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Author:  PUGay [ Wed Mar 28, 2012 2:19 am ]
Post subject:  Last Minute Cold Feet
So this is my first post, and I should probably say a few things:

I'm gay, and I use a few pua tactics from time to time.

So I go on a date with this dancer, and I control the frame, he adores me, and I have him vying for my approval. I make sure to get lots of Kino in too, so he's pretty comfortable with me touching him. I walk him home and pitch in some awesome date experiences that he's never had with anyone and by now he's hanging onto my every word.

So we get to his place and he invites me in. He asks if I want to see a movie, so I tell him, "only if it's a good one," to which he responds, "I'd rather put in a bad one and not watch it." So we end up watching this movie and I have my arm around him. We start kissing and after about 15 minutes I take off his shirt and start kissing his body. When I go in to blow him, he stops me. After about 5 minutes of just making out he feels awkward and asks to stop. What did I do wrong? Should I have waited for him to make a move?

A mutual friend says he does this a lot (he's young, I'm 4 years older than him), apparently he wants to get intimate and then changes his mind last minute. How do I solve this, he's an easy 9 and worth the trouble.

Thanks guys!
Author:  Seville [ Wed Mar 28, 2012 6:03 am ]
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I myself am not gay but have quite a few friends that are. We talk about things like this and the one thing that always seems to stick out is the fact that even though there are two guys/girls, one still needs to be the man and one the woman. Basically, if he is all over you and you are leading the interaction, then maybe he should be blowing you and not the other way around. Of course that's only what I can take away from talking with my friends but I do believe that there still has to be that dynamic. I wish I could offer more insight but do let us know what happens!
Author:  PUGay [ Wed Mar 28, 2012 6:02 pm ]
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Yeah, he stated he was a bottom - so I could see that inference.

However, do straight male PUAs never go down on womyn first? I mean, what if I just really like giving head?

Next time I'll try to escalate, but have him blow me.

Problem, how do I get a second date if he felt awkward at the end of the first one. It was a great date, but bad ending. Is it salvageable, or should I move on quick? If salvageable, how do I go about making it work?
Author:  Wolfwoodd [ Wed Mar 28, 2012 7:58 pm ]
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It doesn't really matter who goes down on who first. The dominant person is the one making decisions and leading the interaction.

Just my 2 cents.

-Wolf
Author:  PUGay [ Wed Mar 28, 2012 10:29 pm ]
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I agree. When I did it I was pretty in control and dom, so I'm not sure what went wrong. Anyone know how I can make this work?
Author:  PUGay [ Fri Mar 30, 2012 1:05 am ]
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So update:

After three days I messaged him and this is the conversation...

ME: I have something awesome to tell you!

HIM: What is that?

ME: I'm free Saturday for a short coffee, we can chat :)

HIM: I'm busy saturday. Sorry.

ME: When are you free?

HIM: Honestly.. I would feel weird seeing you again.. It's not anything against you.. I would just feel weird.. Sorry.

ME: Alright, I respect that. I had a good time at the cafe with you, and I could see us getting along [[[I think it was his first non-relationship hookup, so this might make him feel less whorish]]]. When you think you're over feeling awkward, let me know.

HIM: Sure, I'll let you know.

(this just happened twenty minutes ago)

Clearly he has no intention of ever talking to me again. Should I just give up?

I'm thinking I should text something like, "When you do, we can just pretend we're meeting all over again :)"

I'm really lost, I feel like I did everything right in the date, so why is everything going so wrong?
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