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Author:  archer-x [ Tue Mar 06, 2012 10:37 pm ]
Post subject:  One-itis + major mind loss
Well, I'll try to make it short.

I met a girl, she texted me, we went out a couple of times (or rather, I came to her "party type things" on weekends few times) She had a boyfriend, but we still had a good time, and after one of these parties, we made out, in a very "romantic disney crap" kinda way, we didn't have sex because of 2 reasons, there were other people everywhere in the apartment. ( I mean we slept in a bed with 2 more people) and she might be a virgin (not sure)
Next morning was a little awkward, but we stayed in touch, she caught a cold or smthn, so we didn't meet, but we SPAM a bit. And during that week she broke up with her boyfriend.

Since the break up I went out with her on two dates.
After the first one, a strange thing happened, she told me that she "feels pressure, as if she has to decide whether she has to be with me or not"
I told her, that "there shouldn't be any pressure, because I don't need her to promise herself to me, right now I just want to get to know you more, have few dates and some fun" - she smiled and told me that it sound like a plan.
On the second one, we came over to her place, where we made out and almost had sex, but didn't 'cause I had to go away (personal matters, I explained to her, that she is gorgeous, but there is just no way I can stay/ I had to pick my kid brother up from the airport, and he had to stay at my place, since the parents are out of town, I was kinda babysitting)

Now its kinda awkward. One day later (our last date was friday), sunday I texted her "good luck at the new job yada yada" (since she went to her new workplace) , she answered but seemed kinda distant... On monday I gave her a call, she seemed really warm and bubbly... I might be over thinking this, but I just can't figure out why she is not calling or texting me? Since our last date, I'm the only one initiating conversations.

And yeah, I'm probably over thinking this stuff, and doing a lot of AFC mistakes. But this girl just gives me major one-itis, I want to make this work.
So what should I do? Should I just wait out and kinda play it cold, or should I stop over analyzing and just ask her out tomorrow.

Thanks for reading this, hope you'll help me get my mind back in the game
Author:  Costa-T [ Tue Mar 06, 2012 10:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: One-itis + major mind loss
Quote:

And yeah, I'm probably over thinking this stuff, and doing a lot of AFC mistakes. But this girl just gives me major one-itis, I want to make this work.
So what should I do? Should I just wait out and kinda play it cold, or should I stop over analyzing and just ask her out tomorrow.

Thanks for reading this, hope you'll help me get my mind back in the game
Okay so i've read your story and i know what you're going through, im assuming you are 16-18.. Anyways at this point i would say that you are very close to messing things up because that's why i messed mine up with some girl and trust me knowing that it's your fault SUCKS and i wish i was in your situation now because i'd do things differently. So you're saying she has gone all cold right? VERY GOOD, drop everything don't say anything to her just out of the blue STOP contacting her, she might be needing sometime and space so just back off, and trust me she will text you ina few days and ask why you stopped so you simply say just been busy with this and that. Girls like attention but too much attention will push them away. So be careful on what you do next, my biggest advice is to stop contact for NOW and she will text you in a few days :)
Author:  cunning_stunt [ Wed Mar 07, 2012 12:16 am ]
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If you contacting her, you should be doing it with a view to making your next arrangement. If she ducks out.. then you have a problem.

Leave it for a bit, then call and make fun of her dissapearing act.. make her feel a bit silly for not contacting you (dont be hard or sound pissed off,, be light and funny about it) and then tell her you are taking her somwhere fun.
If she hesitates say 'you like fun stuff.. right?' she should say 'yes'. so then say 'good' and then arrange to meet.
Be a bit caveman and show her you are a fun guy.
Author:  archer-x [ Wed Mar 07, 2012 12:26 am ]
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thanks guys, you put my mind at ease
I'll wait then and maybe ask her out friday, will depend on the situation
Author:  Kathleen1980 [ Wed Mar 07, 2012 8:51 pm ]
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if you notice that her reaction to you is very different to you from one day to the other with no obvius reason (bubbley on one, distant on the other) it might be that she isnt over her relationship- the "bubbly moments" are the rebound moments when she simply wants to fill the void that has been left. i wouldnt contact her and just see what happens, that will be more revealing than asking her out..
Author:  Cognizant1 [ Wed Mar 07, 2012 8:56 pm ]
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Quote:
If you contacting her, you should be doing it with a view to making your next arrangement. If she ducks out.. then you have a problem.

Leave it for a bit, then call and make fun of her dissapearing act.. make her feel a bit silly for not contacting you (dont be hard or sound pissed off,, be light and funny about it) and then tell her you are taking her somwhere fun.
If she hesitates say 'you like fun stuff.. right?' she should say 'yes'. so then say 'good' and then arrange to meet.
Be a bit caveman and show her you are a fun guy.
What he said.
Author:  Br3ezy [ Tue Jul 17, 2012 3:26 am ]
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Hey I'm having a similar problem regarding one-itis with someone at work. The worst part is, everything was going fine until I started overthinking things which made me realize I need to chill out, but I still can't seem to get over this one-itis :s
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