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| Author: | Pbblade [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 1:30 am ] |
| Post subject: | Help me man up & pull the lever. |
Seriously, I cant wait to finally get over my escalation anxiety! Met this cute girl, been talking to her for a while now, had some awesome conversations and it was clear that she liked me. Everytime she hints me I cant escalate, just now she was talking about me teaching her something and I couldn't just be like Hey, how about we go do it next thursday? I was still thinking ''what if she says no''. I approached the situation differently and was more like That'd be pretty awesome with alot of bullshit. After that we still flirted a little. We went on a day 2 before and she texted me after that her day was perfect, she really enjoyed it and so on so the hints are clear. The problem is that I'm not sure what to do, when & how. Should I get to know her better? Just meet for another date and K-close her? Despite this maybe being a one-intus, I dont let it influence my other approaches, but I do have serious interest in a possible outcome with her. |
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| Author: | CaptainJackHarkness [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 1:44 am ] |
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I mean if you are saying "I know she likes me" then you need to just man it up and do it. I hate to say it like that, but really if you don't and you keep flirting then you can just end up in the friend zone. Seems like theres no real sexual tension there. |
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| Author: | doclift [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 1:53 am ] |
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You have to escalate with her. Here is some advice I gave another member earlier: "On the other hand, not escalating with a woman, often times carries very serious consequences." ... "She is going to wonder why you aren't making the moves and this typically results in one of three conclusions. 1.) You aren't attracted to her. 2.) You aren't confident and decisive enough to take what you want. 3) She backwards-rationalizes it and concludes that it didn't happen because she wasn't into you. Rejection hurts. With the first option, she has to consider the fact that she may not be attractive. If she's an attractive woman of value, you can bet that she'd rather consider the other two options in an effort to avoid pain. If she takes the second option, then she has to face the fact that she incorrectly evaluated you as a man with survival value, and has wasted a considerable amount of time. This can also lead to embarrassment. The last option is the most likely and it's a death sentence. When a woman decides that the chemistry isn't there, the game is over. You're in the fast lane to the friend zone." Take control of the situation and make your move. |
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| Author: | Pbblade [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 2:21 am ] |
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Quote: You have to escalate with her. Here is some advice I gave another member earlier:
Appreciate the advice bro, I really do."On the other hand, not escalating with a woman, often times carries very serious consequences." ... "She is going to wonder why you aren't making the moves and this typically results in one of three conclusions. 1.) You aren't attracted to her. 2.) You aren't confident and decisive enough to take what you want. 3) She backwards-rationalizes it and concludes that it didn't happen because she wasn't into you. Rejection hurts. With the first option, she has to consider the fact that she may not be attractive. If she's an attractive woman of value, you can bet that she'd rather consider the other two options in an effort to avoid pain. If she takes the second option, then she has to face the fact that she incorrectly evaluated you as a man with survival value, and has wasted a considerable amount of time. This can also lead to embarrassment. The last option is the most likely and it's a death sentence. When a woman decides that the chemistry isn't there, the game is over. You're in the fast lane to the friend zone." Take control of the situation and make your move. I do understand that escalation really needs to happen, when I'm gaming with a girl and the tension is there, the more it happends the more I become disinterested over time. I suppose it's natural. I absolutely understand everything You say and it's all just a mental mess. I'm generally a very confident guy and it's not exactly the confidence that throws me off my horse, I just spend to much time thinking instead of acting. I've seriously had some amazing conversations with her and She's been telling me over & over again how much she likes me etc yet I still cant make the move, it's rather sad. When it comes down to escalation / closing i'm seriously retarded. It's like i'm trying to find excuses why I should wait. Anyway, enough is enough. I've decided to ask her out again next weekend and escalate the shit out of the situation. Open up great, escalate physically and go in for a K-close. Thanks alot for that mate, Your advice has hit the right spot and I'm gonna go for it. |
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| Author: | doclift [ Sun Apr 15, 2012 5:52 pm ] |
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You've got this. Let us know how it goes. |
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| Author: | christpa [ Mon Apr 16, 2012 1:36 am ] |
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Take her somewhere that's somewhat isolated and low-pressure, even if it's after the date. Go to dinner and they go take a walk on the beach, for example. Or really just walk around anywhere at night (so long as it isn't sketchy). Put your arm around her and keep walking, acting natural, continuing conversation, etc. After a minute stop her, look in her eyes, and slowly lean in and kiss her. Make sure there are no people around first though. Afterward, say something playful like "you're cute" or "sorry, I couldn't resist". This always works for me. |
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