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Author:  itisme [ Sun Feb 19, 2012 7:39 am ]
Post subject:  Making up for rushing her
Ok.. so I met this girl at that club tonight, we had a lot of fun. The whole night she'd seek my company and once even got a little jealous when I started a little chat with another girl. She also let me guide her by her hand. I finally got to drive her and her friends home. When we were the only two left in my car, we parked in front of her house and still chatted for a little while until it was time for her to go. I asked her whether I'd get a kiss and she gave me a peck on my lips stating that this was a little rushed.

Now, from my point of view that's ok. She's one of those very decent girls who won't make out with a guy the same night they get to know him for sure.

However, since something similar has already happened to me and it didn't turn out too well my alarm bells are already ringing...

Unfortunately, I also forgot about bringing up some future event where we could meet again, so I'm pretty much left with nothing but wondering: how should I proceed?

Thanks for your thoughts on that,

me.
Author:  itisme [ Sun Feb 19, 2012 10:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Making up for rushing her
Ok... Apparently I clearly screwed things up here...

Texted her that I really enjoyed the evening and that I'd like to repeat it some day a couple of hourse ago. No response.

I know that trying to "force" a kiss by asking whether I'd get a kiss from her was a pretty stupid thing to do. No, it's probably the most stupidestestest thing you CAN do in such a situation... But did that really destroy everything? Before that we sat in the car next to each other and she didn't want to get out; - she also made me save her phone number to my phone as she was getting out of the car... Erm... help? Is this beyond repair?
Author:  Snarg [ Sun Feb 19, 2012 10:17 pm ]
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The whole kissing thing was bad and made it look like you have no confidence. But that's definitely not going to make or break the deal. Are you sure the date went well? If she didn't reply to the followup date text, that's a horrible sign. Re-evaluate what happened that night and make sure there aren't any small details that would have caused her to become completely unattracted to you.
Author:  itisme [ Mon Feb 20, 2012 9:38 pm ]
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Ok... I was apparently just being paranoid...

She actually DID write back that she also enjoyed the evening and that I could come along next time they go out partying... now, I of course don't like the idea of her taking the lead so I thought of maybe inviting her to the movies during this week. On the other hand, I'm not really sure whether this is such a great dea... as I've already said, she seems to be more on the shy, "good-girl" side (she's different to the girls that I have been picking up in clubs; - many of them willing to make out with me and/or go even further [sex] the very same night we met). Maybe we should all go out clubbing again so I can get to know her a little better without putting too much pressure on her by trying to selude her from the others (==> inviting her to the movies)... Would trying to do stuff with her alone at this stage be ok or too pushy? What's your opinion on this?


Cheers,
me.
Author:  Snarg [ Tue Feb 21, 2012 2:38 am ]
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There's nothing wrong with doing something alone. I'm not sure movies are the best choice though. That's not only generic and uninspired, but also gives you absolutely zero opportunity to get to know each other more. You will make no progress with a movie so early on. Pick something fun to do. If it's warm where you live right now, take her to play putt-putt or something. Go dancing. Take her to a museum if that floats both of your boats. Just do something active and original.

If she's shy, that's all the more reason to do this kind of thing. Help break her out of her shell and she'll become extremely attracted to you. Good luck and let me know what happens.
Author:  DJ_Z [ Tue Feb 21, 2012 2:58 am ]
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1. There is nothing wrong with a girl who makes out or even fucks when they first meet a guy. We are out every night looking for sex, it is hypocrisy to look down on teh girls who actually go along with that plan.

2. You are already her bitch, and I could see it the moment I read "I finally got to drive her and her friend home." You said it like it was a reward to be able to chaffeur them around.

3. Pressure is bad, but tension is good. Pressure is lying, manipulation, force, etc. Tension is letting your sexuality be known. If you try to keep the physicality away to make her feel comfortable you will end up friendzoned.
Author:  TygaNasty [ Tue Feb 21, 2012 4:27 am ]
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There's nothing wrong with doing something alone. I'm not sure movies are the best choice though. That's not only generic and uninspired, but also gives you absolutely zero opportunity to get to know each other more. You will make no progress with a movie so early on. Pick something fun to do. If it's warm where you live right now, take her to play putt-putt or something. Go dancing. Take her to a museum if that floats both of your boats. Just do something active and original.

If she's shy, that's all the more reason to do this kind of thing. Help break her out of her shell and she'll become extremely attracted to you. Good luck and let me know what happens.
Don't listen to this guy. He has never taken a girl out to the movies early on so he thinks it's a nono. He's ignorant.

Anyways I've taken girls out on a movie early on, and those were the girls who I dated. You already have her isolated, assuming it's just you 2, so you can escalate things a lot faster.

