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How do I get this girl? (gotta act fast & win her over)
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Author:  FMJ [ Sun Mar 25, 2012 12:38 am ]
Post subject:  How do I get this girl? (gotta act fast & win her over)
alright well this is a pretty confusing situation. i met this girl at a party back around halloween and she added me on facebook even though we didn't talk, we were with eachothers friends. we hit it off right away, talked all day and night for a while and then hung out at school one morning and basically had amazing chemistry. however, it turns out she had a boyfriend! but we became best friends and talked all the time still for months, had a class with her for a bit, sat with her in the halls a few times a week, she legit loved talking to me and knew we got along verrry well! but around january she started going through some problems with her life and whatnot (stress, school, bf, .etc) and just stopped texting me out of the blue. i texted her like 4 times in a row to no avail!

fast track to last month, she and her bf broke up! the guy was a real piece of shit ive heard, so i figured she probably needed a bit of time. so i started texting her (since i never saw her at school) and one night we had a long, great conversation, nothing flirty just basic friend stuff. she kept mentioning her ex, and then we have a short text convo a few days later and she said she had him and her as her phone background so it was clear she wasnt over him. besides that, a few more short convos where she the end comes by her not replying. it's clear as day she doesn't really want to talk to me, even though we ALWAYS talked before (shorter msgs, takes longer to reply, and eventually just stops replying .etc)

a few days back i accidentally turned around to say bye to a friend and saw her in the background looking at me, preening! i waited to make a move and then finally saw her at school on thursday and talked to her for a minute. we were talking very well just like old times, i was making her laugh and she was asking me questions, we had very strong eye contact. she even told me she'd send me some schoolwork i needed for a certain class, and i thought i was in again! Then i texted her later that day saying "Heyy! aha whatsup? :)" with no reply! then yesterday i was walking my dog (looking for hot chicks to pick up lmfao) and i saw a girl that reminded me of her drive by. I texted her saying;

me: Loll! Some girl in a passenger seat just flew by and waved at me in ______, looked just like you :s
her: Maybe it was me
me: Nooo way ! Haha
her: Haha I'm kiddin
me: Ohhh haha, that woulda been sweet!

then she didnt reply (again) and so idk what to do. it's frustrating cause i actually really love her, she's about a 6.5/7 out of 10 (great face, average body) but her personality is easily 9 or even a 10. and she's around 5"11 so she doesn't get approached by many guys (but im slightly taller so its perfect). her last bf played basketball (go figure). but she didnt get fb til around when she added me and since then she's been putting up photos once in a while and getting lots of attention/likes and that shit, so she definately has more confidence in herself than before.

anyways ive noticed she's added a couple guys on fb and a friend of hers made a jokish comment about how she was worried about how she looked because a guy was coming over that night (wasnt me). so i put a and b together and figured she's been talking to some guy(s) and with a bit of lurking i found out he's like a better version of me: better looking, taller, and once again plays basketball (fuck). so it's pretty obvious shes gonna start seeing this guy, and she's interested in him right now.

so heres my problems:

- i love her (cant get over her)
- we never see eachother at school so i cant hang out with her really, our
friends are different groups and dont talk to eachother so its awkward
- we live far away from eachother and i don't have my license
- more guys are starting to become interested in her
- she's obviously talking to some mystery man who shes even inviting over tonight, and i assume she's starting to fall for him and talks to him all day
- she doesn't really reply to texts (she told me before she's not a big fan of technology though)


what the fuck do i do to win her over? i'd rather get in a relationship with her than just get laid with any other girl, so idk what to do! in the last few weeks ive been dressing better, being active, ive been walking around confident more, smiling, studying pua techniques and body language .etc. time is working against me because every day she's getting closer to this guy and its only a matter of time before i have no chance at all


im afraid im friendzoned and that she isn't talking to me because she knows im interested and she doesn't feel the same way even though i havent necessarily made it obvious, but i told her i had a crush on her months ago


