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| Author: | A-Team 3648 [ Wed Mar 28, 2012 6:28 pm ] |
| Post subject: | How to stop yourself being needy?? |
Now I know this will seem like a really AFC question to most of use out there but when I first meet a girl I always game well and do everything right but after a while I always become needy and starting needing her to text back or stuff like that and I dont know why I get this needy any advice on beating it?[/list] |
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| Author: | Bullet01 [ Wed Mar 28, 2012 6:31 pm ] |
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well if you meet 2-3 girls at the same time you are not going to be needy to all of them.... |
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| Author: | A-Team 3648 [ Wed Mar 28, 2012 6:43 pm ] |
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Usually I'm not going on dates with 2-3 girls at a time bur usually it's only one. Any other tips to beat the neediness? It usually only happens once I've had a date of them or after a few weeks of talking to them |
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| Author: | P-Style [ Wed Mar 28, 2012 7:09 pm ] |
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Full your week with other activities like sports |
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| Author: | pumpington [ Wed Mar 28, 2012 7:14 pm ] |
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lead a more fulfilling successful life, fill your life with things you enjoy, find happiness from within yourself, and don't look to fill some sort of void with other things/people, just fill the void with yourself by realizing you are all you need and can give yourself to others rather then trying to get something from them, if you are feeling needy towards girls, then the first thing that pops into my mind, is talk to more girls, get more options, if you are only seeing one girl at a time you will become needy, because you need her, she is your only option, so the quick fix is just get more options, if you fail with her or things don't work out you won't care, and as a result you will become less needy |
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| Author: | lvl80retpaladin [ Wed Mar 28, 2012 10:09 pm ] |
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First step, get rid of the idea of doing things "right." As long as you see yourself as "did I screw up here?" you'll never trust yourself, and you'll always be needy. For me, I look at situations and it doesn't matter what happens. No matter what, I'll be ok. Start allowing yourself to fuck up, and just be ok with it. Another thing, caring about not getting attention is fine. What you want to do is be OK with not getting the attention. |
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| Author: | Rough Operator [ Wed Mar 28, 2012 11:25 pm ] |
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It's really difficult. The only times I haven't been a bit needy or had lapses are when I'm seeing multiple girls like someone said previously. When I get emotionally attached all sorts of AFC demons come out and fuck things up for me, but hey, you're not a robot and it's ok for these things to happen. As long as you don't turn into a complete wet flannel the occasional episode won't destroy things. |
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| Author: | DJ_Z [ Wed Mar 28, 2012 11:39 pm ] |
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Game other girls. I'd bet the problem is that once a girl responds well to your advances you stop going out to meet other girls and focus on her. |
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| Author: | Costa-T [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 4:00 pm ] |
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Quote: lead a more fulfilling successful life, fill your life with things you enjoy, find happiness from within yourself, and don't look to fill some sort of void with other things/people, just fill the void with yourself by realizing you are all you need and can give yourself to others rather then trying to get something from them,
I couldn't give you a better answer than pumpington's answer. Absolutely SPOT ON
if you are feeling needy towards girls, then the first thing that pops into my mind, is talk to more girls, get more options, if you are only seeing one girl at a time you will become needy, because you need her, she is your only option, so the quick fix is just get more options, if you fail with her or things don't work out you won't care, and as a result you will become less needy |
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| Author: | A-Team 3648 [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 4:57 pm ] |
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Thanks for all the advice it's great I think my problem is what DJ says once a girl responds well to my advances I get attached and stop going after other girls so I'm gonna try and keep gaming as if that girl doesn't exist to get me more options and stop me from relying on that one girl Thanks everyone A-Team |
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| Author: | RetiredRodeo [ Thu Mar 29, 2012 5:31 pm ] |
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Always keep extra hooks in the water... You can catch and release all day long then... |
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| Author: | worsewicked [ Fri Mar 30, 2012 9:51 am ] |
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You gotta have more than one option. Go out and find more people to hang with, it doesn't have to be girls, it could be guys, spend time out with your friends and be social. Make connections. If you know more people, you'll most definitely have an easier time socialising in general. Never be afraid to open a set. If you see an opportunity, take it. |
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| Author: | BPH [ Fri Mar 30, 2012 12:42 pm ] |
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I used to be quite like this, there are maybe 3 things I did to overcome it: 1. Approached every hot girl that I would want to fuck. 2. Started working out and playing sports to up my confidence and improve my looks. 3. Stopped caring if I got flaked on or rejected. The person who cares less in a relationship has the power. Losing your neediness won't happen overnight. For me I just go to my local mall each weekend by myself and try new things with girls to see how well they work. You should try doing the same. |
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