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Author:  omegaflx [ Wed Mar 14, 2012 9:54 pm ]
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The fawk?...I've dealt with ex-bf baggage crap before, but the I'm talking to you but I also have a bf is a new one.

There's this HB10 in the class before mine (same class btw). Since the beginning of the semester we passed by each other and making eye contact. Never really acted on it.

Last week I went up to HB as she was walking out the door after class. Tapped her on the shoulder and said "Are you the cute girl that just got out of x class?" She responded yes, I then told her I wouldn't be able to make the class today and needed a summary of what went on. When she was done I introduced myself and we went our ways Really just trying to plant the seed since i knew I'd see her again.

Saw her the next couple of classes and we made eye contact/smiled at each other. Today as she was walking out I grabbed her arm and said "Hey aren't you going to stop and talk to me? I'm gonna do you a favor and walk with you today" She giggled and we walked for a bit, told me a little about herself. Got to the building where she was going and I said "Hey, let me grab your number I'd love to hear more about you" As I pulled out my phone and put her number in she made sure that I spelled her name correctly and when I got the number wrong she made an effort to correct me. Both IOIs to me.

Shot her a text saying: "Wow never had a girl as cute as you in my phone before." No response so a few hours later I sent another one

Me: What r u up to this week? Wanna grab coffee or lunch
HB: I usually work after school and Then hangout with my boyfriend lol i'm never really free.
Me: Yeah I hear ya my life is pretty crazy too, I might be free this weekend tho. You still doing oral? (Intentionally sexual. She used to work for an oral surgeon) (And an attempt to steamroll/ignore the bf)
HB:No I quit that job to go to school
Me: Ohh so thenn you just walk around all day looking pretty? Took you for more than that...
HB: Well it was a full 40 hour a week job I couldn't do both
Me: Gotcha

Seems like some serious ASD'ing. I was getting mixed signals with the body language, deff seemed attracted, but also apprehensive. I wanna smash this chick but don't know how to get around the BF and not going AFC.
Author:  MagicCaveman [ Wed Mar 14, 2012 11:18 pm ]
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dude, your playing into her ^^^ she gets hit on enough and you walked straight into it. Play it cooler.
Author:  omegaflx [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 12:05 am ]
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dude, your playing into her ^^^ she gets hit on enough and you walked straight into it. Play it cooler.
How so? I thought the "Ohh so thenn you just walk around all day looking pretty? Took you for more than that..." was a qualifier?

I'm ignorant to this stuff help me out
Author:  MagicCaveman [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 12:19 am ]
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hmmm, just read it again, it just seems as though by text she is blowing you off. She's not asking anything about YOU, even though she wanted your number etc...

Maybe try build up a bit more fun rapport in person, and then you can relate to it in texts a bit more and keep the same frame. Don't feel knocked back. She has a bf, but if she's game then... if it's not you then it will be someone else.
Author:  Warped Mindless [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 7:04 am ]
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Shes not interested. Women hand out their number like creepy child molesters hand out candy on Halloween.

Getting a number doesn't mean shes interested. The text she sent you spells it out pretty clear she has no interest in you. No big deal, move on.
Author:  omegaflx [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 1:21 pm ]
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wordd thanks guys
Author:  MagicCaveman [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 1:29 pm ]
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keep her number till shes single. maybe see her around, if anything happens, then good for you.
Author:  mintsauce [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 6:28 pm ]
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Shot her a text saying: "Wow never had a girl as cute as you in my phone before."
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No response so a few hours later I sent another one
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Me: What r u up to this week? Wanna grab coffee or lunch
facepalm.

mistake 1 : you shot her a text as soon as you got her #. that too a fluffy one that means you never had as good as her. you basically disqualified yourself.

mistake 2 : you sent a text AGAIN in a few hours

mistake 3 : you asked her if she had time to go out. you handed her the choice of lunch or coffee and presumably time and venue as well.

sorry, this has needy written all over it.

p.s. I don't agree you didn't have a chance. you did have one because she was definitely interested. you may have blown it but no problems, there always another HB around the corner. best of luck with the next one. :wink:
Author:  EddieFews [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 7:29 pm ]
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"Wow never had a girl as cute as you in my phone before." ?? you get numbers from hotties all the time, are you kidding?

And I still stick to, the first means of communication should be done through a phone call.. Texting goes wrong a lot, if a solid rapport isn't established first.. Also, this girl doesn't have a boyfriend.. Hence the lol right after she said it..
Author:  mintsauce [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 9:25 pm ]
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:roll:

whether you do or do not get a lot of HB10 numbers is not the point. if you think 'ooh this girl is out of my league' you will lose her 99 times out of 100.

don't pretend it's a big deal, it makes you nervous and uncomfortable. when that happens girls are more perceptive than guys they get uncomfortable as well.
Author:  omegaflx [ Thu Mar 15, 2012 10:49 pm ]
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Jeeze....beakdown helps out a lot^^. Did not feel needy at all, wasn't super interested either. Thought I was being flirty with that first text haha guess I screwed myself. Deff right about the lying part too because the capital "Then" was exactly how she wrote it, meaning she erased whatever was there before to make some other shit up....Lesson learned
Author:  mintsauce [ Fri Mar 16, 2012 6:04 am ]
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no biggie. we all make these mistakes.

btw, I agree with Fuze, she doesn't have a BF. poor girl, she was just a little freaked out by you coming out too strong.

since you go to the same classes you will get more chances. check for IOI's. if there are none freeze out for sometime till there is. start making friends and even go out with other girls to build social proof. ignore her during this time.

if there are IOI's take the initiative but always frame your interactions as if you are doing a favour to her, not the other way around. your opener was excellent from that POV, that's what got her interested.

never pay compliments by text esp. at the start of a relationship. make sure you do it in person with good eye contact so that there's a sexual undertone to it. if you do it right she will let you know by blushing.
good luck !
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