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Author:  Harrybob [ Fri Apr 20, 2012 4:08 pm ]
Post subject:  I have a pretty strange problem after aproaching
Well, i have a pretty strange problem.

First of all I am 32 (so pretty old, yeah!) and i am fairly new to the whole pua thing. I am not especially good looking, but not completely ugly either. (Well i had more hairs back in the days ;)).

Well, my thing is, i have nearly no AA, i can easily open a set. I even don't need that 3 second rule, i have absolutely no problem standing beside a set and open after 30 seconds. So far that sounds really great because lot of people have AA.

But the very strange problem I have is this: I usually open using the mystery method and after I opened i usually close the after 2 Minutes and leave.... for good. And i can't really change it, it feels like i don't want to be too long at a set, because i don't want to disturb anyone.

I read that you should build some time pressure like "I have to go soon, got a meeting tomorrow", but i really go through with it and leave then, even i don't really want to.

Its really so rediculous, last night i opened a set with the question "Are you from italy?". The girls where surely not from italy but i love that opener, because they instantly respond "No, why do you think that? Do we look like italiens?". Well, after 2 Minutes another girl appeared, aparently a friend of the others and wanted to know my name and stuff.

I then said, that i had business to attend to in the next morning so i got to go. And then i was gone. And thats it.... The girls sent me all kinds of IOI, but after 5 Minutes i backed out.

What can i do against that? Sounds stupid, but it happens to me everytime. One time i backing out of a set after 3 Minutes and the girl asks me: "Hey, don't you even want to know my number?" and i felt so stupid, that i just said: "Na, next time, bye bye and have fun."

Thing is, i am really afraid of going any further or leave a set open. So how do you find that balance in giving the impression that you want to go, but don't actually go. I always think its kind of stupid, to say i have to get going, and then just stay ^^

Any help is highly appreciated.
Author:  agentprovocateur [ Fri Apr 20, 2012 5:11 pm ]
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next time you'er offered a number take out your phone, give it to her to enter her info and just shut the fuck up
Author:  Harrybob [ Fri Apr 20, 2012 6:01 pm ]
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@agent: Yeah, i will definitely do that. :)

But how do you do that, tell the set that you have to go without actually going ^^
Author:  Midrange [ Fri Apr 20, 2012 7:42 pm ]
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@agent: Yeah, i will definitely do that. :)

But how do you do that, tell the set that you have to go without actually going ^^
if you don't want to actually go why would you tell them you have to?
Author:  charblad [ Fri Apr 20, 2012 8:54 pm ]
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if you don't want to actually go why would you tell them you have to?
It's a PUA tactic called "time bridging", it gives you a way out if the set isn't working, and it also DHV's you for being "popular" and "in demand"

Although I do agree, if you don't want to go, don't tell them you need to; bringing up the need to leave during a conversation is a lot harder than before the convo
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next time you're offered a number take out your phone, give it to her to enter her info and just shut the fuck up
Lol, true though..
Author:  Harrybob [ Sun Apr 22, 2012 11:05 pm ]
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Just wanted to let you know, that i did try it again, and it worked way better that time. I got a girl to kiss with me in about 20 minutes..... wow. (Yeah, well, that was more luck than skill, i know, but i am working on it :)).
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