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Author:  mapleleaf [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 3:11 pm ]
Post subject:  How to make her my girlfriend?
I met this girl in my class a week ago. I think she is cute. I had a good first impression, I told her a bizzarre story about my life and I got her attention. The next day, when I came to class, she recognized me. We learned our names the very day. I have started to sit next to her from the second day. I see her 3x a week. When I tell her stories about something bizzare, she listens and actually responds to them. But how to get her to be my gf? IDK if she has a bf, or I think she doesnt, becuase she plays with her iphone in class during lecture, when most girls are checking their text messages.

What to do? What steps to take?
Author:  pumpington [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 3:17 pm ]
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ask her out, go out with her, get her alone, kiss her, have sex with her

rinse and repeat above steps over and over until she asks you to be her boyfriend
Author:  mapleleaf [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 3:22 pm ]
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ask her out, go out with her, get her alone, kiss her, have sex with her

rinse and repeat above steps over and over until she asks you to be her boyfriend
That was not what I was looking for. I was looking for picking her up. I should have asked the question that way. How to pick her up?
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 3:31 pm ]
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Bait for her kino (touch). When she touches you the 3rd time, ping her kino. Her kino will likely be a tap on your arm. On her 3rd tap, tap her arm too.

If it's love you want, put her into chase mode. Thus, you'll have to bait her kino. If it's sex you want, you can be more aggressive and start the kino yourself. But for day game, this is high risk especially when you don't want to have a negative reputation as a pervert.

After you complete this process, come back here and tell us the details so we can calibrate your next move. :twisted:
Author:  mapleleaf [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 3:39 pm ]
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Bait for her kino (touch). When she touches you the 3rd time, ping her kino. Her kino will likely be a tap on your arm. On her 3rd tap, tap her arm too.

If it's love you want, put her into chase mode. Thus, you'll have to bait her kino. If it's sex you want, you can be more aggressive and start the kino yourself. But for day game, this is high risk especially when you don't want to have a negative reputation as a pervert.

After you complete this process, come back here and tell us the details so we can calibrate your next move. :twisted:
Well, I touched her once, to get her attention. She responded back with a gentle look. Later she was holding a paper and asked if I wanted to see it. When we sit next to each other in lecture, we whisper a few times with the professor is teaching. I am totally comfortable touching girls.

Just letting you know that I met this 1 week before last week. How to get a quick rapport with her? How to connect with her instantly, so that if I ask her out, she will say yes. (I will invite her to something)

Also, how else should I touch her? I slightly tapped her arm to get her attention.
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 3:47 pm ]
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Since you are in chase mode, focus on the direct sexual approach rather than the indirect emotional approach. Don't make this mistake. Once you chase, go sexual and direct.

Amplify her sexual attraction now. Check this. a-baffling-problem-vt132092.html

Use science to your advantage. :twisted:
Author:  mapleleaf [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 4:10 pm ]
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Direct sexual approach? Like kino escalation? can you give me an example? she sits next to me in lecture hall. and we have seen each other 3 times in total. i think sexual advances at this point would make me come off as a pervert. an example would explain, make it like a scenario
Author:  Hakuna [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 4:40 pm ]
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Secksual advances will only make you look like a pervert if they're accompanied by undertones of desperation. And if she is the only girl you are talking to right now, or are in pursuit of, you probably have a desperate aura. That means your first job right now is to expand your horizons and to start talking to other girls.

Second is to increase the amount of secksuality you convey to her. Being branded a "pervert" and rejected by a girl for an approach too brazen is MUCH BETTER than chasing a girl for 6 months and getting LJBFed. Escalate, escalate, escalate. Ask her out with a bit of plausible deniability if you don't want to be directly secksual

You: "Yah, I'm going to _______ on sat with some friends, wanna come with?"
Her: "Yes, sure!"
You: "k, gimme your number i'll text you."

