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| Author: | natedizzle [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 3:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Is pick-up the only way to get good with girls? |
I know that question sounds crazy but isn't the main aspect of pickup confidence? Is talking to a bunch of strangers the only way to get confidence?, or can you work on other aspects of your life, like getting a job and staying busy first, so you get to know yourself on a deeper level and become strong with your values. Personally I have a really tough time talking to strangers to improve myself, and it just hasn't worked for me. I have nothing against it but I just don't have the time to drive 30 minutes into town everyday and talk to people. Basically my question is, can you develop confidence to the point where you are not worried about what people think of you or getting with a girl that night, without having to talk to strangers all the time? |
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| Author: | EddieFews [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 4:09 pm ] |
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Of course there is never one route to anything bro, however plently of the guys that come to me for coaching have great jobs, hobbies and friends but just can't seem to get laid as much as they'd like to. I also have friends that can act like complete fools in public and not give a shit what another thinks but still can't walk up to a girl and talk to them. |
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| Author: | Don Horneone [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 4:24 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is pick-up the only way to get good with girls? |
Quote: Is talking to a bunch of strangers the only way to get confidence?, or can you work on other aspects of your life, like getting a job and staying busy first, so you get to know yourself on a deeper level and become strong with your values.
I totally feel where you're coming from with that question. "Getting to know myself on a deeper level and becoming strong with my values" is exactly what I've done in recent years and yet you can do that and still be totally ill at ease and unconfident socially. Knowing who you are when you're alone is one thing, but being able to communicate yourself effectively to others, especially people you don't know is another, and requires a specific skill set. I don't think PUA is necessarily the only answer, but I think being socially confident requires specific social skills, in the same way that being an confident as an accountant requires skills in accounting.
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