so anyone know what i can do? she's the girl of my dreams and if i dont act fast im gonna miss my opportunity again and ill never forgive myself
Author:  FMJ [ Sun Mar 25, 2012 9:46 pm ]
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we have amazing chemistry when we do talk in person, however she always talks about how much she hates technology and texting .etc in general. But i have no space to really run into her during school and talk to her without deliberately waiting around where i know she'll be.. (which is creepy) and she's starting to fall for someone else so im running out of time
Author:  Chris2k10 [ Sun Mar 25, 2012 10:06 pm ]
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If you want to get her, you must want to fuck her. I'm not going to explain it to you. I know what works. You must forget about relationship and focus on fucking her. Fucking her will lead to a relationship.
Author:  asesino [ Sun Mar 25, 2012 10:22 pm ]
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If you want to get her, you must want to fuck her. I'm not going to explain it to you. I know what works. You must forget about relationship and focus on fucking her. Fucking her will lead to a relationship.
And possibly a few STDs along the way.
Author:  FMJ [ Sun Mar 25, 2012 11:33 pm ]
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obviously im trying to fuck her but im looking for advice as to what to do? strategies? things to say?
Author:  asesino [ Sun Mar 25, 2012 11:47 pm ]
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obviously im trying to fuck her but im looking for advice as to what to do? strategies? things to say?
In the time you sat here mentally masterbating, I fucked her.

Her skills leave much to be desired.
Author:  DJ_Z [ Sun Mar 25, 2012 11:54 pm ]
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Game other girls. Nothing good ever comes from falling head over heels for a woman then dedicating your life to her.
Author:  FMJ [ Mon Mar 26, 2012 12:11 am ]
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yeah im working on other girls, but she's one of a handful of girls who has actually really liked me and gotten along with me well. i know i have a decent chance with her and it's much more likely i end up with her than any other girl i can get SPAM. im aware of other girls and im moving along with them, but this one specifically is in a unique situation and that's why im asking for advice specific to her
Author:  asesino [ Mon Mar 26, 2012 1:15 am ]
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yeah im working on other girls, but she's one of a handful of girls who has actually really liked me and gotten along with me well. i know i have a decent chance with her and it's much more likely i end up with her than any other girl i can get SPAM. im aware of other girls and im moving along with them, but this one specifically is in a unique situation and that's why im asking for advice specific to her
I'm reading two things here: 1) You're confidant in your ability to win her over, which of course begs the question as to why you're requesting help, and 2) the "end up with her than any other girl I can get SPAM" infers a lack of faith in your ability to attract OTHER girls.

Think about that for a moment.
Author:  Chris2k10 [ Mon Mar 26, 2012 1:23 am ]
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If you want to get her, you must want to fuck her. I'm not going to explain it to you. I know what works. You must forget about relationship and focus on fucking her. Fucking her will lead to a relationship.
And possibly a few STDs along the way.
This kid clearly doesn't get laid.
Author:  FMJ [ Mon Mar 26, 2012 1:24 am ]
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yeah im working on other girls, but she's one of a handful of girls who has actually really liked me and gotten along with me well. i know i have a decent chance with her and it's much more likely i end up with her than any other girl i can get SPAM. im aware of other girls and im moving along with them, but this one specifically is in a unique situation and that's why im asking for advice specific to her
I'm reading two things here: 1) You're confidant in your ability to win her over, which of course begs the question as to why you're requesting help, and 2) the "end up with her than any other girl I can get SPAM" infers a lack of faith in your ability to attract OTHER girls.

Think about that for a moment.
i assume i have a decent chance with her because i know we have great chemistry, so i am confident that if i can get close to her again i have a good chance. however, with the many things against me SPAM, im struggling to close that gap, which is why im requesting help. as for a lack of faith in other girls, yes, but im still pursueing them. and i wouldn't call it lack of faith, its just that this girl thinks more of me than the other girls do, so she is an easier target
Author:  asesino [ Mon Mar 26, 2012 2:06 am ]
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If you want to get her, you must want to fuck her. I'm not going to explain it to you. I know what works. You must forget about relationship and focus on fucking her. Fucking her will lead to a relationship.
And possibly a few STDs along the way.
This kid clearly doesn't get laid.
Clearly.
Author:  newlearner [ Mon Mar 26, 2012 1:19 pm ]
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If you dont mind a newbie sharing thoughts, Ill give it a try

Her preening implied possible initial interest. When the conversation occurred, it appears there was difficulty closing with a followup face to face meeting. You mention youre in love and Im curious if that could be blinding you and be too fast for her.

She mentioned that she would supply you with some things for school. Has she done it? How did you build on that? Is there anything both you and her have in common that you can build on?

If you want to persue, Id follow up on the school work that was promised or another way to get face to face with emotions in control. I dont understand the technology concern. My thoughts are that if she wanted to communicate, she would. It appears this other guy has got an invitation to her house.

