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Author:  Justeffy [ Sat Apr 21, 2012 9:58 am ]
Post subject:  Accidentally rejected a HB9 :(
Last night I was at the club with a friend.
We were at the dancefloor and suddenly a short really cute HB9 stepped up to m with a balanced smile and started talking.

Me: Do I know you? *gently pushed her away from me, with a little smile*
She: I don't know *smiled and slowly walked up to me again - dancing.*
Me: I dunno either *again I smiled and gently pushed her away a bit*
She: Cocky today, are we? *smiled and continued dancing in front of me*
Me: That's me *flirty facial expression*

I then kino'ed her a bit by grabbing her hands and raised 'em up the air, I then let go of 'em as if I didn't really care.

This worked soooo good, and I felt like it was working properly.

My friend suggested we'd hit the top floor upstairs, so we walked up, and she followed us to the top dancefloor.

We started dancing again, she moved up closer to me aqain, and I gently pushed her away again.

BIG mistake. The poor girl instantly looked depressed and smoothly walked down.
She wasn't even playing. She really got depressed, and felt rejected.

I was such an a**hole to the poor girl.
And nothing good came of it.
F**k that 3'rd push was too much.
I held my shields for too long.

I didn't see her again that night.
The only thing that happened was I raised my value, and sank her value :(

When do you guys think I should've started shown more interest in her?
Since she was clearly interested in me from the start, should I have pushed her away at all?
1, 2 or zero pushes?

I feel like 1 or 2 would've been perfect.
Author:  NikAFC [ Sat Apr 21, 2012 10:36 am ]
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Don't worry about her too much dude. Actually the reason you didn't see her again was probably that she got laid by the time you were still dancing. I don't really feel like helping u cause that's what u did is just sad but ..Put yourself in her situation. There is nothing wrong with pushing a girl. Puas do it all the time. Thing is u wanna push/pull not just push push. Girl do love this but if I was that girl I'd go away earlier no matter how good dancer u are. And tbh I really doubt any hb 9 would do this. Probably u overrated her. Try just dancing with the girl next time. Show her what u've got. Get comfortable with toching her fast and kiss her then back away maybe a good time to push her gently. Learn the difference between being a douche and being a pua
Author:  Radar01 [ Sat Apr 21, 2012 11:29 am ]
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Think about what you did. Logically why would you push a girl away who was attracted to you it makes no sense whatsoever.
Author:  Justeffy [ Sat Apr 21, 2012 12:54 pm ]
Post subject: 
Imma let yr advice sink in.

One thing, tho.
I did not overrate her - beaty lies in the eye of the beholder, after all.

If I see a 10, you might think she's a 7.
If you see a 9, I might think she's a 5, and so on.

I did pull a little bit, but I pushed more, which was dumb.
I'll work on the balance from here on.
Quote:
Think about what you did. Logically why would you push a girl away who was attracted to you it makes no sense whatsoever.
To show her that I dont approve all approaches from girls, thus making her want me more.
But like I said. I overdid it.
One push would've been enough.
Author:  xZEROx [ Sat Apr 21, 2012 2:33 pm ]
Post subject: 
this isn't a sticking point

but don't keep pushing her away, maybe once is cool as a bit of a flirt, but not again and again, its quite clear what you did wrong here.

you stopped her from escalting, pushing the interaction forward, she was clearly into you, in these situations just go with the flow, the work is done, lead, escalate, bounce etc.
Author:  Radar01 [ Sat Apr 21, 2012 3:21 pm ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
To show her that I dont approve all approaches from girls, thus making her want me more.
But like I said. I overdid it.
One push would've been enough.
There is no need. Techniques like false disqualification or 'negging' are counter productive and can get you blown out (been there before) when attraction is already there.
I agree with xZerox. In this situation all you had to was escalate and you could do anything you wanted. Number/k close or probably a SNL.
Author:  Justeffy [ Sun Apr 22, 2012 8:09 pm ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
but don't keep pushing her away, maybe once is cool as a bit of a flirt, but not again and again, its quite clear what you did wrong here.

you stopped her from escalting, pushing the interaction forward, she was clearly into you, in these situations just go with the flow, the work is done, lead, escalate, bounce etc.
You're right.
F**k I hate myself sometimes, haha.

Sometimes I get afraid that the girl will see me as low value if I take the bait right away :/
Author:  titanman [ Sun Apr 22, 2012 8:50 pm ]
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Guilty of this. I used to play very disinterested etc thinking it was the way to go. Nothing happend so I did the opposite.

I show interest and when a girl acts like your girl did, maybe the first times act slightly cocky to get her a bit interested but once she starts following and coming onto you, it's time to pull her close and escalate it.

Many guys think acting disinterested in the way to go, in fact it's the opposite.
Author:  Tr@veler [ Sun Apr 22, 2012 10:48 pm ]
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You should forget "pushing" or "pulling" or "negging" in my opinion. Remember to just HAVE FUN. And sometimes it is god damn fun to push her away a little bit. But don't do it for the sake of "lowering her value" or negging her. Do it because you both are having fun. It's just like teasing.

But don't worry about it. I've had similar situations. A girl got really pissed at me once and spilled her drink down my back.
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