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Author:  Netsky [ Mon Mar 19, 2012 6:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Move on or is this Acceptable?
I started talking to this HB9 in my college biology class about 3 weeks ago. Sat next to her one day cuz she sat next to a female friend of mine. Since it was a lecture hall we couldn't verbally communicate and I thought perfect!... I used some 60 YOC tactics on her and it worked perfectly. Started flirting like middle schoolers, she would bump my arm when I was writing notes, plucked my ear, caressed her hand, stare at me etc. We had an amazing vibe and connection without any spoken words.

This went on for a week and since I hardly show to class she got my number through her friend and texted me, asking why I wasn't in class. After a few days she tells me she wants to tell me something. She says, "I get nervous when speaking to you" and I tell her, "we should get you more acquainted with me then". I use this as an opportunity to ask her to hang out. She comes over to my place the next day (the day of spring break). We build a lot of comfort and rapport, she's laughing her ass off and then I find my chance to make my move. We start making out and escalated to basically dry humping afterwards (very passionately i might add lol). She's basically suffocating me with the way she was holding me.

She is a romantic loner so I figured she wanted to hang on to me and never let go. Told me she was in 1 relationship with a guy for 6 six years and lost her virginity to him. I asked her if she broke it off with him or he did and she says she did. I told her that's all i needed to know. Didn't want to get into that topic so early so i just let it go. She asks me if I believed in condoms, I said yes. I told her I was religious so I plan to hold sex off for a woman that was worth me going against my values for. Then for a week (length of spring break) we just texted... didn't see each other or anything. I feel like this is where i fucked up since i over texted her and she's not much of a texter. I thought i fucked things up with her since we spoke everyday and she hadn't texted me for 2 days and she didn't show to class (unlike her). We see each other the same day and we almost fuck. We spoke and hung out afterwards for 2 days. I thought everything was going smooth then this friday I thought we would hang out so i texted her asking what she was doing.

I find out she's in NC meeting her bf. I tell her "poor guy", she responds "best friend". Then the last word exchanged was "or how fortunate friends". We haven't spoke since and I didn't go to class today to see if she would notice and say something but nothing. We've been out of contact for 3 days now, Am i bugging out or this normal for the kind of interaction we're having? She is a really busy person, has 2 jobs, 17 credits and dances. What should I do?... wait for her to initiate the next text or text her?

I'm lost with this chick because I feel like I could've messed up on so many levels but at the same time I think she only wanted to fuck. For a girl who only had 1 relationship for 6 years it doesn't seem plausible. I just want to know her fucking intentions, she has me in a world of daze right now. All this confusion only makes me think about her more and more and gets more emotionally invested in her. I like her a lot and she has potential to be someone more with me. I just want some clarity because I'm not bad at moving on just need to know If I do.
Author:  Costa-T [ Mon Mar 19, 2012 6:35 pm ]
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DON'T MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE AS ME. STOP yourself from being emotion at this stage because if you don't then it will fuck you up HARDDDDDDDDDD. Okay let's break down your story and give you some personal opinion shall we :)

OKay first thing first, you did the right thing by just being casual at first because girls like guys that don't care much and for some weird reason they start chasing them. Maybe she wanted to fuck you or maybe she just wanted to know if you would in the future, what you said to her about being religious is a respectful thing and i do respect you for that, but don't you reckon it was too soon to tell her that? because at that stage you weren't sure what she was after. After a 6 year relationship, girls would look for another one and what you said to her kinda made her thing that you want a seriously relationship... But hey don't worry you were honest so it's kool.

The second this is the texting.. You should have been the one receiving texts instead of sending them and here's why. Girls are sooo hard to fucking understand they are like a switch with 1000000000000000000000 bottons, you make one mistake and the whole swtich goes bust and that's what girls are like. Even though you never came across needy before but one day you say something that makes you needy then boom they'll be like you're clingy and i don't like it and that's what happened to me. Anyways, back to your subject, girls don't like it when we are givin then too much attention, make it a balance thing, if you text her first one day then leave her to text you first the next day and so on.

She met up with her ex, the truth is that she is always gona have feelings for him because she been with him for a long time and she lost her virginity to him. The chances of them getting back together is very high and if i were you i'd be happy that it happened now and not when you two started dating. So after all don't feel upset.

You got with a hot girl once and you can do it again and again, girls come and go, don't give your heart to someone who is gona go sooner than you'd think :)
Good luck
Author:  Netsky [ Mon Mar 19, 2012 6:46 pm ]
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Much appreciated my friend :)

I had a feeling she was probably getting back with her boyfriend but I didn't want to be presumptuous. I still won't be presumptuous and just let everything ride out. I just would've really liked us to get to know each other more. It ended to soon for me lol

Considering the kind of guy I am, women don't easily please me so me not getting attached to them has never been a problem. But this one seems to have a hold on me that's why it is kind of hard to forget her.