Please let me know if this is helpful.
Author:  FMJ [ Mon Mar 26, 2012 8:01 pm ]
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If you dont mind a newbie sharing thoughts, Ill give it a try

Her preening implied possible initial interest. When the conversation occurred, it appears there was difficulty closing with a followup face to face meeting. You mention youre in love and Im curious if that could be blinding you and be too fast for her.

She mentioned that she would supply you with some things for school. Has she done it? How did you build on that? Is there anything both you and her have in common that you can build on?

If you want to persue, Id follow up on the school work that was promised or another way to get face to face with emotions in control. I dont understand the technology concern. My thoughts are that if she wanted to communicate, she would. It appears this other guy has got an invitation to her house.

Please let me know if this is helpful.
this is very insightful! as for having stuff in common, yes we have a million things in common, we used to be best friends! however, she simply doesn't like technology i.e facebook, texting, .etc .etc and she wont reply to my texts, unless i have a legit excuse to talk to her.. in which case she still hardly replies. but based on the preening, and how amazing we got along before, plus how we had a non-stop great convo last thursday (last time i saw her) lead me to believe she's interested.. but she doesn't answer texts and we never see eachother at school. plus she's intrigued by some other guy and i assume she talks/texts to him all day instead... but she's still single so i want to get in there somehow, i just don't know how. its pretty frustrating because i have no idea what to do.. i can't ask her out because we live far away, i cant text her because she doesnt reply AND its annoying when someone nags you, it seems needy so i dont want her to get that impression.. plus i never see her around school and i got competition that's cockblocking me SPAM.

thanks though!
Author:  FMJ [ Tue Mar 27, 2012 8:26 pm ]
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i hung out with her this morning before school started (we both go there early sometimes for different reasons.. i knew she'd be there early so i showed up and she was alone) this is kinda just me blabbing about shit so nobody really cares, just good info for myself i guess

update: saw her this morning, went up and she said hey first! was laughing very hard at my jokes and charm at first, so i sat down and we talked for a while. i told her how i missed her and i was getting good reactions like smiles and "awwhs" .etc. she made great eye contact during all this and explained to me that she got my text before but didnt reply because she doesn't talk to anyone anymore and that she became addicted to her phone so she hates it now. but when i brought up how she just stopped out of nowhere without telling me she didn't seem to apologetic, just kinda made excuses about not talking to other guys cause she was having bf problems. she also says she cant talk to anyone who doesnt have bbm (i dont have a blackberry so textings way slower). so i cant text her for a while til she shows more interest in me. im gonna wait about a week.

then i teased her about secrets about her ex that my friend was telling me and made her very interested in our conversation. she opened up and explained what happened between her and her ex, and she also mentioned inadvertently that she's seeing someone right now. we still have that good chemistry but in general she has changed as a person and she just doesnt put up with anyones shit anymore. after sitting and talking to her for about 30 minutes i got up and said i had to go, but just before i left i was telling her how it sucks i never see her and i wanted her in my life again. she kinda put her head down and mumbled some stuff but by that point the halls were filling up with kids so i didn't hear what she said. but i said ill cya next week (joking cause i never see her around school) and she said she had enjoyed talking to me, then i walked away.

alright now i know that nobody cares so i guess this is turning into my own kinda journal on the progress i make with this girl. also, idk if this has anything to do with sexual signals but halfway through our convo as she got more comfortable she changed from sitting with her legs forward (we were on the floor) to in a crossed position where her legs were wide open. i was next to her and made no kino progress but i think im gonna see her friday for about half an hour again, any tips? i told her im a changed person and she asked "how?" and i said "i just got smarter in certain ways, it's hard to explain" so im working towards making her think of me differently than before (friend) somehow by making a bit of tension haha. she's really smart and it's difficult to read her body language, especially while im sitting next to her and she's working on her laptop (lmao) but when we talked she usually turned and made eye contact. once in a while while i asked her to explain something she would open her mouth wide and lick her lips a bit, while looking up, dunno what this means.

a big mistake i think i made was, i wasn't really acting alpha, to be honest i kinda talked to her like a bitch and at some points we didnt talk for like a minute and sat in silence, so there was still some awkwardness between us. but next time (since we've broken the ice) im going into confident-charming-sexual tension eqsue mode.
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