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| Author: | darkside00 [ Mon Apr 23, 2012 1:24 am ] |
| Post subject: | Im I A Jerk For This? Advice Needed!!!! |
Hey guys just your average AFC here and i feel like shit right now. Here is why, ive been fucking this girl for a while now, i have been telling her shit like i like her, i find her very attractive, and all that other crap. But i treat her like shit especially after sex. She always try to please me even doe i mistreat her, matter of fact shes always trying to please every guy shes been with and they all dump her to the side after there done using her sexually or financially, i feel like a jerk because i did the same thing to her those other guys have done. I have done this to countless of other woman but never felt bad the way i feel right now, all she wants to do is please people and make them happy but at the end she gets shit. I'm i a jerk for this?. I never been really bad a getting woman the only reason i wanted to become a pua was to stop doing this woman i fucked, i want to have sexual relationships with woman but not make them feel used at the end, any advice guys? its really needed right about now. |
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| Author: | Teamwerx [ Mon Apr 23, 2012 1:38 am ] |
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I once read a quote on here and it basically said that you're always supposed to leave a girl better off than when you found her. I believe that to be incredibly true. I'm kinda shocked that you would treat a girl like that even though she's trying to please you. What's wrong with her that makes you wanna do that? Is she hideous? |
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| Author: | darkside00 [ Mon Apr 23, 2012 1:47 am ] |
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shes really cute, and to tell you the truth bro idk know why i do this to women, after sex its like i lose all emotions or attraction i have for the girl im fucking |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Mon Apr 23, 2012 3:45 am ] |
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Quote: shes really cute, and to tell you the truth bro idk know why i do this to women, after sex its like i lose all emotions or attraction i have for the girl im fucking
Your actions should reflect your thoughts. Be a man, but don't treat the girl like shit. She pleases you and you are supposed to reward that behavior, don't be counterproductive man. If you feel bad, just change your damn habits. |
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| Author: | TheGipsy [ Mon Apr 23, 2012 4:42 am ] |
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I'm not saying you are a Jerk, but, I'm sorry, you act like one. On the other hand, I know a girl who I eventually make out, who is/was deeply in love with a guy who treat her like shit. I knew more women like that. And have already tried to act like that to score them, and it just didn't feel right. Wasn't me. I can't think of a reason any girl should be treated bad. Mainly after sex, when she gave you what she could to make you happy. Maybe, this "Treat her like shit stuff" is just a way of playing push pull. And maybe some girls like it this way. But, to me, this exceeds all the limits of Push/Pulling. |
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| Author: | MisterFister103 [ Mon Apr 23, 2012 4:43 am ] |
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Dude you've already got her. Treat her like a lady. Don't be like every other asshole out there. Being a sarcastic dick is for when you're trying to get her to want you. Now that she's had you, you don't have to be that guy anymore. If you feel bad about being an asshole, here's a word of advice...... Don't be an asshole!!! |
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| Author: | Consequences_ [ Mon Apr 23, 2012 1:22 pm ] |
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I think I know where your coming from. Girls that Ive slept with within the first few dates I tend to lose interest VERY quickly. I think its a mental thing with me where it was fun for a bit but I dont want to date a slut so I just push her away. But, instead of telling her I dont want to see her anymore, I like to keep them around as a fuck buddy or fling for when Im lonely so I just gradually lose interest or tell them Im not interested in a relationship. Ive fell "In love" with 2 girls. Both girls I didnt have sex with for 3 months. I believe I fell in love partly because I didnt see them as the neighborhood slut thats gonna give it up to anybody. But, my advice to you, is fucking stop. You dont have to have an hour conversation, but just kinda lay there with her for 10-15 minutes, kiss her neck gently and her body, then roll over and go to sleep. |
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| Author: | EddieFews [ Mon Apr 23, 2012 2:06 pm ] |
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The sad reality is, this girl got what she deserved and I don't mean that in a negative way. If this is something that's keeps happening to her it is because this is all she feels she is worth. Don't feel bad unless you forced her into having sex and giving you things. She made the decesion and she knows what happens when she keeps making the same choices she did with everyy other guy with you. You taught her a lesson hopefully, and that is the harsh truth. Maybe now she'll get some self worth and stop letting people walk over her. Just my 2 cents |
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| Author: | Little Panda [ Mon Apr 23, 2012 2:26 pm ] |
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Have you tried . . . not doing being a jerk? |
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| Author: | Bearer [ Mon Apr 23, 2012 2:33 pm ] |
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Leave her better than you found her. If you're genuinly not interested in this girl for more than a fuck then you need to sit down with her and make your feelings clear - you owe her that as a minimum. The other dick's she saw probably never even thought about that part. The fact you've posted this in the first place shows you have a slightly higher emotional connection to her than the other girls you've treated like shit, otherwise why would you ask? Ongoing you should express your intent from the start. If you don't want a relationship then state that BEFORE you fuck these girls. If you do this in the right way and have built enough attraction then they will still fuck you. On top of this you will have no guilty conscience afterwards. Bearer |
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| Author: | RetiredRodeo [ Mon Apr 23, 2012 3:00 pm ] |
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It's all based on paradigm dude. Put the paradigm in HER heda that you're NOT that guy, and you can set up an exit strategy when you're getting to know her. Then at the right moment - you can bounce, and NOT be the dick. In your brain - sure, you're a dick... in HER mind - you're a sensitive, strong man who is open and this relationship can't work for _____ reason, but you're up front about it. Bottom line: Every woman has the love life she wants. If she's being walked over time and time again - she's asking for it, and has NO problems with it, or she'd change it. I'm more callous. I don't give a fuck - it's not my job to run anyone's life but my very own, and I don't force any chick to do a damn thing. She does it willingly. So, if she willingly fucks you - enjoy it and stop worrying about it. RR |
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| Author: | DJ_Z [ Mon Apr 23, 2012 3:24 pm ] |
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You're an ass, get professional help if you can't change on your own. |
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| Author: | Tr@veler [ Mon Apr 23, 2012 4:16 pm ] |
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How about you stop being a fucking dick? I'm just saying, that's another human being there that you're mistreating (in your own words). Why would you do that? Be very honest with yourself and look at your personality. This is a mental thing. On the other hand, the others are right. She is attracted to guys like you. She wants to change you, and the fact that she can't makes her drawn to you. But seriously though, get your shit together and stop mistreating girls. Be the better man. If you don't like yourself for what you're doing, then stop it, tell her how you feel, tell her she's a stupid bitch for sticking with guys who mistreat her and it IS her damn fault. But how about being a good person to a girl once in a while? |
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| Author: | darkside00 [ Mon Apr 23, 2012 10:28 pm ] |
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well can you blame me for acting this way, i mean i been doing this for as long as i can remember and it seems to work on 90% of woman i get intimate with. But im welling to change if i can still get the same results with women from when i was a jerk. I need positive comments on how to change my ways and still get the same results, not emotional guys on here telling how im a jerk and all that other BS |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Mon Apr 23, 2012 10:46 pm ] |
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Quote: well can you blame me for acting this way, i mean i been doing this for as long as i can remember and it seems to work on 90% of woman i get intimate with. But im welling to change if i can still get the same results with women from when i was a jerk. I need positive comments on how to change my ways and still get the same results, not emotional guys on here telling how im a jerk and all that other BS
We aren't being emotional, it's more along the lines of common sense. You are well aware of your actions, but yet you still continue doing them. Instead, the focus should be on yourself, do you want to continue doing this to women for the rest of your life? Can you live with that? Of course you can get the same results without being an asshole. It's not emotional, it's criticism. |
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