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| Author: | deluosuo [ Sun Feb 26, 2012 10:51 am ] |
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tl;dr: So my gf of 8 months, with low level of attraction doesn't tell me shit of what she's up to. So..should I tell her what I'm up to even when I leave town for a week? Or seems too much in purpose to get back at her? --- Posted this on shark's blog, would also love to get you guy's opinion. Have a gf for ... about 8 months. I've been always that cared the most about the relationship. For a while went well, but she wouldn't want to meet that much. She would meet sometimes, and we would have some good times and get quite ok rapport. But it's always been only or 'just ok' or 'horribly bad'. There was nothing in the middle, and i was beta. She never had too much interest in me but I rationalized it because "she was busy" with exams and what not, but this last 2 months it's been...much worse than ever. Her attraction level is damn low even though I started doing some 'not so beta' stuff. She's totally careless. And rapport.. never got too high in the first place anyways. I'm very lost, and I should dump her. But my oneitis is not over yet. If I try to be as positive as I can be....fighting to get over this oneitis and try to get a "busy girl" to feel attracted for me can always be a good practice for my game. I have to say I've improved a lot. I'm not as beta, unluckily not even close to alpha yet. The oneitis is still there. But hey... I cannot improve in one night. Anyways, I got no better girl right now to go to, so I'm not gonna just break up just now, I'll get a little more distant, try to get other girls to like me, and if something better comes up, I'm taking it. My question is for before that happens. She never really tells me what she's up to. Like, she might leave town(we live in the same city) and don't even tell me. I always end up knowing from other people(I know there's no cheating, it's just that she works on film sets and has to leave once in a while.) Sometimes she knows I now or tells me a few days after she's outside of town, but doesn't tell me when she's back. I told her to tell me this kind of shit(when i was a massive beta) and ended up her telling me even less. Actually even before that I talked about how we needed more communication and all that stuff...totally backfired... 1st time I said it worked for 2 days, then she stopped communicating. A few months later said it again, and that backfired inmediatly. Beta, beta, beta. Well, now that you're more or less aware of the crap situation(and you will be asking yourself "dude, why the hell are you still with her"), my question[knowing this might help for future relationships(at least i learn stuff from this crap relationship)...] is: I will leave town for a week or more. Also film related. Should I even tell her? She will end up finding out, or she might even ask and I will tell her. Does it look beta because it seems like a "ha, take that" or "that'll show ya" trying to get back at her kind of thing? Or is it fine because I don't give a crap? Been thinking for a while it might be a little trying to create mistery too much on purpose. Or should I tell her "I'm going to blabla-place for a while to film stuff" and say nothing else? she will just wish me good luck and i go away for a week and work on my stuff? I just cannot really imagine what could be her reaction to each possibility(there are a million) I mean.. I could be for years thinking of things that could happen. So... any opinions on the matter? -------- One little adittion... I wanted to test her out very recently(when everything was crap, so I almost expected she wouldn't do it) to do some investment for me. And she did it. I'm a foreigner and she's a mix, but she's kind of local. I speak the language very well, but the health system here is crazy and I don't understand anything about medical terms or vocabulary. So I told her to come and help me. I was not weak, nor beta nor sick this day... it was just to check some small problem... I was not playing sick, weak, "please, like me because i need saving" kind of thing. No problem, it's a little skin problem that needed to get checked out and i really needed to understand what the doctor says. Well, she waited in line, did all freaking horrible paperwork for me, even solved some problems that would have been a pain in the ass to solve(problem with paperwork), talked to the doctor, helped me explain the problem, helped me explain the diagnosis, and get the SPAM. She was still a little cold and distant, but.. she slept only 3 hours to be able to come to help me. So I cannot be sure about that. Then she left to do her own stuff she had to do and I left for my own stuff. Anyways...that was, in my opinion, quite an investment. I gave her my approval(haven't done that in AGES since she hasn't done anything nice for a while) and.. yeah, that's how it ended. Then she went again to the "busy" frame again. Just wanted to add this that just happened. ---- Cheers!! |
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| Author: | pumpington [ Sun Feb 26, 2012 11:14 am ] |
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are you having sex with this girl?, or is she just your oneitis? |
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| Author: | deluosuo [ Sun Feb 26, 2012 1:04 pm ] |
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Quote: are you having sex with this girl?, or is she just your oneitis?
She's a massive oneitis. I'm doing better now, got my own stuff to do so I'm quite busy. Haven't gone all the way with her, in those 8 months have met VERY little. Dunno if it counts, but she's east asian, so the relationship is important before doing it. But yeah, before I started being not so massive beta with her she already lost most attraction, that's where I've been stuck for a while. |
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| Author: | pumpington [ Sun Feb 26, 2012 1:12 pm ] |
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Quote: Quote: are you having sex with this girl?, or is she just your oneitis?
She's a massive oneitis. I'm doing better now, got my own stuff to do so I'm quite busy. Haven't gone all the way with her, in those 8 months have met VERY little. Dunno if it counts, but she's east asian, so the relationship is important before doing it. But yeah, before I started being not so massive beta with her she already lost most attraction, that's where I've been stuck for a while. |
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