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Author:  bartm [ Fri Apr 06, 2012 3:40 am ]
Post subject:  when I get a positive response, I freak out

Hi guys
most of the time, I get rejected/ignored.
When I get a positive response, I freak out and get the hell out of there.
When I get a positive response, I think "wow, I cant believe she is actually talking to me. I better get out of here before she finds out what a loser I am." I dont know what exactly I think, but it's something like that.
so I quickly end things and later I blame myself for not continuing. "you idiot, she was so into you" is what I think afterwards.
It's like I would rather get ignored/rejected/be told to go fuck myself than get a positive response. What the hell is my problem?

Author:  glazecase [ Fri Apr 06, 2012 3:51 am ]
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I think it's your confidence. Your worry of a later rejection as she got your hopes up. Like the saying 'the higher you go, the harder you fall'.

If you feel blank out or don't know what to say or freak out I would personally just be straight up with her and tell her exactly what's going through your head. At least then you know you did something than nothing. Say something like 'WOW! I normally never get this far into a conversation with a cute/hot girl like yourself. You make me feel really good so in response, I would like to thank you over a cup of the best coffee in town. Tim Horton/McDonald coffee(goal is to make her laugh a little and being honest could give her the impression your cute AND your giving her a complement at the same time!).'

Sorry if it's not much help as I'm still on my learning curve.

Like always, I wish you the best of luck and please share your result with us so we can all improve our game.

-Jax

Author:  asesino [ Fri Apr 06, 2012 3:54 am ]
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u dont know how to handle when someone likes u
u feel uncomfortable and akward cause u think what does she want from u and how could she possibly like me

so u r scared of making any sudden moves and scaring her off so u flee

Author:  bartm [ Fri Apr 06, 2012 3:57 am ]
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u dont know how to handle when someone likes u
u feel uncomfortable and akward cause u think what does she want from u and how could she possibly like me

so u r scared of making any sudden moves and scaring her off so u flee
exactly. I couldnt put it in words, but that sounds right.

Author:  asesino [ Fri Apr 06, 2012 4:00 am ]
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Quote:
Quote:
u dont know how to handle when someone likes u
u feel uncomfortable and akward cause u think what does she want from u and how could she possibly like me

so u r scared of making any sudden moves and scaring her off so u flee
exactly. I couldnt put it in words, but that sounds right.
im a therapist its my job to know

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