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Author:  bartm [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 3:11 am ]
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today i was at the dollar store and this girl was telling someone "the show is scripted, I am not really a bitch"
so I asked "oh you are on tv? who are you" she said she is some character on one of those reality shows...millionaire matchmaker or american matchmaker or something?
I said "oh, I dont watch those shows, those shows are stupid" (my honest opinion, a problem that I have is I am blatantly honest, if i dont like someone, I will tell them)
she said "Well I make a lot of money so I am happy"
I was going to say "oh so that's why you are at the dollar store"...but i didnt, i just left because i was honestly too scared, I had never talked to a girl who was that hot, she was easily a 9.
anyway, my question is, did I subconciously neg her?
Author:  thewarrior07 [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 3:23 am ]
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Maybe. Many veterans will tell you negs are for beginners. I've come to agree with this recently. Building up your self esteem and empowering women is much more powerful than bringing them down.

What you did was probably more along the lines of brutal honesty. Girls love it when you have a strong opinion you don't back down from. Especially when they get annoyed with you for it at first and you still don't back down. Its usually a subconscious shit test to see if you will hold your frame.

Required listening: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fCpHHJAk_zE
Author:  Snarg [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 3:26 am ]
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I really do agree that it's far more effective to empower a woman than to bring her down. No one likes to be brought down like that, even if they know you're joking.

Read this: dishing-it-out-vt129949.html
Author:  DJ_Z [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 3:47 am ]
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You are still a dumbass. Mocking a woman isn't negging her. A neg is a negative compliment. A neg is saying "you're gorgeous, its' a shame you're not my type." You say something nice, then add something slightly negative. You just insulted a woman repeatedly. And since you didn't actually GET anywhere with her, don't pretend you did something good. If you can't say hi to a woman, you won't get anywhere. If the only things you can say to women are negative...maybe you hate women, and that's a bad thing.
Author:  bartm [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 3:55 am ]
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You are still a dumbass. Mocking a woman isn't negging her. A neg is a negative compliment. A neg is saying "you're gorgeous, its' a shame you're not my type." You say something nice, then add something slightly negative. You just insulted a woman repeatedly. And since you didn't actually GET anywhere with her, don't pretend you did something good. If you can't say hi to a woman, you won't get anywhere. If the only things you can say to women are negative...maybe you hate women, and that's a bad thing.
well I am not going to lie, you are right, i hate women. I just realized that many of my problems are because of this.
Author:  Snarg [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 3:57 am ]
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Does it really make sense for you to be in the pickup scene, then?

That's like going to school to become a veterinarian when you hate animals.
Author:  DJ_Z [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 3:59 am ]
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Oh christ, here we go.

Hating women is bad, there's nothing redeeming in saying that you are doing something wrong and not trying to fix it. Nobody with an ounce of intelligence will respect you for "telling it like it is." Fact is you dont' want to improve, because that would involve admitting that 99% of your problems are your own fault. Either show some balls for once and actually try to solve your problems or live in a cave.
Author:  bartm [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 4:22 am ]
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Does it really make sense for you to be in the pickup scene, then?

That's like going to school to become a veterinarian when you hate animals.
Ya I dont know.
for example when I go to the store and the manager is a woman, I get pissed off. if its a guy, I will have a lot of respect for him....so I dont know....
so does this mean I am gay?
Author:  Snarg [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 4:25 am ]
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No, but it means you're a misogynist. So you'd might as well be gay since you'll never find a woman.
Author:  bartm [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 4:42 am ]
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Oh christ, here we go.

Hating women is bad, there's nothing redeeming in saying that you are doing something wrong and not trying to fix it. Nobody with an ounce of intelligence will respect you for "telling it like it is." Fact is you dont' want to improve, because that would involve admitting that 99% of your problems are your own fault. Either show some balls for once and actually try to solve your problems or live in a cave.
i do want to solve my problems but dont know how.
Author:  Threadless [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 6:39 am ]
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You sound bitter to the extreme man, which means you're probably projecting negative vibes. My guess is that you have higher priorities than women at the moment. Do what it takes to find a positive outlook.
Author:  Cognizant1 [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 7:36 am ]
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Maybe. Many veterans will tell you negs are for beginners. I've come to agree with this recently. Building up your self esteem and empowering women is much more powerful than bringing them down.

What you did was probably more along the lines of brutal honesty. Girls love it when you have a strong opinion you don't back down from. Especially when they get annoyed with you for it at first and you still don't back down. Its usually a subconscious shit test to see if you will hold your frame.

Required listening: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fCpHHJAk_zE
You sir, are absolutely correct. Negs may work with naive girls and those with low self-esteem, but to most other women they are a sign of immaturity and just downright obnoxious.
Author:  silverito [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 9:09 pm ]
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You are still a dumbass. Mocking a woman isn't negging her. A neg is a negative compliment. A neg is saying "you're gorgeous, its' a shame you're not my type." You say something nice, then add something slightly negative. You just insulted a woman repeatedly. And since you didn't actually GET anywhere with her, don't pretend you did something good. If you can't say hi to a woman, you won't get anywhere. If the only things you can say to women are negative...maybe you hate women, and that's a bad thing.
What the hell are you talking about? He merely said he did not like those reality shows (he did not even say he did not like that particular show of hers, just in general).
Its not an insult. And certainly not "repeatedly"
Author:  pickup_73 [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 11:51 pm ]
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Let me ask you this... WHY do you hate women?

did you have a bad past experience with them that made you embarrassed or something?

Did they pick on you in high school or along those lines?

Not all women are who you think they are, yes some can be bitches, but that doesn't mean all of them are...

I find it highly ignorant to judge any kind of women before you get to know them(as in your manager example)

To solve your problems, you have to first find what caused them and then think more in depth to the underlying meaning of why you are thinking on that level...

good luck
Author:  Midrange [ Fri Mar 02, 2012 1:15 am ]
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why is this thread titled "omg, the power of negging"?

all you did was say you didn't like a TV show, and then walk away. wtf? :lol:
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