What you need are baselines to measure your progress. Reliance on the subjective measurements of others is not good. However, insights from others are very valuable. There's a great difference.
Basically, what you can observe and count; you can measure.
For instance, before I studied pick up, women are often reluctant to say I'm handsome. I can measure this because the only girls that say I'm handsome are those that I'm already having sex with.
I knew I've improved a lot when girls, random strangers even, say straight up that I'm handsome. That's from zero to many. Right now, I just don't know how to f-close these girls who have shown massive indicators of interest so I'm lacking in this area. That's a baseline that I can observe and measure.
Another example is sex. During my younger years (second year high school and early college), I disappoint girls when I came too fast so I had to make it up through oral sex. I'm basically good at the f-theory back then. The disappointments were something I can measure because these were clearly observable, verbalized even, and something that I could count.
When I got a job in college as a freelance writer, I blew most of my earnings on sauna girls (prostitutes that are government regulated with weekly health check ups) so I can apply my theoretical knowledge in practical terms.
I knew I was doing great when sauna girls refuse to accept my payment other than the room charge I earlier paid when I fuck them. I also interviewed them so I know how to pleasure them most through my penis and how I fared out compared to most men. A sauna girl even made me her boyfriend and refuse to take on any other customers for the entire night so we can fuck from 8 or 9 pm until 6 or 7 am the next day.
You can apply the principle of baselines to yourself. Observe, measure, observe and measure again. That's the greatest feedback that you can have.
