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Author:  thespikez [ Fri Mar 09, 2012 11:54 am ]
Post subject:  How to be the life of the party?
Hey I am going to a girl's birthday and i have a target there HB8 her cousin...
I want to know how can i be the life of the party?
History:Me and the HB8 met each other when we were clubbing few days ago and we danced.
She showed alot of intrest (she was pulling my hair genttly,kissing me on the cheek,biting me. Maybe just some shit tests? i think i failed cause i tried to kiss her) but when i tried to K-close she pulled away by the end of the night we were negging each other ,and i think i kinda got to far cause she got angry.
How can i repair the things i did wrong?
Tonight i wanna have fun and maybe Close this HB8


Waiting for advices Guys thanks alot ! :D
Author:  pumpington [ Fri Mar 09, 2012 1:19 pm ]
Post subject: 
she sounds like a tease, don't neg girls you give a shit about if you are not good at it

instead, escalate, and when you reach a compliance threashold instead of trying to neg etc. to get her to give more compliance, you really have two viable options

-stop giving the girl attention
or
-step down the level of compliance and seek more of a connection/up buying tempurature

by the limited info in your post there is a good chance you were reacting to her shit tests, an insult is not a neg, and if a girl is ripping on you it is a form of shit testing, the way to pass is to not react to what she does emotionally, you don't even have to respond to it, but if you do don't shift emotions because of her, if you are becomming butthurt, or worried, or insecure, you are losing the frame to her and she will follow and she will become butthurt, or worried, or insecure, when in doubt and you are talking, just agree with her and blow it out of context

as for repairing what you did wrong, just assume you didn't do anything wrong and she is over-reacting, unless that is... you really did cross the line and did something super asshole style, then you can consider just appologising, because you have been having a tough time lately at work/school/home/due to some sort of random event/thing, then make yourself vunrable and share a secret then re-frame it as no big deal (try to use something real from your life that has been bothering you)

as for closing this hb8, if that is your goal, then you should de-tach from that goal, the goal should be more, IM GOING TO GO OUT HAVE FUN, AND TRY TO FUCK GIRLS THAT ARE INTO ME (key word girls, with an s, plural)

best bet to try to just sleep with her (your hb8) and if she is giving trouble, just stop trying and go try with a different girl, she either gives you compliance, or she freaks out and gets screened out, don't try to fuck one girl, try to fuck all the girls (that you are interested in anyways), when you have already got higher compliance then a makeout, that is when to start stressing over the girls in your rotation, and below sex is not really anything to stress about unless she is hot and amazing, and if you have less then 10 girls to talk to chances are it is your lazy ego playing emotional tricks on you and if you just had more girls to talk to you wouldn't give a flying fuck about how things went with her when you could just go for another girl who didn't present as many obsticles

if she gives you trouble then you move on and she realized she fucked up, give her a chance, just realize though that she doesn't own you, and you are not doing anything wrong by hitting on/flirting with/kissing other girls, she has no ownership over you and had her chance (that doesn't meen that you can't give her another one in the future, just realize if she shit tests you on this sort of thing, that you have done nothing wrong and her problems are not your problems)

GOOD LUCK
Author:  thespikez [ Fri Mar 09, 2012 1:44 pm ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
she sounds like a tease, don't neg girls you give a shit about if you are not good at it

instead, escalate, and when you reach a compliance threashold instead of trying to neg etc. to get her to give more compliance, you really have two viable options

-stop giving the girl attention
or
-step down the level of compliance and seek more of a connection/up buying tempurature

by the limited info in your post there is a good chance you were reacting to her shit tests, an insult is not a neg, and if a girl is ripping on you it is a form of shit testing, the way to pass is to not react to what she does emotionally, you don't even have to respond to it, but if you do don't shift emotions because of her, if you are becomming butthurt, or worried, or insecure, you are losing the frame to her and she will follow and she will become butthurt, or worried, or insecure, when in doubt and you are talking, just agree with her and blow it out of context

as for repairing what you did wrong, just assume you didn't do anything wrong and she is over-reacting, unless that is... you really did cross the line and did something super asshole style, then you can consider just appologising, because you have been having a tough time lately at work/school/home/due to some sort of random event/thing, then make yourself vunrable and share a secret then re-frame it as no big deal (try to use something real from your life that has been bothering you)

as for closing this hb8, if that is your goal, then you should de-tach from that goal, the goal should be more, IM GOING TO GO OUT HAVE FUN, AND TRY TO FUCK GIRLS THAT ARE INTO ME (key word girls, with an s, plural)

best bet to try to just sleep with her (your hb8) and if she is giving trouble, just stop trying and go try with a different girl, she either gives you compliance, or she freaks out and gets screened out, don't try to fuck one girl, try to fuck all the girls (that you are interested in anyways), when you have already got higher compliance then a makeout, that is when to start stressing over the girls in your rotation, and below sex is not really anything to stress about unless she is hot and amazing, and if you have less then 10 girls to talk to chances are it is your lazy ego playing emotional tricks on you and if you just had more girls to talk to you wouldn't give a flying fuck about how things went with her when you could just go for another girl who didn't present as many obsticles

if she gives you trouble then you move on and she realized she fucked up, give her a chance, just realize though that she doesn't own you, and you are not doing anything wrong by hitting on/flirting with/kissing other girls, she has no ownership over you and had her chance (that doesn't meen that you can't give her another one in the future, just realize if she shit tests you on this sort of thing, that you have done nothing wrong and her problems are not your problems)

