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Author:  mapleleaf [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 1:57 am ]
Post subject:  What can I do to improve my pick up next time?
So, it was all of a weird situation. I was at a store shopping my jeans, and this girl who works there approached me and asked me if I needed any help. So, I asked if these skinny jeans will look good for me, and not make me look like a lady. She started to help me out and eventually we got into a conversation, about her, when I asked her what college she goes to and other stuff. I had a feeling that I could have picked her up and got her number right then. But, I started to feel a little nervous, and ran out of things to say to her. So, I ended the conversation by saying that " It was nice talking to you" and left. I know she wanted to carry on the conversation b/c she started to stand there and was listening to what I was saying, and also she asked what I am studying in college.

What can I do to better and not get nervous next time? When I talk to girls in my class I don't feel nervous. I don't know what happened. It was so random. I wasnt even trying to pick her up, but at the middle of the conversation, I thought I might give it a try and then I started to feel nervous. Also, a dude who works there came and started to fold clothes right next to us, so we couldn't talk anymore.

My concern is that, the girl asking me, "Why in the world are you talking to me? and why are you asking personal questions?"

I see Paul Janka, picking up girls very easily.

I need more practice. BUT, I FELT so good after talking to that girl, and now I have learned how to start a conversation with a strange woman. Also, I believe that by approaching girls in malls, coffee shops and outside, I will be better in this game.

So what can do to improve myself? My major concern. 1) keeping the conversation fluent, and not running out of stuffs; 2) not feeling nervous.
Author:  NikAFC [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 2:58 am ]
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So, it was all of a weird situation. I was at a store shopping my jeans, and this girl who works there approached me and asked me if I needed any help.
HAHAHHAHHAHHAHAHAHA stopped reading.
Author:  mapleleaf [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 3:12 am ]
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So, it was all of a weird situation. I was at a store shopping my jeans, and this girl who works there approached me and asked me if I needed any help.
HAHAHHAHHAHHAHAHAHA stopped reading.
whats so funny about it?
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 3:27 am ]
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I need more practice. BUT, I FELT so good after talking to that girl...

So what can do to improve myself? My major concern. 1) keeping the conversation fluent, and not running out of stuffs; 2) not feeling nervous.
You're on the right track. Savor the success step-by-step so you gain more confidence. Women find confident men sexy. Build your confidence level step-by-step by breaking down the courtship/seduction process into small parts and working up to the next higher level or stage. In this scenario, you have learned how to:
  • 1. Bait the girl to open you.
    2. Start a conversation.
    3. Involve the girl in the conversation to share.
Repeat this process at least 10 times with 10 different stranger girls. If you can hold a conversation for 1 to 2 minutes without getting blown off, then you're good. Once you master this stage, proceed to breaching the 4 minute mark. This is about two songs playing in the background.

How to Improve Your Conversation
  • 1. Memorize some canned stories and responses. So in case you run out of topics to talk about, then you can always go to these canned routines while thinking up of new topics that you can see around your environment.

    2. The nervousness will disappear after you have done this at least 10 times.
Skills are not made and polished overnight. :twisted:
Author:  USA [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 3:30 am ]
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Good job bro. It will get easier as you approach more women, and the nerves will very gradually and naturally level off with time and practice.

I agree that you definitely could've gotten a number close had you continued. But it's okay, just do it next time and eliminate the fear of rejection, and any limiting beliefs that made you second-guess yourself.

My suggestion to prevent running out of things to talk about, is to observe little things around you and play off of anything she tells you. This is usually easier in a mall setting, because there is relatively more interesting stuff going on around you that you can bring up (as opposed to say, on a subway/bus or grocery store, where you're more confined)

If that fails, you can always ask her about her past, how long she's been working there, her worst customers, etc. You guys can laugh about that. Then you can say something cocky-funny, make it so that she thinks you're one of her best customers. (I don't know what region of the U.S. you're in, but where I am, there is a heavy retiree clientele at the local malls here that are extremely demanding and give the workers here hell.)

