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| Author: | MacNulty [ Sat Mar 10, 2012 9:44 pm ] |
| Post subject: | What to do when the girl brings up depressing personal stuff |
Hi guys, how should I react when the girl I'm gaming brings up very personnal and depressing things about herself when I am building comfort? For exemple she talks about her eating disorders or family issues. Should I use it to build more comfort or move the conversations towards something more positive? I am obviously concerned about the dreaded friend zone and also I want to keep a fun positive vibe going but maybe it can actually help with the seduction process and changing subjects might come accross as rude. Would it be appropriate to share some things she could also relate to to show some vulnerability, or should we keep a positive vibe at all times? And could it also be a shit test? Thanks for your advice! |
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| Author: | Seville [ Sat Mar 10, 2012 11:47 pm ] |
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Here what has worked for me in the past. I never react in a negative way. If it isn't too bad then I try to verbalize the positive sides of it then brush it off and change the subject. If it is really bad, or you at least think it is, then I put on my listening face and let her talk for a moment. She could be showing her vulnerability or it could be a shit test. when its my turn to talk i still try to find some good about it and tell her with a smile. Then I ask if she is trying to change the issue. If she is then we can move forward after I tell her that I can appreciate a person who is willing to talk about their struggles. I give a bit of encouragement and show that I think she can conquer it if she is willing to put effort. then I change the subject and allow her to recover. If she just dwells on the subject then its time for me to move on. All of that shows that you have a strong character and are not judgmental, because EVERYONE has issues. Sometimes she may need a nudge towards the help she needs and she may be looking for it in you. Basically she may see you as a reason to change. For me personally, I don't like women like that but I can still be a friend and nothing more because in my experience, they turn into crazy text all day stalkers. Now if she has serious SERIOUS issues then I offer any help I can give but I make it clear that I will not be pursuing anything more with her. But I'm just that kind of person. And I never allow whatever we are talking about to distract me from my ultimate goal for the day/evening whether it be have fun or getting laid or whatever. |
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| Author: | 0uch [ Sun Mar 11, 2012 9:50 pm ] |
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Go along with it, agree, change topic soon as possible. Never try to come up with solutions. |
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