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Author:  thatoneboy [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 4:56 am ]
Post subject:  Feels weird to approach
Alright im a newbie pua, probably closer to an afc but whatever. So im not having problems saying hi to girls im near or walking by, but i have a hard time approaching, because i feel like itd come off as weird or desperate to walk directly at a girl in the middle of the day just to talk to her. am i wrong or am i doing something wrong?
Author:  AmazingArt [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 6:16 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Feels weird to approach
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Alright im a newbie pua, probably closer to an afc but whatever. So im not having problems saying hi to girls im near or walking by, but i have a hard time approaching, because i feel like itd come off as weird or desperate to walk directly at a girl in the middle of the day just to talk to her. am i wrong or am i doing something wrong?
Well yea you cant argue on what you feel. It's true it is weird approaching a girl for you. Reason being is you give yourself less value than you have. Your mindset is in the reverse gear now. You think of what others think of you and that gets you messed up. Real PUA don't think if it will look weird or not and they just do it. People right now might just start naming you reasons why it;s ok to approach and why the girl think your not weird but at the end of the day there will be voices in your head disputing all these reasons and telling you that this is a different case and therefore you shouldn't approach. Now the way out of this is to understand that there is no reason you should approach her but there is no reason you shouldn't but you just will do it because you want to. Take 2 papers on one write what you think will happen to you if stay the way you are now (AFC) and dont approach girls for the next ten years. On the other sheet write who you think you'll be in 10 years if you do approach girls every day. This should definitely help you.
Author:  CaptainJackHarkness [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 6:27 am ]
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Mystery put it best. Even the best pickup artist's still have this feeling, but its less pronounced. This is like a hard-wired circuit of flight or fight. In the old days, if you picked the wrong girl and it was a tribal leader's girl you would actually be put to death. If you chose a wrong girl and something went wrong, you could be excluded from a social circle and be humiliated in general.

Social circles DO exist...but really man when it comes to approach...think nike "JUST DO IT"

Swear to god....that JUST DO IT will change your life.
Author:  jiggleben [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 11:26 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Feels weird to approach
Quote:
Alright im a newbie pua, probably closer to an afc but whatever. So im not having problems saying hi to girls im near or walking by, but i have a hard time approaching, because i feel like itd come off as weird or desperate to walk directly at a girl in the middle of the day just to talk to her. am i wrong or am i doing something wrong?

this is what you did wrong:

-"Alright im a newbie pua, probably closer to an afc"
no. this is wrong. if you ever say anything like that to a girl she will believe you and she'll go away.
-"i have a hard time approaching, because i feel like itd come off as weird or desperate"
i am weird and desperate. no one cares. i have learned how to be my own cheerleader. the truth is the only way you're going to grow in skill is if you go out and practice. everyone gets rejected. make it funny.
-"am i wrong or am i doing something wrong?"
the thing you did wrong is focus on whats wrong.

here is they key:
talk about what you want not what you don't want.
you are not "afc". you're the frackin boss
you posted "i have a hard time approaching".
what the hell is that? delete it now. from now on you will focus on what's good.

if you don't talk a lot then you are a good listener. if you are fat then there is so much of you to love. if its rejection then its A LEARNING! if you talk too much then you are talkative.

focus on what's right, funny, exciting or amazing.
learn a little bit about FRAME CONTROL and do it right.
Author:  titanman [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 2:08 pm ]
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Approaching is generally weird/strange. Girls will at first be thinking "who the fucks this guy" but you can quickly change it into a very normal, friendly SPAM.

The less strange approaches is when it's all rather natural, like you start talking to a girl next to you on the plane. That's normal and half expected.

But you have to approach, and if you do it right it won't seem too weird for the first few seconds.
Author:  EddieFews [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 4:05 pm ]
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Its only weird in your head and if its done right girls will give you the "wow" response 80% of the time.

Almost every girl i approach says they wish all guys had the courage to do the same thing, who doesn't want to be approached by some fun cool person, given a great conversation and the potential to take things further.
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