Keep putting yourself out there man.
Author:  USA [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 3:40 am ]
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How to Improve Your Conversation
  • 1. Memorize some canned stories and responses. So in case you run out of topics to talk about, then you can always go to these canned routines while thinking up of new topics that you can see around your environment.

    2. The nervousness will disappear after you have done this at least 10 times.
Skills are not made and polished overnight. :twisted:
Ah, Hellbound, you beat me to it 8)
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 3:50 am ]
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^^ Next time, I'll see to it that you'll post first brother. :twisted:
Author:  CanuckEH [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 4:13 am ]
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In regards to the male employee who came over, why not ask him a simple question: "Hey man, do you wear skinny jeans?" or if you noticed that he was wearing skinny or baggy jeans than ask "I assume you like (this type) of jean?" He answers you, revert your attention back to the female. Should have made the situation less awkward and you could easily have continued to talk to her.
Author:  mapleleaf [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 4:35 am ]
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In regards to the male employee who came over, why not ask him a simple question: "Hey man, do you wear skinny jeans?" or if you noticed that he was wearing skinny or baggy jeans than ask "I assume you like (this type) of jean?" He answers you, revert your attention back to the female. Should have made the situation less awkward and you could easily have continued to talk to her.
Right now, I am planning to visit malls often and strike up a conversation with a woman who happens to be by herself, just walking around. I told one of my friend about what happened with this girl, and he told me that the girl who works there was talking to me because she gets paid to talk to customers. Is this true? When I asked her about her major, she asked about my major and what I want to do? I am not sure, how many of you have done this, but is it possible to pickup female employees at malls? Sometimes, there are other dudes who work there, and so there is the cock block situation.
Author:  mapleleaf [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 4:37 am ]
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Good job bro. It will get easier as you approach more women, and the nerves will very gradually and naturally level off with time and practice.

I agree that you definitely could've gotten a number close had you continued. But it's okay, just do it next time and eliminate the fear of rejection, and any limiting beliefs that made you second-guess yourself.

My suggestion to prevent running out of things to talk about, is to observe little things around you and play off of anything she tells you. This is usually easier in a mall setting, because there is relatively more interesting stuff going on around you that you can bring up (as opposed to say, on a subway/bus or grocery store, where you're more confined)

If that fails, you can always ask her about her past, how long she's been working there, her worst customers, etc. You guys can laugh about that. Then you can say something cocky-funny, make it so that she thinks you're one of her best customers. (I don't know what region of the U.S. you're in, but where I am, there is a heavy retiree clientele at the local malls here that are extremely demanding and give the workers here hell.)

Keep putting yourself out there man.
I am doing that. I am thinking of going to malls and coffee shops often and talk to women who happen to be walking alone. But lets say, that I ask her to catch up with me later, and she says, no, I have a boyfriend. What should I say then?
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Tue Apr 10, 2012 8:35 am ]
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I told one of my friend about what happened with this girl, and he told me that the girl who works there was talking to me because she gets paid to talk to customers. Is this true?
Of course it is. You use that fact to your advantage. A fellow PUA brother, RetiredRodeo, recently posted that he's sarging a doctor when his dad got confined in the hospital for cancer. Many normal, healthy, long term relationships started out this way. Lawyer and client, real estate broker and client, bank officer and client, insurance agent and client, nurse and patient, waitress and customer... The list is endless.
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When I asked her about her major, she asked about my major and what I want to do?
Social psychologists call this reciprocity or reciprocation. Use this technique to your advantage.
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I am not sure, how many of you have done this, but is it possible to pickup female employees at malls?
I do it all the time. I got several dates through this. But I don't just f-close anybody. I screen out the undesirables after the first date.
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Sometimes, there are other dudes who work there, and so there is the cock block situation.
It's not a problem. There are cockblock routines. Personally, I play punch male cockblocks with a dragon fist to the sternum and a light tap of my shin bone to their hamstring. Works all the time. :twisted:
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