GOOD LUCK
Yeah mate but i cant apologize because i dont really know if she is mad or something ,I think she lost attraction cause i got caught emotionally and She is kinda of a Badass girl Crazy one she is 16 and she just got a Tatoo with Her ex Boyfriend name ,and the broke up 3 weeks ago.
My questions:
-When the party starts should i talk to her?
-Should i dance with her? or only with the other girls?
-A Little freezeout?

Waiting for more answers
thanks for fast response
Author:  pumpington [ Fri Mar 09, 2012 2:15 pm ]
Post subject: 
stop thinking along the lines of, does she like me?, what is she thinking?, what can I say or do to get her to like me?, if I do xyz what sort of reaction will this get from her?

don't think for her, think for yourself

stop thinking of attraction as something that comes and goes, imagine that she is always attracted to you, but goes through periods of craziness

so what you do is go up and hit on her and try to sleep with her (assume she wants this big time, but sometimes she gets nervous about it and it makes her crazy),

now with that assumption, when you hit a spot where she is crazy, either leave her alone, and go find a girl who isn't crazy, and maybe she will see it and realize she was crazy and try to get your attention back, or... calm her down, connect with her, then make her more horny to try to override the amount of crazy

now if you were seriously a giant dickhead to her, just appologise, but I wouldn't bring it up unless she did, and if she does, just say something like, yeah.. sorry if I hurt your feelings, I was having a shitty day and you got caught in the firestorm of rage, you better watch your self who knows what I might do, IM OUT OF FUCKING CONTROL (then kiss her on the cheek and walk away)

^or something similar to that, but really I would avoid bringing it up and just act like it didn't even happen

next is, you are not realizing how mad needy you are in this situation, why do you have to get this girl anyways man?, step back from this, a freeze out isn't to ''get the girl'' you just don't need her plain and simple, why do you want to try so hard?, seducing this girl should be fun and easy, just have fun with her, sit down, start hitting on her, and make out, if she is not down with that, you either need to get to know her better and make her more horny, or you just have to go find another girl and not sweat it

if you like this girl then go for her, if she is raging pissed off at you, then she is being weird and over-reacting, don't treat it like it is some big deal, if she can't handle a few words then she is being a baby and you should find a different girl who is cooler

GOOD LUCK
Author:  thespikez [ Sat Mar 10, 2012 12:02 pm ]
Post subject: 
I was drunk like shit !!! so this is all that i remember.I was so drunk last night i sended 2 messages to my teacher at 5 am in the morning.

The party went like this ,The girls got drunk from the first half hour so she showed alot of intrest i stoped talking to her and she come near me and hugs me and i put my arm around her and we sit like that for few minutes.An hour later she is like a whore she dances with all the guys ,we danced a little and then she sits alone like a sad person i go near her ask whats wrong and she said she doesnt like the song and she refused me to dance.After that i kinda got drunk i started making anything i want....
the police came and i kinda got in a little fight with one of them.. cause i was drunk and yelling and i kinda won the fight.
She comes to see what happend with the police and asks me what happend and i said "not of your bussines " and went back in the club ( The club was only ours for the rest of the night).
THIS is the bad thing of the night i was talking with a friend and she asks something and i made her bitch or something like that and she SLAPS me in front of the whole room , after that i dont talk to her like 2 hours and i sit down at the bar and she comes near me and asks if i am mad for the slap.And i kinda was cause i sent her away then a bit later we talk and hug and she shows alot of intrest and i try to k-close her witch i fail. The fact that she is a bitch and shows intrest in everyone, but i felt special cause she kinda acted like my Girlfriend a bit , after i tried to k close her she moves away and sits down with a friend of her,i was drunk like shit after that and forgot everything.
MY FRIEND TOLD ME I AT 6 AM IN THE MORNING I WANTED IN THE CLUB TO PARTY MORE lol.

So we were drunk last night.
Today we will meet for a coffe , me and my friend she and her friends,idk how i should act when we met but i think it's the moment to move one i tried 3 or 4 k Close and she pulled away.
-Anyway should i keep trying?
-Should i give a shit about last night?
-Should i talk to her?

Waiting for advice thanks
Author:  pumpington [ Sat Mar 10, 2012 12:33 pm ]
Post subject: 
what do you want?, do you want to keep trying?, do you think a different girl would suite you better?, do you like her?, is she cool?, was last night a big deal to you?, did you have fun last night?, do you want to talk to her?
Author:  thespikez [ Sat Mar 10, 2012 2:57 pm ]
Post subject: 
I dont know what i really want but i like her and i want to keep trying but i wont go for a K-close again cause already tried like 5 times i have no idea how to get it on with her
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