For me, we would watch scary movies. Poor scary movies. That way we are both talking shit about how shitty the movie is and having our own laughs. You can even look around and see if other people are really into it and pick fun at them.
Author:  Snarg [ Tue Feb 21, 2012 5:06 am ]
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There's nothing wrong with doing something alone. I'm not sure movies are the best choice though. That's not only generic and uninspired, but also gives you absolutely zero opportunity to get to know each other more. You will make no progress with a movie so early on. Pick something fun to do. If it's warm where you live right now, take her to play putt-putt or something. Go dancing. Take her to a museum if that floats both of your boats. Just do something active and original.

If she's shy, that's all the more reason to do this kind of thing. Help break her out of her shell and she'll become extremely attracted to you. Good luck and let me know what happens.
Don't listen to this guy. He has never taken a girl out to the movies early on so he thinks it's a nono. He's ignorant.

Anyways I've taken girls out on a movie early on, and those were the girls who I dated. You already have her isolated, assuming it's just you 2, so you can escalate things a lot faster.

For me, we would watch scary movies. Poor scary movies. That way we are both talking shit about how shitty the movie is and having our own laughs. You can even look around and see if other people are really into it and pick fun at them.
Listen, I know you're upset that I called you out in another topic for being a know-nothing retard. I get it. But that's no reason to give this guy bad advice.

You seriously just told this guy to go see a bad movie. Are you fucking kidding me? I have no words.
Author:  pumpington [ Tue Feb 21, 2012 9:50 am ]
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^sticky from chief on the movie date

don't over think this, this girl likes you, take her out, kiss her, have a good time with her

also, all girls put on the ''good girl act'' it is a bunch of bullshit, they all love sex, they all love to makeout, but they all like to lie about it and put out an image of purity that doesn't exist, it is all smoke and mirrors, when girls say this kind of shit to you, never and I mean NEVER take it at face value, they all get horny just like the next person and want to get laid, just like the next person, I would believe that any girl would have sex with a guy in 1 day, if her ideal circumstances were permitted, and don't believe for a second they wouldn't, doesn't matter who the girl is, and that does not mean you will be meeting the qualifications for her ideal circumstances, just know that asd causes girls to tell you all kinds of lies so they can maintain a good clean pure self image, it is all bullshit

GOOD LUCK
Author:  itisme [ Tue Feb 21, 2012 11:05 pm ]
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Thanks guys for your advice!
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1. There is nothing wrong with a girl who makes out or even fucks when they first meet a guy. We are out every night looking for sex, it is hypocrisy to look down on teh girls who actually go along with that plan.
Don't know where you got this from.
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2. You are already her bitch, and I could see it the moment I read "I finally got to drive her and her friend home." You said it like it was a reward to be able to chaffeur them around.
That probably didn't come across right. I'm not "proud" of driving them home. It seemed a polite and natural thing to do, as we were all out together in the end, ending up at a coffeeshop at around 7 o'clock in the morning.
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2. You are already her bitch
Yep, I'm thinking a little too much about her and that's what's worrying me a bit.
Might be just because she DIDN'T go further with me like other girls, so maybe it's because she's more of a challenge... I dunno....

Thanks again!
If there's anyone else who feels like contributing, I'm happy to hear it! :)
Author:  EddieFews [ Tue Feb 21, 2012 11:20 pm ]
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I don't understand why any of you guys feel the need to take a girl out on a date lol .. I really don't understand that.
Author:  itisme [ Tue Feb 21, 2012 11:48 pm ]
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I don't understand why any of you guys feel the need to take a girl out on a date lol .. I really don't understand that.
It's funny... I was just having second thoughts about that...

especially since me trying to kiss her apparently was too fast for her, I doubt whether trying to isolate her on a one-on-one "date" would make things much better... or am I wrong here? @Fuze: What's YOUR opinion on this?
Author:  EddieFews [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 12:58 am ]
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I don't understand why any of you guys feel the need to take a girl out on a date lol .. I really don't understand that.
It's funny... I was just having second thoughts about that...

especially since me trying to kiss her apparently was too fast for her, I doubt whether trying to isolate her on a one-on-one "date" would make things much better... or am I wrong here? @Fuze: What's YOUR opinion on this?
I think your wayy too sucked in wayy to fast and are going to land in the friendzone before you can read the entire post if you keep it up..

From the looks of things you could of slept with her on night one if you played your cards right but you fell for the image she let you see after she realized you weren't the type of guy to escalate without some assistance on her part. All women try and cultivate and imagine of purity for a guy who could be a potential boyfriend, thats what men want after all right? A women who is pure and innocent.. Well sorry to burst you bubble but its 2012 and if a girl is at the club getting drunk, getting her party on and playing miss jealousy the odds are she's been ran through a couple of times. I'm just keeping it real with you dude, a girl at the club isn't what she says she is..
Author:  DJ_Z [ Wed Feb 22, 2012 1:47 am ]
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"She's one of those very decent girls who won't make out with a guy the same night they get to know him for sure"

That's where I got my first point.
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