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Author:  Buffbuilder19 [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 12:53 am ]
Post subject:  Getting a girl with a boyfriend
Went on a date with a girl who I used to see. Then she texts me after:

Her: your smile is amazing
Me: no way
Her: yesss
Me: Too bad your not my girlfriend or you could see it everyday
Her: I can't do that I have a boyfriend
Me: I know, and it's good that your happy
Her: I guess
Me: You guess
Her: cause I reallllllllllllly liked you a lot in the summer
Me: I liked you too. Still do.
Her: Really? whyy tho??
Me: A bunch of reasons
Her: Tell me
Me: nope, ill tell you another time
Her: you always keep me waiting :(
Me: give me a chance and i never will again
her: *embarassed face* *sad face*
Me: don't be sad
Her: Im sad about things with us
Me: but you have a boyfriend you love
her: i knowww
Me: Should we stop talking
her: why would i want to do that
me: your unhappy with our situation
her: im in love with him but im not gonna lie i think about you in the back of my mind. yesterday when we were together you dont know how hard it was not to kiss you
me: i know, i felt the same way
her: i dont know what to doo

Then we stopped talking

Should I keep trying? If so, how do I go about getting her to leave him for me? the SMT worked somewhat, but she mostly says "I guess" in response to SMT. I'm more attractive than him and she tells me it, but she doesn't trust me because I blew her off in the summer and stopped talking to her.
I need to regain her trust again but I'm not sure how to do it. She wants to go out for dinner, but I'm not sure how I should play it. Maybe I should use jealousy techniques?
Author:  Rough Operator [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 12:55 am ]
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It's on. Game her as normal, act like she doesn't have a boyfriend.
Author:  Slip n Slide [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 1:37 am ]
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Agreed, it's on. Her boyfriend isn't exciting to her.

It's good that you carried this conversation far enough that she brought up kissing you.

Play a little bit of hot/cold with her. For example, if she texts you a question during the day, you can respond "Yeah" or "No" then stop replying after that. Then, pretty late one night send her "Babe, I cant sleep..."
If she's up, that can turn sexual so fast. If she's not, it implies sexuality and she'll reply in the morning "Aww wish I had been awake" or something.

Go on a date with her, don't talk about her boyfriend at all. If she brings him up, say "I don't want to talk about him tonight." Make sure you go for a kiss on that date!

GET THAT KISS BRO, thats the important part!
Author:  Lockdown [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 2:44 am ]
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You say you want to regain her trust? When/how did you lose it?

Also, before you go much further with this, try figure out what you want out of it. If you want her as a ltr or whatever then you're going to need to approach it totally differently than if you just wanted to bang her on the side and let her go back to her bf, and vice versa.
Author:  Consequences_ [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 12:36 pm ]
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See this kinda of shit is why I hate fucking women. "I love my boyfriend blah blah blah" but she obviously wants to get sexual with you.

If your wanting to date her, think twice. As far as moving forward towards her vagina, your golden. The advice 2 posts above is solid.
Author:  RetiredRodeo [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 12:45 pm ]
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Kiss this woman. Next time you isolate her.... Do the caveman!

She's sending every signal.

"I have a boyfriend that I love but I was thinking about kissing you" You even pulled a takeaway, and she wouldn't let you go.

Dude close this shit immediately.

Whenever a lady says she has a boyfriend.... I tell her I'm not interested in dating him... and that if she's ready to upgrade her standards, I'd be willing to see if I could pencil her in...

The secret is in knowing her mindset - always make her think you're qualifying her. Never let her think her assessment of you means shit.


By the way... at the top of the post, you wrote this is a girl you just got back from a date with? If it was a date, why are we talking here? Did you play 'nice guy' and not make a move?
Author:  Buffbuilder19 [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 5:12 pm ]
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You say you want to regain her trust? When/how did you lose it?

Also, before you go much further with this, try figure out what you want out of it. If you want her as a ltr or whatever then you're going to need to approach it totally differently than if you just wanted to bang her on the side and let her go back to her bf, and vice versa.
She wanted me before, about 6 months ago and I started dating some other girl right away and ignored her, so I pretty much fucked myself up on that one.
I want to date her, but not if she's going to do the same thing to me, obviously. Which she probably will.

