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Author:  getwit [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 2:48 pm ]
Post subject:  Handshakes
I'm a fairly well built guy so I always give a strong handshake to another man when possible. When another guy talks about how strong your handshake is, it's always a good thing in my opinion.

However, with regards to females, do you think a strong handshake or a gentle handshake would convey more value to them?

I know this may be something fairly trivial, but I'm curious as to how you guys feel on the topic.

Thanks
Author:  Defy [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 3:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Handshakes
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I'm a fairly well built guy so I always give a strong handshake to another man when possible. When another guy talks about how strong your handshake is, it's always a good thing in my opinion.

However, with regards to females, do you think a strong handshake or a gentle handshake would convey more value to them?

I know this may be something fairly trivial, but I'm curious as to how you guys feel on the topic.

Thanks
This is not trivial at all. So many people (both men and women) have "dead fish" handshake.

Use firm handshake with both guys and girls, look them in the eyes and smile.
Author:  NaturesFoulChild [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 4:52 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Handshakes
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I'm a fairly well built guy so I always give a strong handshake to another man when possible. When another guy talks about how strong your handshake is, it's always a good thing in my opinion.

However, with regards to females, do you think a strong handshake or a gentle handshake would convey more value to them?

I know this may be something fairly trivial, but I'm curious as to how you guys feel on the topic.

Thanks
This is not trivial at all. So many people (both men and women) have "dead fish" handshake.

Use firm handshake with both guys and girls, look them in the eyes and smile.
Also, don't let go first.

This is great on many levels, as not only it shows dominance, but it also gives you an idea about the initial level of attraction - does she let go of your hand quickly, or does she still hold it while you two are talking?
Author:  Defy [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 5:06 pm ]
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I agree on the letting go thing if you are meeting the girl for the first time. This is so money in the field, I think I read it from 60 the first time.

As for showing dominance, holding your hand on top of someone's and things like that, it's all crap which you don't need. Firm handshake with a smile shows confidence and that is what you want. Not dominance. Dominance comes from scarcity frame.
Author:  Snarg [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 5:14 pm ]
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Like Defy said, don't do the dominating thing with women. But as a sidenote, I strongly advise to do that kind of thing in a business setting under the proper circumstances (by proper, I mean you shouldn't try to dominate your boss, etc).
Author:  NaturesFoulChild [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 5:17 pm ]
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As for showing dominance, holding your hand on top of someone's and things like that, it's all crap which you don't need. Firm handshake with a smile shows confidence and that is what you want. Not dominance. Dominance comes from scarcity frame.
I agree.

I only mentioned dominance because I think I read somewhere that the extended handshake also shows that. But even so, that's just like a side effect.
Author:  titanman [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 5:41 pm ]
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If you do the dominant handshake on top thing, some people know about it and how to counteract it and if they do you'll come away feeling rather silly.

Stick to the normal hand shake, at all times.
Author:  jurupa [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 9:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Handshakes
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I'm a fairly well built guy so I always give a strong handshake to another man when possible. When another guy talks about how strong your handshake is, it's always a good thing in my opinion.
Too strong of a hand shake is actually a bad thing. If they are saying something about it, it is most probably too strong.
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However, with regards to females, do you think a strong handshake or a gentle handshake would convey more value to them?s
I always do a firm handshake no matter if it's a girl or guy.
Author:  getwit [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 10:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Handshakes
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I'm a fairly well built guy so I always give a strong handshake to another man when possible. When another guy talks about how strong your handshake is, it's always a good thing in my opinion.
Too strong of a hand shake is actually a bad thing. If they are saying something about it, it is most probably too strong.
Quote:
However, with regards to females, do you think a strong handshake or a gentle handshake would convey more value to them?s
I always do a firm handshake no matter if it's a girl or guy.
how do you figure?

i have a guy at work who gives the most forceful handshakes i have ever encountered.

people always bring it up in a joking manner and he shrugs it off as if he's not trying to be strong. It definitely elevates his value in that setting in the sense that you can tell that every single guy adjusts his handshake with him to seem stronger
Author:  jurupa [ Thu Feb 23, 2012 5:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Handshakes
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I'm a fairly well built guy so I always give a strong handshake to another man when possible. When another guy talks about how strong your handshake is, it's always a good thing in my opinion.
Too strong of a hand shake is actually a bad thing. If they are saying something about it, it is most probably too strong.
Quote:
However, with regards to females, do you think a strong handshake or a gentle handshake would convey more value to them?s
I always do a firm handshake no matter if it's a girl or guy.
how do you figure?

i have a guy at work who gives the most forceful handshakes i have ever encountered.

people always bring it up in a joking manner and he shrugs it off as if he's not trying to be strong. It definitely elevates his value in that setting in the sense that you can tell that every single guy adjusts his handshake with him to seem stronger
First off no one wants their hand to be crushed so just out of physical pain no one wants a handshake that will hurt them. Secondly too strong of a handshake can mean your too aggressive or overbearing etc. Not a good thing. To quote a CareerBuilder article:
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1. “I get it, you’re stronger than me.”
Your hand is not trying to wring all the juice from a lemon, so please don’t attempt to crush every bone in the other person’s hand—it just makes you look like you’re trying to prove yourself.

2. “Oww!”
An overeager shaker can catch the other person by surprise, so by the time the handshake starts, you’ve got one person grabbing on to four fingers. It’s awkward, yes, and painful for the person whose four fingers are being cracked.
This deals with the business handshake but never the less it applies outside of the business world as well.
Author:  lolaskate [ Fri Feb 24, 2012 9:54 am ]
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We'll the way I do a handshake, is try and keep them as similar as possible to the girl.

By that I mean, match her strength no more no less.
Don't try and get your hand on top of her hand, both perpendicular to the floor.
Eye contact.
Don't let go first (mentioned a few times, a sexual tension thing)

Doing everything as similar as her, will create maximum rapport, the eye contact and not letting go first, build sexual tension. But a good starting for escalation, especially right from when you meet a person.
Author:  jacoboram75 [ Fri Feb 24, 2012 11:57 am ]
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it's all crap which you don't need. Firm handshake with a smile shows confidence and that is what you want. Not dominance. Dominance comes from scarcity frame.

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