Kino escalation should be a given, and not just hugs and shit. Right now you're WAY TO outcome dependent. You're constantly thinking of fucking up and that paranoia will ebb into your confidence and decay your level of attraction. You need to become outcome INDEPENDENT and adopt an abundance mentality. Talk to other girls and don't get too attached to a single one. If you don't escalate or at least remain in a DOMINANT position, she will lose interest and desexualize your image.

Your biggest problem is that, right now, you are coming from a position BELOW her. You assume that she is of higher value and you WANT HER to become your girlfriend badly. This assumption probably permeates all of your communication with her and you subconsciously pedestalize her and become self-conscious of all your behavior. You need to come from a position ABOVE her and assume that you have HIGHER value than her. Let go of all thoughts that you might fail and always assume attraction and PUSH for the close.
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 5:12 pm ]
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Direct sexual approach? Like kino escalation? can you give me an example? she sits next to me in lecture hall. and we have seen each other 3 times in total. i think sexual advances at this point would make me come off as a pervert. an example would explain, make it like a scenario
First, read Chief's Guide to Outer Game, 2. The Compliance Ladder. 1-vt75887.html?start=0

Second, get a copy of Vin DiCarlo's Escalation Ladder. It's free.

Third, I cannot give you an example based on your situation because I can't see how your seats are constructed, I don't know if your lecture hall has a seating capacity of 600 or 1,000 or if you have a projection screen and lights are put off during lectures, I don't know if the girl you're sarging is a sorority member (you'll get mauled by her fraternity brothers if you make a wrong move. Trust me. I ran a fraternity before as a president. You'll GET MAULED.), and other conditions.

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Author:  mapleleaf [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 5:28 pm ]
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I cannot give you an example based on your situation because I can't see how your seats are constructed, I don't know if your lecture hall has a seating capacity of 600 or 1,000 or if you have a projection screen and lights are put off during lectures, I don't know if the girl you're sarging is a sorority member (you'll get mauled by her fraternity brothers if you make a wrong move. Trust me. I ran a fraternity before as a president. You'll GET MAULED.), and other conditions.

:twisted:
The lecture hall does not have a capacity, there are many empty seats, next to me and that girl. the lights are put off with a screen on. i am not sure whether she is in a sorority, or if she has a bf.

w/o making the situations scary, why dont u tell me what to do now. i will def. read those books you mentioned.
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 5:39 pm ]
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You'll have to calibrate your kino then because you still have to find out information about her so you can manage your risks well.

If she does not ping you back, then there's no compliance or rapport. That's lesson number one. As pumpington says, if there's no compliance, move on to the next girl.

However, you can bait for compliance by amplifying your sexual attractiveness first minus the kino. Read about those first and apply them in the real world. Those will be items 1 to 5 in the first link I've provided. When she pings your kino or you have more information about any possible risks involved, come back here for the details so we can calibrate. :twisted:
Author:  DJ_Z [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 6:54 pm ]
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At some point, you're going to have to think for yourself.
Author:  mapleleaf [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 7:03 pm ]
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(you'll get mauled by her fraternity brothers if you make a wrong move. Trust me. I ran a fraternity before as a president. You'll GET MAULED.), and other conditions.

:twisted:
Now I cant think of anything else, besides getting mauled every time I think of making a move on a girl. Its good to know, but this shit is killing me now. I was so good with my moves before you wrote that.
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 7:41 pm ]
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Now I cant think of anything else, besides getting mauled every time I think of making a move on a girl. Its good to know, but this shit is killing me now. I was so good with my moves before you wrote that.
First, know your terrain, know yourself and know your enemy. If you want to win most of the time, knowing these three factors are crucial. You're scared shit because you still lack preparation and practice.

You'll be good at this once you learn to be very observant. Did the girl wear any sorority t-shirts? Who are her friends? Being observant also allows you to weave good topics about the girl for wide rapport. You started with deep rapport on a topic about yourself.

You shot down pumpington's advice and yet you went the direct approach. Be observant and you'll win more and get into trouble less. :twisted:
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Sat Mar 31, 2012 7:52 pm ]
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Here, read Jackal's post. what-are-the-benifits-of-writing-field-r-vt132088.html
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