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Author:  Pedey [ Sat Feb 25, 2012 3:01 am ]
Post subject:  Loss of Interest
What up y'all

This is my first time on here, but I figured no better place to go, eh? :lol:

I have an issue with this chica and I need some aid from the pros, so here goes:

This chick had been into me and dropped her number to me on fb. She gave it to me, so I took the initiative and texted her about 30 min after I got it. Thank God I did too because she invited me out to the bar that night.

Night went smoothly, played a great game; lots of negging and I finally got her away from her friends. Good thing too cuz it was her friend's 21st. I told her we should get out of there and go to another bar where we could actually hear each other and have a drink, she agreed.

We bounced and eventually ended up back at my place (only told her she could stay for 20 min or so mind you :wink: ) To make this story short now, we ended up making out and she stayed the night. I know it could've escalated further sexually, but I didn't wanna push it as I'm really into this girl. We hung out again a couple nights later, but she had to bounce early and I wasn't about to try to push it there either...but now I'm thinking maybe I should have.

Past couple of days, I couldn't get her to text me back really. I know she's in to me and everything and I have a couple of theories as to what's going through her head, but I need some advice on how to capitalize here and turn this around in my favor. Anyone have any thoughts on what I should do?

My initial thought was a freezeout and to cut all contact with her til she's fighting for my attention again, but I wanted to solicit other opinions as well
Author:  EddieFews [ Sat Feb 25, 2012 3:51 am ]
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You don't have to freeze out dude you just have to let her find her way back to you.. Let her be..

And just a side note; if a girl comes back to your place after a night of drinking, you better believe she wants some.. For you to claim your really into her so you didn't want to sleep with her is just foolish.. You've only known her for a night at that point, how could you possibly know enough to be really into her.

Girls in touch with they're emotions do not have casual sex, and she was all ready for it on night one.. Not someone you could build a family with now is she? Cut that silly I like her so much on the first night stuff out. You don't know nearly enough to make that decision just yet..

If a girl comes home with you bang her or don't touch her at all... All that excess making out without a close just lowers the tension, thus lowering the attraction.
Author:  Pedey [ Sat Feb 25, 2012 2:05 pm ]
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What had me stumped I guess about what to do is that this girl actually follows pick up culture for a hobby. I worried that I probably needed to change things up a bit or something.

She kept saying things like "Oh, I don't make out on night one" and things like that, which I realize is a rationality for a girl to say so that they don't look like a slut, but when you're with a girl that has read Neil Strauss' The Game 3 times, you begin to question that what you're doing is the right thing to do when you are gaming[/u]
Author:  Imar [ Sat Feb 25, 2012 2:22 pm ]
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It's an excellent topic to talk about and make it sexual. Just ask why she does not make out the first night. It's a gift straight from heaven!
Author:  EddieFews [ Sat Feb 25, 2012 2:48 pm ]
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It's an excellent topic to talk about and make it sexual. Just ask why she does not make out the first night. It's a gift straight from heaven!
Never use the word "why" when asking a girl a question.. It's annoying because your questioning they're character..

Always use "How"..

And to the OP, I don't care what a girl has done, I'm not switching up what I would normally do. I am who I am and if it doesn't work with her i'll just bring home another girl at the same bar. Always do YOU.. Never worry about what a girl may be thinking. They're irrational, you could never understand they're thoughts anyway..
Author:  pumpington [ Sat Feb 25, 2012 2:52 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Loss of Interest
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What up y'all

This is my first time on here, but I figured no better place to go, eh? :lol:

I have an issue with this chica and I need some aid from the pros, so here goes:

This chick had been into me and dropped her number to me on fb. She gave it to me, so I took the initiative and texted her about 30 min after I got it. Thank God I did too because she invited me out to the bar that night.

Night went smoothly, played a great game; lots of negging and I finally got her away from her friends. Good thing too cuz it was her friend's 21st. I told her we should get out of there and go to another bar where we could actually hear each other and have a drink, she agreed.

We bounced and eventually ended up back at my place (only told her she could stay for 20 min or so mind you :wink: ) To make this story short now, we ended up making out and she stayed the night. I know it could've escalated further sexually, but I didn't wanna push it as I'm really into this girl. We hung out again a couple nights later, but she had to bounce early and I wasn't about to try to push it there either...but now I'm thinking maybe I should have.

