, if you are solo in a club, just talk to some guys, make some friends. That is actually pretty easy and before you know it your group is aproaching HBs. And that group gives you some reputation.
Author:  4nik8r [ Thu Apr 26, 2012 5:45 pm ]
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I'm an incredibly sarcastic fellow, so in response to the "where are your friends" question, I'll say something stupid that makes me laugh in my own head. Something like "off doing something retarded" or "all playing star trek online as usual". They usually perceive it as dorky, but cute and hirrarious, which is the image I love projecting.
Love that! I would substitute World of Warcraft for Star Trek, but then again Star Trek is more recognizable, I could see a super hot chick having no idea in hell what World of Warcraft is, even today.

Honestly, my usual response to that question is direct and to the point. I usually just tell them I am out alone, my friends didn't want to come out and I don't let other people determine whether I am going to have a good time.

That almost always generates respect and gives you DHV even though you think in your head that it does not — simply for the fact that it takes more balls to go out to the clubs by yourself and meet people and MOST people would not ever think of doing such a thing (men OR women).

However, it can also be awkward, but most of the times I have done this, I have ended up joining a large set to bar crawl or meander and the next bar we all bounce to I walk in with an entourage and nobody knows I just met these people.

Another trick is to strike it up with a set outside and carry on a conversation with them as you are walking into the club, then to anyone who may be looking it appears as though you came in with that group.
Author:  Eternal-Water [ Fri Apr 27, 2012 9:45 am ]
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Ok so I went to a club alone last night for the first time (as in first time alone)

I made my target to approach 10 and get 10 rejections (it was suggested on a different forum for beating AA)

Firstly the place was too loud to start a conversation with anyone, and it was also too crowded. I was also put off by the fact that they are hardly ever to be caught on their own.

I found one who was on her own but pussied out at the last second and turned away. Later I found another one, this one was sitting down looking at her phone so I forced myself into it.

Within seconds of talking to her I realise my mistake, she is smashed off her face, you know when they are close to tears and its just from alcohol, she was that drunk, couldn't stand up, and her phone didn't work (she was trying to call her friends) - I quickly moved on.



Eventually I found another and approached who wasn't drunk, didn't take long to get my first rejection, felt better after that.


Later I found 2 sitting on their own, and approached and got my second rejection, although I kind of cheated on that one by telling her the game and asking for the rejection like in the original post so it probably doesn't count.

Eventually I gave up on it and left, I realise I was probably giving out very insecure vibes being it my first time alone, but still only 3 approaches and I can't count the drunk one really

To recap I basically pussied out last night, dammm
Author:  xZEROx [ Fri Apr 27, 2012 1:05 pm ]
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Its very hard on your own, 3 approaches is a good start and a lot more than most chodes would do.

But the harsh truth - too loud = excuse (talk louder), too crowded = excuse (more sets), not on their own = excuse (go to a group).
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