Let's try not to be presumptuous together and let us say she didn't meet her boyfriend. Not contacting her would be the best thing to do right? Give her time to miss me and since she's a romantic loner I would assume she would need some company. Just a thought :? Let me know... thanks!
Author:  Costa-T [ Mon Mar 19, 2012 6:58 pm ]
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There are a lot of things that we could think about assume now, but the big mistake is to assume things are going our way to get our hopes up. What hurt me the most with the last girl i was dating is that after it all went down, i assumed that after givin her time and space she'll come back to me :D instead she went for someone else haha now that hurt me so bad, and the bitch even brought him to a party when i was there, 3 weeks after we stopped seeing each other. I DONT want that to happen to you because it sucks big time i was hurt so badly and if you search for my very first posts you'll see that yourself. Now i am super okay, i been dating other girls, i got on with my life. I put the attitude that i will live my life and if she comes back she comes but i don't think id want her back after what happened, but i still want her to beg for me lol. Let's not change the subject here and concentrate on yours.

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Let's try not to be presumptuous together and let us say she didn't meet her boyfriend. Not contacting her would be the best thing to do right? Give her time to miss me and since she's a romantic loner I would assume she would need some company. Just a thought :? Let me know... thanks!
Don't assume that she will miss you and gona come back to you, because you're getting your hopes up with somethin that may or may not happen and if doesn't then you'll be hurt right? so the best thing to do is not to contact her in any way, if you see her at school act normal as if nothing happened, don't show that you are bothered or annoyed or anythin. ACT NORMAL but don't give her too much attention. Don't text her again unless she texts you and when she does then keep it simple :) and the main thing is that you need to expect the worst so that whatever happens you don't get hurt at the end :) assume that as we are talking she's with her ex ... I know it hurts now but in the long term it wont.
You need to start dating another girl even if she was a HB6 or 7. A girl is a girl regardless of the rating ;)
Author:  Netsky [ Mon Mar 19, 2012 7:08 pm ]
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You're completely right... I appreciate the advice man.

Prepare for the worst is possibly the best thing I can do in this situation. I can accept it but clarity would only put me at peace. Does any good come from trying to have a talk to know where you guys stand or what's going on between you two?

The first time I had assumptions and started preparing for the worst I was wrong about everything. So I feel like there is still a possibility that I could've fallen into that same predicament I was in earlier with her. It ended with me being in her bed almost fucking. If you feel like I should let go of this doubt then I most certainly will. I just don't want to lose her while we are both playing hard to get.
Author:  LEF2226 [ Mon Mar 19, 2012 7:10 pm ]
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If I were you, I'd (1) try not to get emotionally invested but (2) keep going for it. If she's still tied to her ex bf, it doesn't mean you can't fuck her. Also, game other girls and keep active to keep your mind off the one girl. You don't want to let this shit to run your mind.
Author:  Costa-T [ Mon Mar 19, 2012 7:29 pm ]
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Oh no don't get me wrong, im not saying forget her for good. But what im sayin is mentally prepare yourself for the worst so that if things don't go your way then you're not too much bothered about it. That's why i said when you see her in class act normal like it's all good, just like how things were as if nothing changed :) then that way you'll know if she plays with you as she did then she's still interested :) don't shut her out, just don't be the one texting her first or initiating conversations with her, it's the girl's job to do it :)

For my case, i'll be honest with you, i fell for the girl and she messed me up big time and thats why i got hurt so much. Things were going well until she found out that her ex was with another girl, she told me she wanted time and space to forget him then we'll get things goin between us goin again she told me 'i really like you and you must be blind if you can't see it' a few days after that i thought things were awkward so tried to ring her a few times and she wouldn't answer then she told me i was being clingy lol. I think i just her the best chance to come up with that excuse, because if you really liked someone you wouldn't want time and space right? so anyways 3 weeks down the line, we were both invited to a party so she came and brought the guy she started dating lol :D i was hurt like hell but i still acted like i wasn't bothered, took me a lot to fake a smile in my face but i did it to show her that i wasn't bothered even though deep inside me it was killin me! Im all good now and that's why in understand where you're coming from and what i told you is for your own good because i'd hate to be in that position again. I never bothered to contact her again, and i know for a fact that she will contact me again at some point, i can feel it but i'm not a second option :)

I don't want you hurt pal, that's why you should prepare for the worst to put your mind at rest, if things work your way then that's great and if they don't then at least you can just brush it off your shoulder and say who's next ;)
Author:  Netsky [ Mon Mar 19, 2012 7:34 pm ]
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Thanks for telling me about your situation. I would hate to be in that situation as well. It is just best to do what you advised lol

Thanks man! Best of luck to you!
Author:  Costa-T [ Mon Mar 19, 2012 8:21 pm ]
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Thanks for telling me about your situation. I would hate to be in that situation as well. It is just best to do what you advised lol

Thanks man! Best of luck to you!
It's okay pal, if you ever need any other help with your situation just drop me a pm and i'll be more than happy to help :)

And about my situation it's i the past now, i don't care about it now. I been with other girls anyways and now kinda started seeing this new girl but the truth is it made me realise that i prefer being single :) it's the way forward, NO STRINGS ATTACHED :D
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