Past couple of days, I couldn't get her to text me back really. I know she's in to me and everything and I have a couple of theories as to what's going through her head, but I need some advice on how to capitalize here and turn this around in my favor. Anyone have any thoughts on what I should do?

My initial thought was a freezeout and to cut all contact with her til she's fighting for my attention again, but I wanted to solicit other opinions as well
the bolded is the wrong idea, and shows the wrong intent to her, if you really like her you would want to give her some sex, as that is what she wanted or she would not have come to your house and invited you out, not escalating ruins things and she doesn't get what she wants and eventually loses interest

she wants to get laid and have it ''just happen'', but resist along the way and play hard to get so it is more stimulating for her, expect lmr, but don't reject a girl from having sex with you, when that is clearly what she wants, you will only regret not taking the opportunity when the window was open, especially once the window closes,

the more invested in you, you can get a girl the sooner, the better
it is more likely if there is a connection that she will backwards rationalize that you are special to her if she sleeps with you, rather then you are special because you won't

you have to wait for her to come around and not be too pushy or clingy, or super over eager to get her out, you should move on to other things in the mean time to keep you busy and the next time you get an opportunity, take it, don't ''not risk it cause you really like it'', take the risk, you have to be willing to lose the girl to get her, just keep in mind and remember she wants to fuck you, but all girls have anxiety about having sex the first time with someone just like you get approach anxiety (you can push through it and make it a non-issue but the feeling still exists), don't feel like you have to do some amazing special tricks or trick a girl into getting her to want to sleep with you, chances are she wanted to from the get go and the longer you wait the more impatient she gets and loses intrest as there are other guys out there that will gladly sleep with her
Author:  Imar [ Sat Feb 25, 2012 3:00 pm ]
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It's an excellent topic to talk about and make it sexual. Just ask why she does not make out the first night. It's a gift straight from heaven!
Never use the word "why" when asking a girl a question.. It's annoying because your questioning they're character..

Always use "How"..

And to the OP, I don't care what a girl has done, I'm not switching up what I would normally do. I am who I am and if it doesn't work with her i'll just bring home another girl at the same bar. Always do YOU.. Never worry about what a girl may be thinking. They're irrational, you could never understand they're thoughts anyway..
You can use why if it comes across as a question of open general interest. You get to know the girl somewhat better and it is about sex. And you don't have to agree with all of her personal perspectives on life. If she can't handle that, she has some serious personal issues.
Author:  EddieFews [ Sat Feb 25, 2012 3:03 pm ]
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It's an excellent topic to talk about and make it sexual. Just ask why she does not make out the first night. It's a gift straight from heaven!
Never use the word "why" when asking a girl a question.. It's annoying because your questioning they're character..

Always use "How"..

And to the OP, I don't care what a girl has done, I'm not switching up what I would normally do. I am who I am and if it doesn't work with her i'll just bring home another girl at the same bar. Always do YOU.. Never worry about what a girl may be thinking. They're irrational, you could never understand they're thoughts anyway..
You can use why if it comes across as a question of open general interest.
"whys" are almost always followed up by " IDk" when asked to a women.. I don't know how experienced you are but go give it a shot.

You can turn that same why question into a how question and get a completely different answer. And answer you can use to carry the conversation further.

Make a List of good "why" questions and then good "How" questions and see the difference
Author:  Imar [ Sat Feb 25, 2012 3:45 pm ]
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Never use the word "why" when asking a girl a question.. It's annoying because your questioning they're character..

Always use "How"..

And to the OP, I don't care what a girl has done, I'm not switching up what I would normally do. I am who I am and if it doesn't work with her i'll just bring home another girl at the same bar. Always do YOU.. Never worry about what a girl may be thinking. They're irrational, you could never understand they're thoughts anyway..
You can use why if it comes across as a question of open general interest.
"whys" are almost always followed up by " IDk" when asked to a women.. I don't know how experienced you are but go give it a shot.

You can turn that same why question into a how question and get a completely different answer. And answer you can use to carry the conversation further.

Make a List of good "why" questions and then good "How" questions and see the difference
It has to do with timing. How questions are for people you just encountered, why questions are important to establish the idea of mutual recognition.
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