And to Rodeo, we went for ice cream, then went to the park. She wanted to go to a movie but then I was like "reach my house instead" and we ended up there. I said "let's go cuddle" lol and she was like okay and we did, she was like looking at me, touching my eyelashes and then her mom called and said she had to go home, so I brought her home.

Now, she might have had last-minute guilt or something and maybe that's why she had to go home, or maybe her mom actually wanted her home. The latter is very likely because I know how her mom is. Either way, I missed that chance.

She wants to go to dinner on Saturday, so I agreed to that. I was thinking of telling her I have another date, but I decided fuck it. But if I could get her over afterwards I'll definitely be able to seal the deal.

Pretty much, now all I need to do is to escalate things and somehow get her interested and make her forget about him.
Author:  Buffbuilder19 [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 5:15 pm ]
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Not sure where to go with this, lol.

Me: I have dreams about you too often
Her: Really? what was I doing in your dream
Me: That's for me to know and you to wonder
Her: Lol tell me

I usually get stuck in these situations because I get them interested with something and then don't keep them interested enough after I tell them

Oh and last thing, I was definitely going to kiss that night when I had the chance, but I could tell she was pretty nervous already being in bed with me, saying things like "Close your eyes" shit like that. I was already cuddling with her, and she was letting me place my hand wherever. Her back, her ass, and her hand. Figured two steps forward and one step back, but I might have been off on that.
Author:  RetiredRodeo [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 5:19 pm ]
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Not sure where to go with this, lol.

Me: I have dreams about you too often
Her: Really? what was I doing in your dream
Me: That's for me to know and you to wonder
Her: Lol tell me

I usually get stuck in these situations because I get them interested with something and then don't keep them interested enough after I tell them
Play the "I've got a secret" game minimally...

Now, evoke her fantasy-mind...

Now try this: "How bout this - when next we meet, I'm going to get you alone, look deep into your eyes, put my hands on your elbows and squeeze you closer to me, breathe gently on your neck as I move slowly to your ear..."

then... wait 3 minutes... and send "...then I'll tell you what I was dreaming... it really wasn't that important."


You'll build her mind in this fantasy as she imagines you doing the things she's reading... then you give her JUST enough time to perpetuate that thought, until you neg her with the takeaway - which still is playful, and on par with the thread.

Just a suggestion....
Author:  RetiredRodeo [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 5:22 pm ]
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I figure you're F-closing this weekend... LOL... Sounds like it's pretty much in the bag.
Author:  Buffbuilder19 [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 5:29 pm ]
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I figure you're F-closing this weekend... LOL... Sounds like it's pretty much in the bag.
Perfect dude, I appreciate it. I'll tell her that and then see how she responds and then chill on the texting until I see her next.
Author:  Buffbuilder19 [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 6:11 pm ]
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After sending that, her response was:

_____myname *embarassed face*
Author:  Buffbuilder19 [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 7:49 pm ]
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After sending that, her response was:

_____myname *embarassed face*
Author:  RetiredRodeo [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 7:54 pm ]
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What did you send from there?

We can only really listen to your side, and assume - from that description - the level of interest, the IOI, the development etc... We assume - you know.

The text examples are to get conversation rolling - or phase-shift - or neg - or randomize.... you need the follow through portion of the game as well.

As for the response "embarassed face".... Dude, you've had your hands all over her body - what does she have to be embarassed about? WIthout context, I can't determine her mindset - only assume...
Author:  Buffbuilder19 [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 9:47 pm ]
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What did you send from there?

We can only really listen to your side, and assume - from that description - the level of interest, the IOI, the development etc... We assume - you know.

The text examples are to get conversation rolling - or phase-shift - or neg - or randomize.... you need the follow through portion of the game as well.

As for the response "embarassed face".... Dude, you've had your hands all over her body - what does she have to be embarassed about? WIthout context, I can't determine her mindset - only assume...
After that she didn't say much.

Me: yesss, what is it?
Me: Hername
Her: yess
Me: why the embarassed face
Her: Nothingggg

This is complicated now lol, should I chase or let it go?
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