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Author:  BirdBoy [ Sat Mar 10, 2012 4:05 pm ]
Post subject:  can you think of a neg
to describe a girls peice of art work. she is a 9.
Author:  omegaflx [ Sat Mar 10, 2012 4:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: can you think of a neg
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to describe a girls peice of art work. she is a 9.
Critique her on something...Used to be an architecture major and critiquing is a big part of the whole artsy field, just don't be too much of a dick about it because she has probably put her heart and soul into whatever it is shes showing you and proud of it.

Example:

HB: "Yea this is one of my better pieces over here"
You: "...What is it?"
HB: Tilt your head and stare intensely for a minute...Then tease her about it, something cocky/funny... "Pretty impressive, I like how you did (blah blah blah), but to be honest my 8 year old nephew does shading wayy better than you."

My advice is to NOT go in with a canned line. Plus if shes into art there's a good chance shes pretty chill to begin with and doesn't need any negging. If you actually know a thing or two about art or whatever it is shes doing, thats a serious DHV right there. Just put on your funny man suit and tease her about whatever shes doing.
Author:  DJ_Z [ Sat Mar 10, 2012 4:54 pm ]
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Okay...here we go again.

A neg is not an insult. Saying you're 8 year old nephew could do better isn't negging, it's just being an ass. Being an ass is never attractive.

Now for the reality. A neg is usually not necessary. You don't need that sorta thing unless you're hitting on a girl with a massive ego who has constant male attention where guys tell her she's beautiful, smart, funny, amazing, blah blah blah. Second, a neg is a NEGATIVE COMPLIMENT. That is, you say something nice and sincere, but add some negative aspect that leaves a bite. My personal favorite is very simple:

You are absolutely gorgeous, it's a shame you're not my type.

So I compliment the girl by telling her she looks good, but then take away by stating that she just isn't the sort of girl I'm looking for. The only purpose of it is to demonstrate that I won't bow to her just for being hot. Finally, I think it's a bit silly to come to a forum looking for a line that you can use later on in a particular scenario that's already occurred. It reminds me of an episode of Seinfeld where George gets zinged by a coworker, thinks of a comeback the next day, and spends the entire episode looking for an opportunity to use that line. It made him look silly to keep something like that in his mind, and you look rather childish to do the same.
Author:  BirdBoy [ Sat Mar 10, 2012 4:59 pm ]
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Okay...here we go again.

A neg is not an insult. Saying you're 8 year old nephew could do better isn't negging, it's just being an ass. Being an ass is never attractive.

Now for the reality. A neg is usually not necessary. You don't need that sorta thing unless you're hitting on a girl with a massive ego who has constant male attention where guys tell her she's beautiful, smart, funny, amazing, blah blah blah. Second, a neg is a NEGATIVE COMPLIMENT. That is, you say something nice and sincere, but add some negative aspect that leaves a bite. My personal favorite is very simple:

You are absolutely gorgeous, it's a shame you're not my type.

So I compliment the girl by telling her she looks good, but then take away by stating that she just isn't the sort of girl I'm looking for. The only purpose of it is to demonstrate that I won't bow to her just for being hot. Finally, I think it's a bit silly to come to a forum looking for a line that you can use later on in a particular scenario that's already occurred. It reminds me of an episode of Seinfeld where George gets zinged by a coworker, thinks of a comeback the next day, and spends the entire episode looking for an opportunity to use that line. It made him look silly to keep something like that in his mind, and you look rather childish to do the same.
i never said a neg is an insult, and i never said i never said i never knew what a neg is. this girl is constantly validated. me complementing her would automatically make me like 99% of other guys, now i dont want that do i? anyway, if i do complement a girl, its going to be a direct comment, saying she has a nice arse ect. none of that beautiful eyes bullshit. im asking what kind of comment i can make on her work, rather than saying "its amazing", like everyone else.

@omegaflx, cheers for that!
Author:  Entourages [ Sat Mar 10, 2012 5:16 pm ]
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A good neg...

Wow that's really good abstract art... its to bad I only do realist painting... or something like that.

Tbh I dont even neg, ever, there is just no need for it.
Author:  Warped Mindless [ Sun Mar 11, 2012 7:22 am ]
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Negs are gay. Be real with her.

"Thats pretty fascinating. Tell me, what got you into art and where do you find inspiration?"

A neg will probably make her think your an ass (and rightly so) but being genuine and expressing a healthy curiosity about her will get her to open up and feel a connection with you.
Author:  NickStar [ Sun Mar 11, 2012 7:38 am ]
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just look at something she did(a piece of artwork) and say what is this supposed to be in a fun and flirty way with a cheeky smile
Author:  Hakuna [ Sun Mar 11, 2012 7:40 am ]
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The last time I dated a painter chick, I remember this being the mid-game neg I used

Her: "Here it is. You like?"
Me: "Yah it's amazing. Hm...."
Her: "what?"
Me: "Not sure, I think it says something about your personality"
Her: "huh? what?"

sadly I forgot exactly what words I used, but basically, you insert a mildly negative/positive EXTREMELY BRIEF and ambiguous description of her, one that can't exactly be construed into a compliment or an insult.

Also, DJ_Z's comment wasn't meant for you, it was for omegaflx, and he was simply pointing out that overtly demonstrating value by trying to insult a girl in even a teasing fashion does NOT accomplish much.

The purpose of a neg is to establish a specific frame - one where the girl wants to QUALIFY HERSELF to you. Use the example I gave you as a template, make a girl wonder "what does he think of me?" it'll drive her crazy wondering, and boost her effort to prove something to you.

You want a neg to gently intrude on her ego, not to blatantly undermine it or just tease it. Teasing is fun to; its essentially negging in a really light way to get laughs out and build comfort. But a neg I'd say has a much more insidious purpose.
Author:  titanman [ Sun Mar 11, 2012 11:29 pm ]
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Teasing?

But isn't that what the guy who said "my nephew could do better" teasing? Sounds like teasing. Depends how you say it.
Author:  EddieFews [ Mon Mar 12, 2012 3:48 am ]
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I would honestly say something like

" Oh Shit girl! Your going to be the next picasso, come hug me now before you get too famous"

And then hug her, girls like to feel good. All that negging bullshit is unnecessary.

You don't have to say "its amazing" like everyone else.. Give a genuine compliment with some personality in it. She'll remember that one more than anyone elses.

And do you honestly think the painting is no good? Or do you just want an excuse to be a dick?
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